I can't feel that my husband still loves me. We didn't fight or argue. But I don't why he doesn't kiss, hug, talk, and sleep with me since we had our second baby. He just want to sleep alone, and the kids sleep with me. When I hug him, he didn't respond or hug me back. What should I do? Do you have to find another partner or divorce him?
2006-12-21 17:06:38 · 8 answers · asked by Grace G 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Talk to him about this before you start thinking divorce. People do not talk anymore and that causes so many problems in a marriage.
2006-12-21 17:16:02 · answer #1 · answered by Mimi 4 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Yoou have gotten some really good responses. There is a reason that he doesn't kiss, hug, talk or sleep with you since the second child. How long has that been? Have you gained alot of weight since having kids? You must find out the 'why'. Get a babysitter and plan an evening where you sit down and really talk--heart to heart. Be prepared to hear things you might find difficult, but if you love him, you will need to know the why before you can know what to do. Good luck. You probably need some counseling. Church? Pastor? But start with a sincere desire and see if he won't just open up and be honest.
2006-12-22 01:56:18 · answer #2 · answered by Nisey 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Divorce is not the first answer to every problem in marriage. Have you sat down and asked him how he feels? Also, your children should be sleeping in their beds, regardless of whether or not your husband is in bed with you.
When did he start acting this way? Children certainly change the dynamic of a marriage. How many kids do you have? Did you both agree to have them? How did you adjust after the first child? You should ask your husband if he'd be willing to go to counseling with you. Finding another partner will not solve your problem, and cheating is not an option.
Talk to your husband; go to counseling. Make the effort to fix your marriage first. If you've done all you can, then think about ending your marriage...not before.
2006-12-22 01:18:20 · answer #3 · answered by Le_Roche 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Communication is the only resolution. There is obviously something going on with your husband, but there are some things that you do to. I think you need to work on your issues and get to the root of the problem. Have you put your children between you two? Get them out of your bed so your husband will come back into it!
If the marriage is worth saving then your both have to put forth effort.
2006-12-22 01:19:52 · answer #4 · answered by Topaz 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
its time to sit down and talk to him.. see what is going on with him... before you make any moves.... it could just be some changes that the two of you are going through... If however the love is gone... then yes it is time to move on.... just be ready its a long road to be single.. its not always greener on the other side.. i have raised two kids for 15 years on my own... the love was gone.. and yes i would do it again... but it does have some lasting effects on your kids so think long and hard before you do anything
2006-12-22 02:19:27 · answer #5 · answered by greeneyebutterfly 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
May I humbly suggest that you seek therapy. If the kids slept w/ my wife, I would sleep alone as well. There are other things going on here, but divorce is not the answer.
2006-12-22 01:35:19 · answer #6 · answered by Joe Cool 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
In my beliefs divorce is never an option. Things are just that way. I know because I experience it frequently. You can however start loving yourself. Make yourself as pretty as you know how and eventually he will realize what he has. If he doesn't then he's not worth it.
2006-12-22 01:13:52 · answer #7 · answered by liberty girl 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Maybe your just going through post partum depression. Look up the signs. That may be very well what you are going through. I went through it when I had my son.
2006-12-22 01:21:33 · answer #8 · answered by Leyanis 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋