Have you ever felt like this?

Question

Have you ever felt so sad and no one could understand you, so you get even more sad, but even if you want to cry you realize there is no use, because that won't solve anything, so if you cry you'll just waste your time... and then be sad again... I just realize this only after many times I locked myself in the bathroom and cried and then I got out as sad as I was before... How can you resolve something that can't be resolved by you... and you just have to wait, but you don't know for how long. And you must remain like that until that someone does what he has to do... I am always like that and I feel I'm going crazy! I just can't stand it anymore... No one understands me! If I'll tell them this, they'll say I'm crazy. I know that because she said it right in my face. Yes, my mom said it. And if not even my family can't understand me, not even my sister, who else can? I'm alone here... My family is living their life, passing right by me, and not knowing how I really feel.

They think I'm just as an ordinary child, but in every second I feel sad. You know how it is to know your whole life depends on one person? That everything could go well if that person would want to? And that you must wait so long for that someone to want to change something? To know that everything could go well, but that doesn't depend on you and you just pray for that person to do something? Believe me, you wouldn't want that to happen to you! It's awful! It's horrible to know that it's your life, but you can't control it! That it's in the hands of someone else. I don't know what to do! I don't think I can do anything! I just have to wait. But It's just to much! I can't take it anymore!

I don't just have a feeling that someone else controls my life! This is actually true!
And kalypsokitty, that's exactly what I was talking about no one understanding me! You don't understand this at all! So what you think is that for example I want my parents to buy me something, but they don't and then I go lock myself into the bathroom and start to cry? Is that what you understood I was crying for? You obviously don't understand what I'm saying! I'm not crying for something unimportant, If you want the whole story, fine: I don't use to go running to the bathroom whenever anything unimportant upsets me! There are other things that, from your answer I don''t even expect you to understand, but the thing is that whenever that happens to me - I won't tell you what 'that' means, because you won't understand. But I don't cry every time that happens to me, it just happens for me to cry when I can't stand it anymore! When it becomes unsupportable!

Because believe me, you wouldn't stand it neither, but you just don't know how that feels like! And if you don't feel the same you can't understand! You didn't understand a thing, so you probably never experienced this! You are probably just living your life, normally and happy! And you obviously don't have how to understand how it is to be like that!

Afmora, is not like that! I know what I'm crying for, I just can't explain it to you! It's to hard to explain! More then what I explained in the details I can't say! You wouldn't understand!

God, LESLEY P! No, it's not because of a boy! Didn't you people understand? When I said my life is in the hands of someone else I mean GOD! He could make things go well, but He just doesn't! And I can't do anything more then wait!

Prisonerofdepths, my sister may know more then she shows, but she doesn't know everything! :)

Answer 1

Hmmmm,.. what is it that people dont understand?

Answer 2

I so know how you feel, I am doing everything I can to try and make my marriage better, but the big thing that needs to be done only my husband can do, and is not doing, and I feel like he never will. And I can't talk to him about it because it is something I am not supposed to know about. I know very well how you feel!
I try and cope by talking to people, someone out there has to listen to you, you just have to find them. Be it a counselor or an anonymous phone line, sometimes it just helps a little to get it off your chest to someone.
Also taking antidepressants can help if this is a long going problem of always feeling sad.
Hang in there, things are always changing, and eventually what you want to happen will happen, or either something will happen that will give you the strength to move on and take a different direction in life. Just remember someone cares about you, you do, and you are the most important relationship you will ever have in your life, you are your own best friend, never forget that.

Answer 3

Please tell me this isn't over a boy.

Do you have any idea how many teenage girls get themselves griped into deep depression over a boy!

How many of them think no one understands how they feel, because THE boy has dumped them, or isn't as involved in the relationship as them.

Maybe your family understands more than you think they do, they just realize, or are hoping, you'll snap out of it.

Please do not basis your happiness on another person. Or you'll stay unhappy. You have to be happy with yourself, as you are. Talk to your friends, guidance counsellor, whoever. But although it seems like the end of the world right now and you can't go on, in a couple of years you'll be like:

" What did I see in him anyways? What was I thinking?" I know. I remember my teenage years and been there done that.

Someone better is just around the corner...or just a couple of years away. Don't do anything drastic because think of what the two of you will miss just because you're bent over this one now.

Call a kids help line. There are experienced counsellors you can talk to and remain anonymous. Please seek help. Being a teenage girl can suck big time! But being a grown woman is a hoot. So hang in there, it gets better.

Answer 4

You've said a lot of untrue stuff.

You need to understand that this happens to everyone, not just you. You're not alone, we ALL feel like this. The only difference is that we feel like this about different things.

And hey, what do you mean not even your sister can't understand you? If you keep saying that I'm gonna come there and punch you in the face, I swear! Lol.

You may think that you're passing by your family members and they see you, but they can't understand you. But that's not true. I'm sure all of them feel like this, too. I'm sure they think no one can understand them as well. But they don't know they're more predictable and easy to read than they think. They all assume that no one can understand them so they just keep their feelings for themselves and don't talk to each other, but we both know that it's not true. I mean we can assume (even if we can't be sure) how they feel, even if they think we have no idea.

It's normal because we (as humans I mean) feel more than we can show or express, so it's normal that a part of our feelings will not be 100% shared with others. It's just like when you have to find the synonym of a word and the word has no synonym, it can only be explained with more words than just one. It's the same when it comes to cummunication between humans. There's TOO much to say and we don't have enough words to express EVERYTHING. But that's still okay because there are other ways to communicate with people, like looks and smiles and all that romantic stuff I don't understand...

Anyway, the point is that you shouldn't feel misunderstood anymore. Just because you don't say something it doesn't mean that your family doesn't know that you feel it. Stop thinking like that. And don't keep everything to yourself. And your sister knows more than she shows. ;)

Answer 5

Yup. I have felt similarly so many time. I have had sleepless nights for days. I used to feel so dull that nobody likes me and nobody cares for me. I used to just sit and then lie down and then sit up again thinking , thinking and thinking sometimes that to end up mdy life. But then slsowly used to forget it and enjoy normal daily work. But sometimes again such feelings would overtake. It seemed that there is no use living. No I was wrong. actually we should find some good avenue in which we can keep ourselves busy. Where our mind and soul are both involved and we forget the entire world. That would take us away from the so many things and we in turn become rather relaxed. So many tings to say that it would fill pages.

Answer 6

sweet heart, i really feel what you are saying because this was my case a couple of months ago.
but i found a way to get out of it, may be it could help you.
first of all, i am sure that when your mother says that you are crazy, she is joking. and if not you can prove to her the opposite.
how to show her the opposite, by having a hard goal and achieving it.
second if feel alone because you do not have a partner, may be you have to search for somebody to fill his position untill he comes.
look around you, uncles, aunts, sisters, brothers mother , father, close friends , colleagues, enjoy your life with these people or getting to know new people.
you have to have a hobby that fill your empty spam of time.
as examples, practicing a sport that you like and this will help you know new people.
you could star learning how to do something new: cooking, drawing, driving, learning new language, taking computer courses, swimming, siteseeing, visiting new countries, participating in workshops, reading books, attending concerts....
darling, you have to enjoy life, do not lose any second of your life
have nice time.

Answer 7

There are many ways for talking to people who understand you out there, for one example emailing people like the people who answer you question, or even for another example Kids Helpline, if you live in Australia the number is 1800 55 1800 or in america 1-877-KIDS-400. I am truly sorry that you feel this way if you ever need to talk drop me a line, id be happy to have a chat.

Answer 8

I have and stayed that way until I was an adult. I finally sought out professional help and they found that I was suffering from depression and that I had a chemical imbalance that could be controlled using medication.

I have never felt so well in my entire life. I encourage you to visit your family doctor and explain the situation so that you, too, can start to enjoy life. I'm so sorry that I didn't act sooner.

Take care. Sending you a virtual hug.

Answer 9

Sounds like you went to your mother and sister for comfort and got insulted. There's some reality in your thought that nobody understands me. Also, I get the sense that you're in your teens and developmentally you're having alot of feelings that are difficult to express in the best of circumstances with people who are really listening. You're not going crazy you just need someone to really hear what you're saying. That's human. We're created in relationship. It orders the chaos inside of us. I don't think you should stop crying because down that road is numbness at best. Cry with someone who understands and accepts you. It's ok to be sad. If we can accept our feelings they tend to pass more quickly than when we don't. The feelings we try to push away are the ones we carry around with us. With feelings are needs. Try to identify what needs are not being met. To feel loveable, competent, safe... Not being heard and understood has left you feeling powerless to get what you want. When we get depressed we become self critical and self doubting when we have needs. Another way of saying this is we turn our anger inward. The effect of this is to supress what is powerful in our selves. We become unmotivated, hopeless- the world seems joyless, teasteless. Drugs will take the feelings away but they won't solve the problem. If you don't mind taking pills for the rest of your life and never fully experienceing the person who you are then go to your family doctor and get some prozac. If that's not appealing you really need to find a good therapist who can really hear what you are saying. If you're thinking about suicide or self injureing medication can be very helpful but see a psychiatrist and get a good therapist. If your parents won't listen tell a teacher. It's medical neglect for treatment to be denied. This doesn't mean that there aren't things you can't do for yourself. *Identify 5 enjoyable/comforting behaviors. These don't have to be 100% relief from the pain type things- more like 5%. Taking a walk, being with a pet, calling a friend etc. *Close your eyes and see yourself when you started to feel like this. Picture yourself saying to that younger you that you love her and your going to take care of her. * Pay attention to the self critical and self doubting thoughts. Imagine that they are being told to you by a magazine salesman who can walk in your house anytime he wants because there is no door. Imagine putting a strong door on your house. To be sure the salesman is going to come knocking and want to tell you that your crazy, a looser, weak,etc. etc. etc. I magine telling him that you know what he has to say and you're not going to open the door. Then go do one of the 5 comforting things you identified. There will be times when he gets in. That's ok. When you're ready through him out. Imagine physically picking him up and throughing him out the door. Let him know he's a liar. People recover from depression. Your question has already drawn several responses from people saying this. I have. It takes courage to live a life.

Answer 10

I feel like that all the time. I have a very unique personality that is both silly and serious at the same time. And even though Im smart and get all a's in school my family members call me retarded, slow, and crazy. But I try to ignore them. Sometimes I cant help but to feel like Im being picked on.

Answer 11

Well you've realized the hard part....crying doesn't help! Most things are NOT helped with tears. You have to learn that not all issues are serious enough for tears. Don't take things too seriously or make mountains out of molehills with crying about it! If there is nothing you can do then accept that, and move on. Your family isn't going to understand because it sounds like you're over reacting to something. And you probably have a history of making something out of nothing. If it's the attention you want then you're fresh out of luck if even your mother is saying you're crazy. Instead of getting angry with them try to see why they think you're losing it. You can't go running into the bathroom crying every time you get upset...life is too short! Besides, if you're as young as it sounds like you are, then you have to step back and look at the bigger picture. Are the things you're crying about affecting your family? money? health? if not then there's no sense in dwelling on it. I hate to be rude but it sounds like you have some growing up to do. Next time you feel the urge to rush out crying and lock yourself into the bathroom, don't....don't go be by yourself to sulk and feel sorry for yourself. Instead, go do something else. Here's a tip...when you get upset like that start cleaning! If you're as upset as it sounds in your "question" then you'll have a very clean house and your parents won't think you're crazy and appreciate the help cleaning up. Best advise...pick your battles carefully! Not all things are as bad as they seem!