How many of you have had an abortion? How did you feel afterwards?
2006-12-21 19:07:36 · 25 answers · asked by Molly 2 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Pregnancy
Don't you know that you can't say the word abortion on this site without every tool that has an opinion saying something about it? To answer your question, I have had an abortion. At first I just felt so relieved to have it over with and have the stress off of my shoulders but within a few days I began to get depressed. My boyfriend insisted that he DID want the baby which made everything so much worse. What they don't tell you is that you're very very fertile afterwards. Even on the pill I got pregnant again just over 2 months later. Having the abortion really taught me a lot about myself and how I handle stress and inconvenient situations. I don't regret it. If I regretted everything that didn't turn out or make me feel how I thought I would, my life would be miserable. I simply learned what I had to from my experience and am a better person because of it. 90% of the opinionated jerks that have answered this so far are men or have never been in a situation where they've had to consider abortion so please don't let them freak you out. Make your decision for yourself. Having a baby is a HUGE responsibility and I've had too many friends take on that responsibility way too early and their children are suffering. If this is something you're considering, good luck. No matter what you choose, let it be for yourself and your baby..not for anyone else.
2006-12-21 20:04:06 · answer #1 · answered by loveulatte 2 · 5⤊ 3⤋
People may not like me saying this but I think for some girls and women it may be useful for them. I had an abortion roughly 6 months ago at 11 weeks and 1 day pregnant, at the time I was completely confident I was making the right decision I thought about it for weeks my reasons were that I had no permanent home (staying at my boyfriends and family members houses) , my mental health was not very good at the time, financially it wouldn't of been great and my boyfriend family and friends thought it would be better if I had an abortion. I was completely sure I was making the right decision and had no doubts about it.
I had the suction abortion at Marie stopes abortion clinic (if you a planning an abortion please do not go there go to a hospital for it you will be treated properly) I woke up in agony and opposite me I saw them performing the surgery on another woman, I still have nightmares from that. They put me straight back to sleep to remove some of the pregnancy they had missed.....
2015-06-03 10:33:39 · answer #2 · answered by amber 1 · 1⤊ 1⤋
I personally have not had an abortion, however, I did go with 2 of my friends when they had one. Neither of them regret it. They were both in college at the time. They both knew it was what was best for them at the time. They both felt sad about it, but no regret.
All my life I always knew that if I found myself pregnant I would have an abortion (if I was young, unmarried, and uneducated), thankfully, my birth control methods never failed me, and I never found myself in that situation...
NOW, today as a mother of one, and pregnant with a second (married as well), I still fell abortion is right and OK for many. But just not be be used as birth control. Mistakes happen, you should not have to pay forever for a mistake (granted, you will love that child more then anything, but love does not conquer all.and if you are not ready, willing, and able to be a parent you shouldn't be).
***** as for adoption... I think adoption is a wornderful selfless thing that someone could do for another person... giving up their baby... However, for me, I would still choose the abortion. Having had a child I know what it is like to be pregnant, to come to term, and to give birth.... There is no way I could do all that, then hand my child over to someone else. I have the upmost respect for those girls/women that find the streanth to do that. I couldn't.
2006-12-24 17:15:57 · answer #3 · answered by jordansmom 3 · 3⤊ 2⤋
Loveulatte: OK, I AM a woman and I HAVE been in a position to consider an abortion, and I DID have one...am I now allowed to speak?
I had an abortion in 1989 and it was the worst thing that I have done or will ever do in my lifetime. At first, I felt relieved, but I knew deep down inside that I had killed my baby. But, I repressed my feelings for a long time. Then, about ten years after it, I started to think about it more and more. Then, when I had my first BORN child four years ago, it hit me like a bolt of lightening. What I had done was murder and that I had done it to my own flesh and blood. The guilt has been horrible. I only hope that at least one woman will be given the facts and information that Planned Parenthood would not give to me.
Here is a bunch of information that "Planned Parenthood" and the abortion lovers do not want you to know:
2006-12-22 03:41:20 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 3⤋
Hi, Molly. I haven't aborted a child, but these women have:
http://abortiontv.com/Words/truestoriesfrom-mothers.htm
http://www.abort73.com/HTML/I-G-2-testimony.html
http://www.teenbreaks.com/abortion/girlswhoaborted.cfm
According to a study done by the Elliott Institute (http://www.afterabortion.org ), 93% of women regret their abortion. If you or someone you know is thinking about abortion, please make sure you have all the facts:
Information on All Aspects of Abortion:
http://Abort73.com
Photos and Video of Abortions, Including 1st Trimester Abortions:
http://www.cbrinfo.org/Resources/pictures.html
http://www.abort73.com/HTML/I-A-4-video.html
Abortion Risks:
http://afterabortion.info/complic.html
http://www.abortionfacts.com/reardon/effect_of_abortion.asp
Abortion Deaths:
http://www.lifedynamics.com/Pro-life_Group/Pro-choice_Women
http://www.afterabortion.info/news/abortiondeaths.html
http://www.lifeissues.org/ru486/deaths.htm
Support for Pregnant Teens:
http://standupgirl.com/site/index.php
Support for Pregnant College and Career Women:
http://www.nurturingnetwork.org
You can do the right thing. Don't let anyone hurt you or your baby by abortion.
2006-12-22 10:02:03 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 1⤋
I like that everyone assumes you are asking the question as though you were pregnant......gosh, the question could be for research purposes. I know woman that had sugical abortions and regretted it and ones that had them and didn't....some of them had several, used to kind of make me sick. Now I honestly hope I raised my daughter to face and accept that which God brings her. I had both of my children out of wedlock and they were the only things that mattered to me. Thats not to say though that RU486 isn't a viable option in very early pregnancy.
I don't think anyone should have an abortion because the pregnancy is inconvenient......tied to a bad person though.....I tell you, had I been pregnant when I divorced my first husband......I would have ripped Satans spawn from my womb with my bare hands if I had too.....my son....from God and his dad, mattered much more to me. It was inconvenient both times I had my kids...things can be worked around....abortions can't be brought back.
There are situations where an abortion is mandatory...or damn near? Xrays....MRI's......dangerous, dangerous situations. Abortion is necessary when the mother has been exposed to high levels of radiation in the first trimester.....
2006-12-21 19:38:29 · answer #6 · answered by WitchTwo 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
There are alternatives. Adoption? Have the baby and give it up to a family who is trying very hard to adopt.
Abortion is a serious thing. You will feel bad afterwards...there is no way around that. You will feel like you killed your child. Can you deal with that?
It is not the childs fault that he/she was conceived. He/she deserves the life it was given.
You can/could go away to one of those places where you can spend your pregnancy and then give your baby up for adoption..When you leave..you can go back to your life and just say you helped a family member out for a few months. You will always wonder about your baby but you will know he is alive. If you choose abortion..you will always wonder about your baby...but it did not have a chance to survive and be happy. You will blame yourself for a long time...for a lifetime perhaps.
Unless there are serious medical problems or similar circumstances keeping you from having the baby..please try to carry the baby to term. Give the baby up for adoption.
2006-12-21 19:24:04 · answer #7 · answered by sherri p 2 · 3⤊ 2⤋
I've had an abortion because the doctors said I would miscarry and I didn't want to at school or my job. Afterwards I felt regretful, bad, sad, and tired. So many people have such ugly things to say about people that get abortions and that made me hurt.
2006-12-21 19:14:51 · answer #8 · answered by Mz Bree 5 · 4⤊ 0⤋
All I can say about (loveulatte) is that you look at the answer page and you will realize that the majority of people replying are women. I think it's appropriate to say that the word of the non observant doesn't count. You proved in your statement that you are merely focused on your own opinion. That's fine but don't make false statements. Anyway, I wish to state my opinion. If you are religious I suggest looking at your faith. I know in the Bible it does not support abortion. My final statement is that you cannot say that abortion is "ok" if you were raped in religious context. For the simple fact that you are justifying murder with rape. 2 wrongs don't make a right.
2006-12-21 20:42:37 · answer #9 · answered by Poohbearsall 2 · 3⤊ 2⤋
I kept mine, but here are a couple of webpages you may find interesting. The first is the story of a woman who was aborted(yes there are some babies that survive).
49% of pregnancies among American women are unintended; about 40% of these are terminated by abortion (AGI).
2006-12-21 19:21:37 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋