Why for the most of the people to be happy, another person must be sad?

Question

I'm not saying that everyone feels happy only if another person is sad, I'm saying most of the people do.
And when I say they're happy only when another person is sad, I didn't mean that for example they're happy when they see someone crying on the floor! I meant that they feel happy when someone else is sad but without intention! I mean, that they don't know someone else is sad when they're happy! I mean, that something you might want to do may make you happy, but it may cause someone else to be sad! They make someone else sad when they are happy! But without intention! Do you understand me? I just noticed that happens in most of the cases.

Answer 1

Because (like you know) for every winner, there's a loser. Every light has a shadow. If a person loses, then that must mean that another person (in a different part of the world) is winning.

THis happens because in the absence of evil we wouldn't be able to define good and purity. If there would only be good and purity we wouldn't know that they are good because we would have nothing to compare them to.

It's just like this: let's say you're a kid who has been rich and has been living good all his life. He doesn't know that there are poor people out there and that the world is different than he thinks it is, so he would only understand what poverty is if he would feel it.

Answer 2

Most likely, the hidden and misunderstood causes that are making a person unhappy usually mean that someone else is being made happy.

For people to be rich, there have to be people with little money, for it is that 'discrepancy' that makes the feeling of having money enjoyable. For a person to be happy at the track, other people have to be unhappy losers.

Even simple things, like favorite music, essentially comes from other people's unhappiness: why did the band I like get rescued from obscurity and given a record contract, while some other band someone else likes still wallows in dives, playing for peanuts for a die-hard few? Since not every band can have a record contract (despite the number given away, it's still a relatively small percentage, one I doubt reaches 50%) somebody's band has to 'lose' out on being heard.

One can say that one does not revel in the misfortune of others, but it is the misfortune of others that prepares the way for the things that make us happy. Likewise, it is our misfortunes that allow someone else to enjoy a happiness we can never know about.

Answer 3

Simple dominance and objectivity. This person doesn't know the value of something without devaluing or seeing something of less value to compare. And sometimes they only know value by the interpretations of others. Should you need to lose something to appreciate? I'd say no.

If what you are meaning is that because one person is sad on one side of the world someone on the other side will be happy? That is ridiculous. Emotions play a part in individual consequence not equality.

Answer 4

HELLO WALT You have a good spirit inside u as u want the world free of sorrow, pain and mourn but the fear made u sad. The Age has nothing to do with sorrow and happiness. A young person may be sad or an old man may be happy, it all depends upon ur own thinking. If u think +ve u r happy and if u think negative u may be sad or painful no matter at what stage of life r u! I recommend u to read +ve mental attitude books, such as Spencer Johnson's "The Present". Thank u,

Answer 5

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Answer 6

Jealousy and a strange sense of superiority "Glad it wasn't me; it was you -- haha!"

It's very "normal" and actively encouraged by the society these days.

The attitude is like -- "I won't be happy myself and I would really like it if others hurt too"

The thing is: they probably will teach this behavior to their kids and others around them and since no one is ever going to have a perfect life -- given how things are going now -- every time they hurt, other people will laugh at them too. They showed the others how to be after all. If you want good will for yourself, you must be good yourself. They won't see it now -- but everyone grows old and their children will do just what they showed them how to do.

I hope the next time they see someone fall, they remember their own weakness too. (but only if they are capable of empathy -- if they are just plain "normal" -- forget it. They'd never understand anyway.)

Answer 7

I know what you mean, but life is like that I guess. The fact that I got this job means a lot of other people didn't. If I sit on this chair in this restaurant, it means that no one else can sit on it while I'm there.

Answer 8

Because for every action, there is equal and opposite reaction, somewhere in the world.

Answer 9

because to see someone suffering or in pain or with troubles makes one think about how good he/she has it better than them. therefore they feel better about themselves

Answer 10

Then there's me. You and I would get along.