why shd i go thru this??

Question

i m a gurl have a bunch of frnds in skool which includes guys..all of us hang out wid each other n r real gr8 buddies.but the problem is my mom does not like me hanging out wid guys...as in she did stop one pf them calling me on my cell too..i had a huge fight wid my mom and tried my best to tell her that there is no sort of "such feelings" between us...but she won't listen.what do i do??

Answer 1

Move out of the house see becoz as you are in the house your mom is also going to be with you so you cannot stop her so....Either meet your friends secretly and tell them the problem if they are true friends they will understand or just break friendship....I wont tell you to try to please your mom.

Answer 2

At this age you may tell like this way. But when you become a mom , you will also say the samething to your girl. It is because , moms are afraid that she don;t you to get into any trouble and spoil your life.

Every secound, every person's mind is changing. So now they can be a friend to you, later they might behave badly. Offcourse they might be also a good friend. But if suppose they behave badly, it might affect you. That;s what your mom is afraid of.

If you feel you all are very good friends. Call them to your home and introduce to your mom and have a study group at your home with your mom's permission.So by this way she can come to know them well and she will feel you are safe. Otherwise, she would advice you to be away from such persons whom she feels bad. This is because we all have different ways of understanding.

But still, eventhough you introduce to them, be sure to tell your mom where you are going and spending time. It is for your own safety.

Answer 3

U need 2 console ur mother. Make a time-limit 4 ur frends (boys) 2 call. Wen u go 4 outings make sur u come b4 8'o clock or time limit suit ur mother. Ignore talking on road, dat make scene as people take ur wrong figure. See if any type of ur clothing style bother ur mother. Always take a cell-phone wid u as if ur mother get worries she can cal u. Even in hall while watching movies don't switch off ur cell n put it in vibrator. N if ur mother cal then pick up the cal n promise her 2 cal in interval ( n fulfill ur promise). Share ur day details wid ur mother, it will improve ur relationship.
Don't take ur mother as ur enemy she is ur biggest well-wisher. May b she don't like some of ur male frends. Try 2 see through ur mother eyes. She cares 4 u. Talk 2 her freely 2 her about ur frends n clear her doubts. May b some of doubts r correct so investigate throughly 2 them

Answer 4

Try to understand your Mom and look at everything from her point of view. 'Fighting' will not resolve the issue.

You must know that there are certain norms an you have to follow that. If you are following these and there is really nothing objectionable in your 'friendships', let your mother take her own time and in the meanwhile make efforts to convince her. In the meanwhile, you may tone down your intensity of communication or being with your friends to a minmum level. Your friends, if they are true, shall understand.

Eventually your mom would also know that you were right (if you are)

Answer 5

Obey her and communicate with her to find out why she has such strong feelings about the subject. Very well could be over reaction on both parts here.

Answer 6

sadly your problem is a difficult one!i think you should just think of her!i mean i dont think friendship is more important than your parents.you must make her understand that the times have changed.spend a day with her and try to convince her.if you are absolutely sure tha your mum has made a judgemental error then the best way to recify is to change her opinion.ask her for one chance o prove yourself and call that guy home with all your other friends in presence of your parents tell them rather demand from them another chance for this guy!even after knowing him if your parents refuse then either they are overprotective or this guy is not the right type for your friend!i am always honest to my mum regarding all my friends she knows all of them and i know she trusts me!she doesnt like most of them but still she trusts me bcoz i was always honest with her!do that and it may help!bye and best of luck

Answer 7

I guess your mom is not able to understand that guys and girls can be friends too...

Try to make her understand... try bringing all your girl friends home and have a sleep over... ask them to spend some time with your mom and dad and tell them about how good it can be with guy friends too...

It could be a culture shock for your mom... give her some time... and everything would be alright...

Answer 8

Just tell your mother in a freindly way & asure her that you will not do anything that you shouldnt do, tell your mother that you will ever take care of the fact that your are a girl. Insure your mother & make her bilive on you she will definetly let you do all the right thing for a girl. Say thank to me after talking to your mother! Bye & take care*

Answer 9

maybe you should have a get together at your house so that your parents can meet these people you hang out with...definately will help your relationship with your mom because she will know you are going to be honest with her and if she knows the guys you hang with she will trust them that much more...

Answer 10

hi friend,

your mom is not your enemy. some guys are bad...your mom is afraid of the same...thats why she is doing like this...

at the same time don't avoid your friends....by this time you might have analyzed about the guys with whom you are in friendship...so continue your friendship and also avoid that from the eyes of your mom.

but, dear please be careful because in future the friends may turn lovers and you should take correct decision at that time.