2006-12-22 02:24:16 · 18 answers · asked by tracy l 1 in Society & Culture ➔ Cultures & Groups ➔ Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual, and Transgender
Nothing. You can't change him back, so accept him for what he is. He'll be grateful for some acceptance, believe me.
2006-12-22 02:26:43 · answer #1 · answered by kiwi 7 · 3⤊ 0⤋
The same you'd do for anyone else who is dealing with their "issues"--don't pry, don't meddle, but be helpful when you can.
The real "transgender" is either at, or working towards, a change of gender. He's not your kid, but he is family, so you don't have to harber the rage that some do when "the family name won't be carried on", but you can help that family member. What if, instead, he was depressed or morose at having lost an arm or a leg? How would you help then? So to you the question is, has he made the change, or is he still on the way?
If he has made the change but hides it when around family, try an encouraging get together and say, "Be the new you and I'll pick you up Saturday at eleven and buy your lunch." Then start the conversations like you would normally do, and set back and listen when he/she picks it up. You might be surprised, when normalcy kicks in, you might enjoy your new niece. But be discrete and don't say anything about it to the rest of the family any more than they already know.
2006-12-22 02:41:00 · answer #2 · answered by Rabbit 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If you and none of your family has any experience with this issue, then calling in an expert would be a good idea. PFLAG's Transgender Network can help you get in contact with someone in your area. I've used them many times to help transpeople find therapists in their area a couple of times and they've always come through for me and the individual that was struggling with their gender.
2006-12-22 21:14:54 · answer #3 · answered by carora13 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Have you tried to talk with him? Perhaps you can be the understanding, accepting, non-judging adult that he can seek advice or help from. Find out some info beforehand, maybe support groups, that he might attend. Just be supportive no matter what. Gay, straight, transgender, etc.-doesn't really matter, does it? He's still your nephew.
2006-12-22 02:29:01 · answer #4 · answered by Didi 3 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Support him. Ask him about it, but be open minded to what you may hear. Approach with caution, not for fear of anger or reprisal, but for his possible fear of rejection. If he is open to you, and tells you about some things, be prepared to hear things that (depending on your beliefs) may be difficult to hear. Be prepared that he may ask to be called by a female name, and to be referred to by the female pronoun. But above all, remember that he is your nephew, meaning he is your family, and that if he is indeed transgendered, that it is a part of him, not his identity. He is the same person, but is being more honest and truthful than if he stayed "male".
2006-12-22 02:32:42 · answer #5 · answered by echoofadragonsfire 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You do NOTHING.
PERIOD.
You only THINK, based on some intangible thing, that mayb, possibly, kinda he might be.
You don't know.
And even if he is, and you get undeniable proof of it, you still do NOTHING.
It is HIS life to lead how he wishes, not yours.
Well, maybe you could try to be a decent human being an accepting him as he is - the nephew you should still love regardless.
2006-12-22 02:28:10 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
How can you be unsure he is transgender?
By the very definition of the word, it means the person has already had the operation, and he would have been born your niece!
2006-12-22 05:12:09 · answer #7 · answered by Richard W 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You can learn a lot about yourself through how you treat him. If you accept him and love him unconditionally then you'll know what a good soul you have! I hope you make the right choice and don't try to change him. God bless and Merry Christmas!
2006-12-22 02:29:11 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
what do you mean what can you do? What makes you think that you need to do anything? maybe he is transgender maybe not.
2006-12-22 02:49:11 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If it's a recognized problem between both you and the parents, have him checked out by a psych dr to get to the bottom of it and see what can be done, if you want to do anything -- if the parents are oblivious, talk to them seriously and try to get them to recognize why you think your nephew might have this problem
2006-12-22 02:27:24 · answer #10 · answered by Bakes 2 · 0⤊ 4⤋
Love the heck out of your new niece
2006-12-22 12:18:55 · answer #11 · answered by ? 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋