i just got to know this, she passed away a month ago, i dont have any idea because of what, but i felt that my friend is most definitely still sad abt this. i have totally no idea how to console her. she's very important to me, to know that she's feeling sad & the fact that i could do nothing to help really sucks. please help!
2006-12-22 03:37:51 · 10 answers · asked by dr j 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
thanks guys for ur replies,
its christmas, i was wondering if i should u noe ask her out or wish her merry xmas or something, but im afraid that this probably wont be the best xmas she'll have, so should i or shouldnt i?
2006-12-24 04:55:35 · update #1
went i lost my mom earlier this year all i wanted was some one to talk to about her. but my pride stoped me from asking for someone to listen to me. and when i did talk my friend seemed uncomfortable about it. just offer to talk about it more than once because some days it hurts to much to say anything and some all you want to do is remember her. so ask if she want to talk every once in a while and if she starts to talk about it listen for as long as she wants to talk, don't judge. after my moms death i went through stages of sadness, blaming myself, anger, and regret. some days she Will feel different about her mom. just listen and be there when ever she want to talk. she may not now, but she will and very likely she won't come out and say it. if you see her really down offer to talk. that's really all you can do.
2006-12-22 03:48:28 · answer #1 · answered by nade63090 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Let her know this, that you are saddened by her grief and that you dont know how to console her. She will at the least appreciate your honesty and quite possibly lead you in the way that would best be a support and help to her. being available is much more advisable than being invisible.
2006-12-22 11:50:13 · answer #2 · answered by furiousstyles22003 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Lots of hugs and let her know you'll listen any time she wants to talk. My best friend lost her dad several years ago and it still makes her sad. Its a tough position for a friend.
2006-12-22 11:41:01 · answer #3 · answered by tabithap 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well, losing anything near or dear is hard so you should sit down with her and let her get her feelings out. All that she wants to get out ddont force her tell her that your so sorry and wish you could help and then take her out shopping or somthing she loves to do.
2006-12-22 11:43:36 · answer #4 · answered by Chelsey W 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
just say that you are sorry to know about her sad demise and appologise that u weren't around that time ask her to come to your place and send a evening together, cook a meal with her and have dinner together. remember don't mention death (or how it happened) when she arrives but be patient listener if she wants to talk about her mother.
God bless her.
2006-12-22 11:58:43 · answer #5 · answered by Raj 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
just be there for her. be sure to call her and see how she's doing. there's nothing you can instantly do to console her. it will take time for her to completely move on with her life. just make sure you stay by her side for the journey. that's all you can really do.
2006-12-22 11:42:03 · answer #6 · answered by reeree 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
just be there for Ur friend, let her know that u are there for her and that u will help her in anything she needs.
2006-12-22 12:56:39 · answer #7 · answered by RoseMary 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Being there helps. Just lend your ears and shoulders.
2006-12-22 11:44:35 · answer #8 · answered by Queen 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
1. don't mention it
2. a thinking of you card is great
3. invite to a nice quiet dinner
4. invite to movies
2006-12-22 11:40:15 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
just hang out - they need a friend
2006-12-22 11:40:41 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋