2006-12-21 17:29:58 · 12 answers · asked by .[Nae].♥ 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
umm, u dont say anything, like u promised
2006-12-21 17:40:16 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
To be honest, this is one of the hardest situations in life you can come across, simply because you obviously care for this friend. First off, you really need to encourage her to report it. I can't say if you should or shouldn't. I had a friend promise to keep quiet about something like this, and now, years later, I truly regret that, because now I realize what a horrible time it is trying to get over it, and I wish she had told. I still haven't, and I really wish she had, so badly, now. Yes, I would've been mad, but sometimes, you have to do things that you wouldn't ordinarily do, and this may be that case. You may lose her as a friend for a while, but she'll come around, and realize how much you helped her. At the same time, she needs someone she can trust, and someone she can depend on, and she's obviously hoping it will be you. Really, this is something you've got to decide for yourself. There are all sorts of angles to look at, and this is all I can tell you.
Good luck.
2006-12-22 01:50:45 · answer #2 · answered by kita_zira 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Honestly, the best thing you can do is to tell someone. I know for some people, their rape affected them psychologically, to the extent that they didn't realize how much they were messing up their lives. Don't let your friend get caught up into thinking that she can handle everything the way they are.
2006-12-22 01:47:50 · answer #3 · answered by stelle d. 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That's a shame. Too bad your friend isn't interested in reporting it so other girls don't get raped. I think you should ask her to consider that.
2006-12-22 01:39:36 · answer #4 · answered by Violet Pearl 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Somehow convince them that they need to tell someone, even a counselor.
Ask them this:
What if this guy did this to someone else and that person didn't tell anyone either and now they did it to you, if that guy would of been reported this may of not happened, how would you feel if he keeps doing this to others, or a loved one of yours?
2006-12-22 04:09:58 · answer #5 · answered by LC 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You have to encourage her to report this. Tell her you will if she doesn't. This person will do this again to someone else. It is her and your moral obligation. Rape is a terrible crime and must be reported. Please follow up and don't let this crime happen again.
2006-12-22 01:39:03 · answer #6 · answered by Dianne 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Call your local women's shelter. They deal with this sort of issue regularly and can give you advice and referrals. Even if she doesn't press charges, there are things they can do to help her.
2006-12-22 01:39:37 · answer #7 · answered by heart o' gold 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
ask her what you can do to help her,she needs to take care of herself, and if you keeping it a secret is one than I guess you better had, I feel bad that you are put in this position, as there is so much that SHOULD be done but your hands are tied, This girl needs to feel safe so please do not break her trust,
2006-12-22 01:38:31 · answer #8 · answered by rkilburn410 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Talk to them about it, and tell them you feel for them.
Suggest that they go to a counciler, offer to take them.
If they don't go and they're obviously REALLY hurt, go to a counciler alone, and be anonymous about it, ask them what your friend should do.
If they do go, be totally supportive. =]
2006-12-22 01:32:50 · answer #9 · answered by rosebudlikespie 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell your folks and let them talk with your freinds parents, and good freind would not keep quiet about this. Your freind needs your help and you have to help her.
2006-12-22 01:43:38 · answer #10 · answered by cowbaron1892 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋