i am meeting a former co worker who is a mtf, i have not seen her in about 2 years, what can i do as to not be nervous around her? she was a good person to work around
2006-12-22 02:44:06 · 3 answers · asked by JOHN 2 in Society & Culture ➔ Cultures & Groups ➔ Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual, and Transgender
Become more concerned with her than you are with yourself.
Easy!
2006-12-22 02:46:49 · answer #1 · answered by sapphire_velvet 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I can't tell if she was presenting herself as a woman when you worked with her, or if you're one of the rare few who understand that once the pronouns are changed they're changed for good. Though I guess if you were working with her as a woman then you wouldn't be nervous now.
I would suggest thinkng out for yourself what is making you nervous. Are you worried how to act? Worried about saying something stupid? And then realize how silly it is. :) I'm not saying that to make fun of you or belittle you. But the biggest mistake people make is focusing on the trans part, instead of the other things in her life that make her an interesting person to be around. And since you already got the pronouns down I'd say you're a step ahead of most people.
What defines your co-worker isn't the fact that she's trans. It's all the other things that made her a good person to work around. So do what you do any other time you're meeting up with someone you haven't seen in a while. Catch up on what's been going on in your lives, and talk about what's going on now.
2006-12-22 10:58:15 · answer #2 · answered by Jen 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just be yourself. If you were comfortable with her before, why should you feel any different now. Pick a comfortable place to meet, have lunch, whatever and just chat. Relax. Have a pleasant time.
2006-12-25 17:11:59 · answer #3 · answered by reme_1 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋