Should a woman be upset when her husband doesn't come straight home from work, but instead chooses to help a friend fix his car? He and this particular friend work together everyday. When he finally comes home he hardly has any energy for his girl because he has to get up so early for work. What's going on here? Should the woman be upset? (by the way, they have only been married for a month)
2006-12-22 02:30:26 · 25 answers · asked by stella 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
This has been everyday since we have been married.
2006-12-22 02:42:41 · update #1
uh no he is helping a friend....what is the problem? She doesn't own him either for that metter. Maybe try telling him that she needs more time together. But to be upset about it, no...he isn't out cheating.
2006-12-22 02:33:44 · answer #1 · answered by Army Love 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It depends! If your husband does that everytime, excuses of not coming straight home after work directly, you should have the rights to be upset over him. But, if he helps his friends fixing his car, I don't think you should be upset. I mean how often does your husband fixes his friend's car? It can't be everyday, every week, every month? If it's pretty often, then, I think you should check on your husband to see if it's really the case. He might be doing something else which you are not aware of it. Again, if it's purely help, then, there is no reason to be upset. All the best!
2006-12-22 10:39:03 · answer #2 · answered by Inquirer 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes, she has the right to be upset. if he chooses to help a friend fix his car or whatever rather than going home to be with her, he needs to let her know IN ADVANCE. Being too tired for his girl is understandable since he's working during the week, but she still expects him home after work. He is married....so he needs to go home to his wife. Honestly.....when your married. YOUR MARRIED. that's just it. You can have friends, but hanging out with them when the wife expects you home is grounds for an argument. A husband is really not suppose to try & live like his bachelor life, making decisions on his own about what he's going to do after work. He needs to discuss with his wife first & she has to agree. The same for her too. That's just how it is. It's called COMMITMENT. If you don't understand it now, then you will never get it.
2006-12-22 10:41:57 · answer #3 · answered by sugarBear 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you've been married a month and this is the first time he's had to do something after work that didn't involve you, you need to count your blessings. They can't fix the car while they are at work now can they? If they are doing this every night--like restoring the car--again, you need to count your blessings--he's not out in bars.
Don't you have friends you'd like to see? Go do it--believe me in 20 years you'll be glad you have friends outside your marriage because you will still have your own identity.
Ease up. You're married, not co-joined twins!
2006-12-22 10:35:29 · answer #4 · answered by kathylouisehall 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think it's alright for a spouse not to come straight from home once in a while. Not on a consistent basis, especially if there is an understanding. I am a woman, and I feel that there are things that I can do after work which would allow me to come home late, hoping that my husband would understand. We must learn to give and take in a marriage.
2006-12-22 10:36:12 · answer #5 · answered by Special K 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
This is something you will get used to over the years ,My husband is all the time late coming home cause he is always helping a friend with something ,He is the type that can not say no ,
2006-12-22 10:38:37 · answer #6 · answered by Tara 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Good Grief people!!!! Why is he automatically cheating???
Some couples have a harder time adjusting to married life and it has nothing to do with cheating!!!
I know of one couple that first got married and it took months to adjust to being around each other "all the time".... Everyone is different!
The girl just needs to tell the husband how she is feeling and get it out in to open!!!!!!! Don't go on the defence from the get go!!
2006-12-22 12:07:28 · answer #7 · answered by bgirly 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You don't mention if it was an emergency fix or not, or if the friend is one he knew long before the marriage. I would explain in a calm tone that it upset you that he did not come home. Did he call? That would make a big difference.
2006-12-22 10:36:39 · answer #8 · answered by physandchemteach 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She has the right to be upset, although that might aggrivate the situation. Is he a kind soul just interested in helping a friend or might there be other things or problems involved. She should approach her husband in a calm manner and ask!
2006-12-22 10:34:05 · answer #9 · answered by dominicaquilino 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No... He came home right. It would be curtious for him to call his wife and tell her "hey Im gonna be home late, my friends car needs some work, and Im going to help" But if he didnt, the wife could always call him. I wouldnt be mad, I would just know that I married a decent human being willing to help a friend in need.
2006-12-22 10:33:51 · answer #10 · answered by Angel Eve 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋