i have a 2 month old baby girl. lately she's been crying and screaming..she's not collicky because she stops..i fed her..carried her..did everything i could..i get her to stop but how do u deal with the stress? help!
2006-12-21 23:16:32 · 19 answers · asked by Irish C 1 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Newborn & Baby
Babies like to be held, wrap her in a blanket...
2006-12-23 12:30:18 · answer #1 · answered by Chef Combo S 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hi
I just had my little girl on the 12th of this month and I too am dealing with the pooping issue, the colic, and being up all night, lol. My fiance and I also did the trips to the emergency room two nights in a row. We didn't go in though because she hasn't had her first shot yet and we didn't want to have her surrounded by all that sickness. She would fall asleep in the car with no problem. That's when I found out on the net that a baby riding in a car can cause them to fall asleep when they're dealing with colic. I also changed my baby's formula from milk-based to soy. I do believe this has made a difference- just make sure it has the two main ingredients DHA and ARA in them. I also found that sitting her up and holding her upright helps while I pat her in the back. I would also massage her stomach to move the gas down. Yes and I noticed that she has movements that cause her to get frustrated-involuntary movements through her body- I think this is all a part of the nervous system issue that was mentioned. This frustrates her because she can't keep her pacifier in when this happpens. I just try to sleep when she sleeps which is during the day because her "dramatic time" usually starts around nine pm and dosen't end until about one am. So right now I am trying to get my self on the same clock as her. This is hard cause I am a day person.
To deal with the stress just like someone said go out of the room, get something to eat, drink something and just make sure she is safe and let her cry a little but most importantly try to stay relaxed if you can.
2006-12-22 09:30:38 · answer #2 · answered by nougat 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I had the same situation - my baby boy wouldn't stop crying, especially at night, right from birth and till about 2 month old. I got him a swing and a rocking bassinet. Sometmes the swing would work - he even was sleeping there at night - that's the only place he would sleep or next to me (but for me it wasn't a real sleep - more like napping, as I was afraid to roll over him, so after awhile I got really exhausted); pacifier might work; also, "jump" on a fitness ball holding the baby - rocking will soothe her. They say babies miss that rocking they had in the womb. Also, a bath might work - she'll relax, get tired, so she'll be calmer and sleep longer.
Just have a bit of patience - it'll all go away - she just needs some time to adjust to a new environment. Good luck!
2006-12-22 07:50:53 · answer #3 · answered by Olis 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Feeling stressed is normal, especially when it seems like you can't stop your baby from crying. If you find yourself so stressed that you may do something you'll regret (like pop your baby, or shake the baby -- NEVER SHAKE YOUR BABY BECAUSE THIS CAN KILL), put your baby somewhere safe (like a crib or bassinet) and go to the next room. Take 5 minutes to yourself to calm down. Your baby will not be harmed by letting her cry while you center yourself.
Also, have a moment to yourself - by asking someone, or your spouse to take over for even just 15 - 30 minutes. Take a long shower, or a bath.. read a book, listen to music. Do what you have to do. You'll find that these moments will stretch your patience a looooong way.
2006-12-22 09:14:12 · answer #4 · answered by mrs.izabel 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
When my daughter acted like this a few months ago, I would take her for a ride in the car....It sucked having to leave the house at 3 am but it sucks even worse to have a baby that is screaming at the top of her lungs...
After 10 Min's or so she would be fast asleep and I would bring her into the house and just leave her in her seat and sleep right next to her....
I tried the doctor thing as well, they did not help....she eventually grew out of this at around 9 months....
Hope this helps
2006-12-22 08:34:30 · answer #5 · answered by raemel2 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I know it is stressful! It is the reason "shaken baby syndrome" occurs. First, you need to get yourself calm. Remember, you are the parent on the plane--you need to take care of yourself first sometimes.
Put the baby in the crib, leave the room and shut the door. It's ok. Breathe deeply and get refocused. I know it does not seem like it right now, but this will eventually pass. It is just a phase.
After a minute or two, walk back in but don't pick her up unless she is hungry or needs to be fed. Provide her some entertainment (mobiles are great). I invested in fancy one that hads birds flying and plays 8 different songs and has a light show for the night time.
If you feel yourself getting frustrated, step back out of the room again. Just keep going back in there to check on her. She needs to learn to self-soothe, but she also needs to know you are there.
2006-12-22 08:32:57 · answer #6 · answered by ssc 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I had 2 babies with collic and yes the screaming gets on the nerves. I use to make sure my baby was safe and comfortable and then go outside get some fresh air and count to 50. Then I could go back in and try to calm her again. Sometimes my mom and Dad would come over and take her for a couple hours. Just relax and keep your cool it does get better.
2006-12-22 14:33:07 · answer #7 · answered by Sassy 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Having a swing like others mentioned is a good idea and investment. The Doctors always told me when an infant sometimes cries like that and you feel yourself overwhelmed and about to loose it but the baby in a safe place, like it's crib and leave the room. Letting her cry it out for a little while by herself is not going to hurt her and it will give you a chance to calm down.
2006-12-22 07:36:20 · answer #8 · answered by Curious J. 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
my sister was collicky. gosh it was awful.
it happened every night. how my parents survived (how she did!) is a miracle.
anyway, different things they tried: sit her in a carry-chair on top of a rumbly dryer, rocking chair (both one YOU sit in, and one for her), a jumpy thing (it hangs in a doorway and she can sorta spring off her toes)
but the thing that worked best of all:
was car rides.
gas is expensive, but sanity is worth the price.
Good luck! God bless.
I would also see your doctor--maybe its something else. can't hurt. might help. good luck.
2006-12-22 07:30:24 · answer #9 · answered by Netty 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
dont let baby cry for more than 10 minutes that is what the nurse line said to me. wrap baby in a blanket and try giving a bottle. take baby for a car ride it would work for our little boy when
he had colic he would fall asleep during a car ride. did you take baby to the dr for this if not take baby their first could have ear infection or something else.
2006-12-22 08:51:06 · answer #10 · answered by mama 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Try Mylicon drops because it could be gas. You could also get a sling and wear her around the house to comfort her.
As for dealing with the stress, just breath and try to take as much time for yourself as you possibly can until she gets through this stage.
2006-12-22 09:45:40 · answer #11 · answered by alexis73102 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋