My boyfriend's ex-wife will be at their daughter's Christmas concert today. I will be nervous because they are there seeing their daughter, but thank goodness not together. I want to impress her, letting her know that her ex-husband's girlfriend is extremely charming. How should I act around her and her husband that whom she is with now? I'm not sure if they'll even speak to eachother, but just from a distance from her what or how should I show her that my man now, is very happy with me?
2006-12-22 02:16:05 · 23 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Why are you so obsessed with impressing her, showing her he is your man now, and that you are happy? She has moved on and is married. You need to concentrate on your relationship with him and less on her and you will be fine. I would just be myself, who cares what she thinks, that is the least of your worries. God bless****
2006-12-22 02:19:16 · answer #1 · answered by ? 7 · 5⤊ 1⤋
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2016-07-18 21:41:37 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
.Well for one thing your boyfriend does not have an extremely charming girlfriend if he did she wouldn't be asking a ludicrous question like this? You call this extremely charming? I call this extremely insecure! Don't be something you are not. That wont impress her one bit, she will just see right through the phoniness and laugh her butt off. And by the way, she could care less if he is happy with you or not, she has a new hubby and is happy. Thats all that matters to her. Your boyfriend is her ex for a reason. You now have what she threw away. He might be your treasure but he is also her trash. She could care less how charming or not charming you are.
2006-12-22 02:53:40 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Be yourself and don't put on any airs or pretend to be anyone that your not. Hopefully everyone can be civil to each other as they are at a concert for the child. You may even like the woman and she may you in return. Sometimes after people have awful separations and divorces they actually become friendly towards each other once again and realize that although they couldn't get along while married they have something in common, a child, and so did some good in this world anyway. And then they act as adults towards one and other and get along fabulous. Best of luck and enjoy the concert.
2006-12-22 02:23:57 · answer #4 · answered by crazylegs 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
The main thing is not to be arrogant as someone said or start a fight with her. It is their daughter's time to shine in the concert and is about the daughter. Also, do not make the daughter feel like she is in the middle or chose between both parents because it tends to get a child of divorce very unhappy and miserable. Also, there will be pleanty of time to take pictures. Remember, each relationship is different, and both him and his ex wife split for a reason. No matter what, you will have to remember they have a tie to each other through their daughter. There will always be life events such as birthdays, holidays, parent teacher conferences, school concerts, theater performances, dance recitals, first school dance, prom, graduation, wedding, grandchildren, etc. And no matter what, it is never fair to the daughter to make her feel like she has to chose between both parents.
2006-12-22 02:30:01 · answer #5 · answered by dawncs 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Woman just be you. Women are intuitive she will pick up if you are not being yourself. So forget about impressing her. This is about your step child not some show to impress a woman that has moved on with her life.Man I never will understand why women make issues with each other where there aren't any. Stop the foolishness and be happy with your husband.
2006-12-22 02:49:42 · answer #6 · answered by Wordsmith 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Do nothing unless she makes the first move and then be polite and courteous. My husbands ex, would yell at us, saying, you have a bad marriage, get a better job so you can pay child support and all kinds of nasty things in public at the school functions. She would follow us out the door yelling as we quietly walked away. Show class, she may be jealous.
What is it to you anyway, what she thinks about you. You are just a girlfriend- you are not married to him. Is your boyfriends opinion of you more important than his Ex's???
2006-12-22 02:34:35 · answer #7 · answered by Northville 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This is not about you showing her how happy your "man" is with you now. It's about the kids and their performance. I'd suggest that if it comes to the point of you two meeting--and leave this up to your 'man"--that you simply extend your hand, introduce yourself and than comment on the girls--like about how excited they are about the performance, or how great they look tonight--keep it simple and keep it about the girls.
If you don't meet her, you could nod in acknowledgment and smile slightly if you make eye contact--but don't keep looking at her all night in and effort to make eye contact or you'll seem childish. Also--you will be in public so don't overdo any PDAs in an effort to get the point across that your 'man' is happy. That should be obvious by his body language and it sounds like bio-mom doesn't care anyway.
I hate to sound snotty and don't mean too--but don't worry about you, worry about the girls and how their performance will be for them. That's what grown-ups do--you are not in a competition with this woman so don't treat it like one.
2006-12-22 02:28:20 · answer #8 · answered by kathylouisehall 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
You should do nothing but stay in the background. This is not a place for you to draw attention to yourself. It's their daughter's day
Act like a grown up be polite at the introductions and then step to the back. This is not about you!
2006-12-22 02:19:59 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 0⤋
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2016-04-26 22:04:26 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm thinking maybe the boyfriend hasn't married you because your so immature.
There's no reason in hell you should try and impress this lady!!
Why can't you just be yourself? I take it your too insecure to be YOU??? Who wants a fake? bet your boyfriend doesn't!!
Don't fret it, he's got a ex wife and you'll be one of his ex girlfriends.
2006-12-22 02:31:15 · answer #11 · answered by peggin_beast 6 · 4⤊ 0⤋