2006-12-21 19:52:41 · 18 answers · asked by myintuition 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
um shouldnt the whole concept of having children have been discussed before he was your husband??/
If he doesnt want a baby dont trick or trap him into it... accept that for him having kids is not what life or marriage is about...
Arent you lucky you have a man who wants you for yourself not simpley as a baby makig machine....
2006-12-21 20:30:57 · answer #1 · answered by wollemi_pine_writer 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
There could exist a reason for him not wanting a child at this time. I wouldn't push him into it, but i would recommend you sit down and have a few lengthy discussions on this issue.
Having children is not always the brightest decision couples make in their marriage. Some have children early in a marriage others wait until they have established a good sound financial situation that will be able to support the costs of raising a child.
My wife and i struggled with our first. took a break to recover from the financial strain of the first then once we learned our lesson, we prepared over the long term for the others that followed.
2006-12-22 05:10:13 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
You need to talk to him about havin a baby. Dont try to persuade..
Husbands listen when you tell them while love making.. and God ahead in love tell him.. that it would be gud if we have a baby.. or ask him the reasons with love.. not persuading but.. just trying to understand from him point and know what u can do
2006-12-22 03:59:33 · answer #3 · answered by deva 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You can't you just have to keep talking about it. My husband only wanted 1 child but we have 3. I think men worry about not being able to do anything during the birth but just be there. It's hard to see someone you love go through labour. But it's the best blessing in the world. The end result is worth it. So find out his worry's about having a baby & tell him why you want one. Be honest. Good luck.
2006-12-22 04:33:50 · answer #4 · answered by Nicole D 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Anxious about what? He doesnt want a baby? Find out why and work on that thing or things one at a time until he feels calm and ready to become a father. Um, usually a thing that happens naturally uno! ;)
2006-12-22 04:07:22 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
You can babysit a friend's baby and have your husband there to help! It's very normal for a man to be nervous about having children...it's a huge responsiblity but a great responsibility to have! I would not trade it for the world. You can also go to the park and watch the children there too...just give your husband time to think! You can also take your husband with you to see your obgyn and discuss this issue...the dr. can help with any questions that you may have!!!
2006-12-22 03:58:58 · answer #6 · answered by September Sweetie 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If you have to pressure him then that means that he isn't ready to deal with the responsibility of a child.
He's anxious for a reason. Money? Age? Career? Not Commited?
Find out, because you don't want to be a single parent.
2006-12-22 03:59:20 · answer #7 · answered by Knuckledragger 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Why would you want to bring a child into the world with a father who is emotionally unstable at this time in his life? Let him seek counseling or treatment for his anxiety and then talk about having a child. The thought of having one makes me anxious!!
2006-12-22 03:55:31 · answer #8 · answered by 2sweet 2 · 2⤊ 2⤋
Just stop taking your birth control... ;-)
Kidding!
Tell him that you love him and want nothing more than to have children with him. You know he would make a great father--I mean, you wouldn't have married him otherwise!--and he has no reason to be nervous about something so wonderful.
Good luck!
2006-12-22 03:54:39 · answer #9 · answered by Esma 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Well....are you newlyweds or something? (sounds like a rookie question....LOL) In our house the "no's" always win. Perhaps you should seek to marry someone with your common goals in life. Maybe you made a mistake. Sorry :-(
2006-12-22 03:56:50 · answer #10 · answered by Honesty given here! 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋