2006-12-21 18:02:57 · 15 answers · asked by single_and_lokin_lol 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
1. You DON'T HAVE TO tell anybody. It's your life. If your friends don't support you, then they really ARE NOT YOUR FRIENDS to begin with.
2. Take time. If you believe that it will ruin a career you love that opposes homosexuality and that you have no other career option at the moment then you can safely keep it to yourself in the mean time.
3. You can fulfill your romantic endeavors secretly at the moment if you want to. It's not healthy in the long run, but repressing your love life ISN'T EITHER.
4. Tell your friends first before your parents if you think that your parents have this wrong idea about homosexuality. If they are in a critical life situation (health, financial) this is probably not a good time to share this.
**EXTRA** For the still CONFUSED: HOMOSEXUALITY IS PRACTICED IN THE ANIMAL KINGDOM. PENGUINS, BONOBOS, RABBITS, CRABS and MORE DO EXHIBIT HOMOSEXUAL ACTIVITIES. Homosexuality IS NATURAL.
2006-12-25 15:38:45 · answer #1 · answered by yahoo responder 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
For a look at some possibilities for what might happen, from the sincere to the absurd to the shocking to the funny, there is a play called "Death Wish". I don't remember the author's name, and I could not find it online, but its a short play. You might be able to locate it at a library.
One thing to keep in mind is that you don't have to tell anybody you don't want to tell. If you think your parents might respond negatively to the news, just don't tell them, or don't tell them until you are "out of their grasp". If you think your friends might respond negatively to the news, were they really your friends in the first place?
You can't hide what you are. You can only be what you are. Take pride in that, even if you think nobody else does, because without your personal pride, you are a nobody to yourself, and that is a very bad place to be. Trust me because I've been there.
I wish you the best of luck.
2006-12-22 04:23:47 · answer #2 · answered by G A 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If YOU know you're gay, chances are your parents and friends have some inclination to it also. However, that is not for sure that they do. I think you should wait till you are out of the house before you share this revelation. If there is a bombshell fallout from your announcement, you want to be able to clear the area for awhile.
As far as the one person who said you should pray to God. I consider myself a Christian also. Its not my place to judge YOU or your sexual preference. I am old enough to understand that some people truly are wired different for whatever reason. It might be psychological or it might be genetics. I believe God understands these things better then I do. I would trust him to be the just and sympathetic God that our ministers say he is. We all have quirks and secrets about ourselves. We all fall short of the glory of God. I know this is a bit off topic from the original question but I felt the need to say this so you don't exile yourself from God because you are gay......God loves us ALL.....Or so I have been taught....
2006-12-22 02:23:13 · answer #3 · answered by slavetofs 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
my best friend is a guy and he is gay. i was the first person that he told that he was gay and i supported him through everything. Maybe you should trust in one person that you are really close to. Maybe they will be like me and help you get the strength the tell your parents. If you must, wait until you go to college and tell them that you are open. Many things happen in college I am sure they will feel better about it then, rather than you telling them if you are in high school.
2006-12-22 02:09:08 · answer #4 · answered by lynnleehollywood 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I know you may not be looking for this kind of answer, but you're not gay, you've been duped into believing this by circumstances and events that appear to point you in this direction. God is not a lunatic. He made men and women to be together this way, not men and men or women with women. God also loves you. I'm not hating on you, I don't think I'm better than you. I don't think that you are despicable. The bible says that we all have gone astray at one time or another. The good news is that God loves us and if we turn to him he can help us see things the way that they really are. My hope and my suggestion is that you would take a fresh look at the God of heaven and earth. Let him redirect your thinking on this. I'm not asking you to join a church or shake the preachers hand. I'm saying ask God himself to give you his insight on this. He will answer you, you won't be disappointed!
2006-12-22 02:08:48 · answer #5 · answered by Jonathan G 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well I am not gay but I would just come out and tell them if they are really there for you they will love you no matter what.And I think it is stupid that people think it is wrong to be gay why should people care about your sexuality or not it is none of their buissness. And the bible wasn't even written by god it was inspired so how do they no god even said that gay is wrong and god loves and forgives everyone but I don't know it your christian or catholic haha.
2006-12-22 02:09:46 · answer #6 · answered by Taylor 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your parents will accept you and love you no matter what. If you are gay chances are they will not be all that surprised. Tell your parents first and then ask their advice about telling others. It will be OK. Not everyone is going to accept it but that's not your problem . You are who you are and you cannot live pretending to be someone else.
2006-12-22 02:42:18 · answer #7 · answered by sunny 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i have to agree that u should start by telling ur parent that u are closest to.. if might be difficult at first but in the end u are their son and they will accept it(how long i don't know)..
as to revealing to ur friends then it depends on how comfortable are u with them knowing that u are gay.. are u prepared for their criticism and their changed attitude towards u once u tell them? if u are then by all means tell them and if there are ur true friends then they would accept u..
2006-12-22 02:14:22 · answer #8 · answered by cfrozty 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Which parent are you closest to? Begin with that one, just say we need to talk, I need to share something with you, then just be honest and tell them. If you are still in school, it might be hard for you if friends spread it around, are you prepared for that? It might be you want to wait until you graduate to go public then there won't be teasing or any stupidity in the school with pranks, name calling, etc.
2006-12-22 02:07:31 · answer #9 · answered by Tina of Lymphland.com 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i have plenty of gay friends and their so fun! if you feel that your not ready to tell them then don't worry, the time will come and you'll feel it. unless you don't mind saying something then go for it. there is absolutey nothing wrong with being gay.
2006-12-22 02:12:00 · answer #10 · answered by ! 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋