Me and my boyfriend have been together for almost 4 years. We have a 4 month old daughter together, but he just wont give me the commitment I want. I want to get married, he says hes not ready for that yet. I want us to live together and he says he's waiting to see, what's going to happen with his job.(hes looking for another job and he doesnt know what part of the state hes going to be living in) Im the beginning of our relationship, he wanted he to move in with him and he wanted to get married, but I wasnt ready yet. I was only like 16 or 17. I'm 19 now and I have a baby I take care of, he does help me. I really do love him and I want to spend the rest of my life with him, but I don't think he feels the same way about me. He used to tell me that but he doesnt anymore. I really want to get over him, if hes not going to give me what I want, but I don't know how. I can't just say bye and never talk to him or see him again. He's going to want to see his daughter. I don't know what to do
2006-12-21 17:51:23 · 6 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
It's time to move on.
2006-12-21 17:56:08 · answer #1 · answered by slick chik 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just tell it like it is. Tell him that you want to be married and have a family. Give him a time frame. And an ultimatum and if hes not ready that you are going to start moving in the direction of finding someone else. In the meantime start doing things to empower your position alone. Get motivated to be happy regardless if hes ready or not. Don't plan your whole life around something you don't have any control over. Focus on the things you do have control over.
2006-12-22 01:56:52 · answer #2 · answered by Steph 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
sometimes loves dies when two people have been together for a couple of years and had a baby. u know why this happened bc u guys were playing the married role without actually being married. and got used to it and felt like he should not commit. what i suggest u guys do is just split up and take care of ur daughter. i know irs hard bc u love him and he is the father of ur child but the spark that he had for u just diminished and begging and pleading wont help either. after this i would just take care of ur daughter.
2006-12-22 01:57:33 · answer #3 · answered by superstar 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He's not ready to get married. If you love him wait til he's ready!
Otherwise you may be getting a divorce in a few years.
Just because you have a baby, you don't have to get married.
2006-12-22 04:07:14 · answer #4 · answered by ~*~Tessa~*~ 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if he is going to see his daughter it doesn't necesserelly mean he wants to see u. there re billions of divorsed people with children out there, who still see their children. i am one of them. i haven't seen my ex husband for 2 years now, but my children visit him every week. i intend continue not seeing him. he delivers them to the house, he is not allowed to come in.
2006-12-22 01:58:33 · answer #5 · answered by jacky 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
move on fast
2006-12-22 01:53:45 · answer #6 · answered by mandy s 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋