Well, my brother whom I've not seen in years just arrived today and I was very glad to see him again. Although, he seems to talk more to my other brother than me. It's like as if he's treating me like I was invisible. Usually he just says a sentence or two to me and then he and my brother start talking for ages. They are both 20 + years old and so they probably talk alot since they have alot in common. At this moment, he and my brother are at a pub while I'm at home alone. Tommorow, they will go out together and do some shopping. As I'm only 13 years old, it hurts to see my brother just forget about me like that. He'll only be here for the holidays and he's already starting to forget about me. I feel so sad and maybe jealous. I've not seen him for over 10 years and I was so excited to see him today but now my hope is crushed. What should I do? I don't want to pester him and seem annoying. Help!
2006-12-22 01:50:41 · 7 answers · asked by Anonymous in Society & Culture ➔ Holidays ➔ Christmas
Make him a Christmas/Holiday card ...if you are good on the computer use it and find a pic of you 2 for the front.
On the inside say, "13 year olds need big brothers 2.
Before you leave I hope we can spend some time together...just you and me!"
It will mean the world to him that you took the time...and may change your relationship forever..for the better!!! Everyone wants to know they are special...even OLDER and less wise big brothers..
Good luck and blessings for being a great little brother...I wish I had one just like you!
2006-12-22 01:57:41 · answer #1 · answered by 100%cotton 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You seem to already understand that the age difference is a factor in your relationship. Maybe you could find a time to approach your brother and say, "I'm so happy to see you, I'd really like to spend some time with you, what can we do together?" Be aware that he may reject you and it will hurt if he does, but you should at least try to ask for what you want. You might also want to consider writing a letter to your brother telling him how much you missed him and how glad you are to see him. Your private journal is the place to write about how hurt you are feeling...it won't do any good to dump that on him. I hope you have some quality time with him over the holidays. God bless.
2006-12-22 01:56:11 · answer #2 · answered by CJ 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would ask him to take a walk with you that you have something you want to discuss with him without anybody else around. He may feel like he doesn't have anything in common with you since you were about 3yrs old the last time he saw you and he was about the same age as the older brother when he was growing up. Ask if you can go along on the shopping trip too,they might not know you want to tag along. If he knew what you were feeling I am sure he would want to make it right with you. Hope it works out,if nothing else,show him all our answers to your question and maybe one of them will hit home with him. Merry Christmas and glad he is home with all of you.
2006-12-22 05:54:17 · answer #3 · answered by grbarnaba 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Know what you are going through.
Just go right up to him while he is alone and tell him how you feel.
Don't be mad just tell him like it is. Be honest and if he is any kind of a good person he will get the message and you both will be richer for it.
Your age is playing a part in this and you have to show him you are well worth the effort to get to know.
Good luck
2006-12-22 01:56:00 · answer #4 · answered by dragon 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ask him what's going on, and why is he treating you like this! But I'm sure that he is not mad at you or something else! Ask him if he wants to take a walk with you in the park or to go together somewhere else! It all ways helps, I'm telling you! ;)
2006-12-22 02:10:59 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
since you were only 3 the last time you saw him, maybe he feels he doesnt have anything really in common to talk about. it isnt your fault. and since he just arrived, maybe he just needs to get comfortable. next time he is at the house, sit next to him and YOU start talking about things that you want to talk about. Hope things go better for you!
2006-12-22 02:13:58 · answer #6 · answered by livinintheword † 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just tell him how you feel and ask him if maybe you and him could do something together.
2006-12-22 01:55:55 · answer #7 · answered by Live for today.Hope for tomorrow 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋