my boyfriend wants to have a baby, but i don't know if he's serious about us. i want him to be there for me after we actually have the baby. i'm afraid to give him what he wants, because i think i might be punishing him for what my dad did to my mom abandoned my sister and i when we were really young girls. I love this guy so much and would do anything to make hime happy. i'm not saying that i don't want to have a this baby cause i do, but i everytime i try to ask if he's serious he says yes and he'll be there for me and the baby, but i'm not sure if i believe him what do you think i should do with a situation like this? i honestly love this guy to a pulp and he says he loves me too, i know it's not your decision, but i need someone elses opinion. can you guys help me.
2006-12-21 16:55:24 · 11 answers · asked by Bomblebee18 1 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Trying to Conceive
If you are not sure about him being around that is a sign that he might not be around after the baby comes.
Then you are stuck to raise a child all by your self.
Talking baby is easy. Actually having a baby is a Great responsibility which involves father and mother.
You are not obligated to have a child for him. Let him make you his wife and then it will be more beautiful to have a family together.
Wait do not be in a hurry.
2006-12-22 13:07:35 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Here's the reality: You will have a baby, it's not that difficult, especially if you are young (sounds like it) and getting to it regularly. Shortly after you start blimping up and becoming less interested in sex, your wonderful boyfriend is going to start cheating and go for the next best thing. Next thing you know you will be a young mother without a future tapping into the system for all your financial needs, without a dime of help from your wonderful boyfriend. You may know a couple of people this has already happened to - you usually don't have to look very far.
2006-12-21 17:11:39 · answer #2 · answered by whitney 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Personally, I think if the two of you are serious enough about each other to want to have a baby together, you should start by getting married. I know that some people have a problem with marriage or don't believe in it, but I think that two people should be comfortable making that commitment to each other before they make the commitment to making a new human being. It will take both of you to raise that child right, and that will only be accomplished if you are commited to each other as well as your family.
2006-12-21 17:04:27 · answer #3 · answered by makin_the_same_mistakes 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Thats funny...
hes not serious about you but for some strange reason...
he is serious about spending the rest of his life with a child. I feel bad for any child that you might conceive.
wake up girl.
you are better than that.
why would you want someone to grow up like you did when you are STILL complaining about what happen to you?????
Think about it????
I will never say I had the perfect family (hell no i did not) but I will make damm sure that when I do make the CHOICE to have one that they do grow up in one that is as good as I can get it. And there is no reason why you shouldn't.
2006-12-21 17:19:02 · answer #4 · answered by michiganwife 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you are doubting if he will even be there then don't. You should really question why he wants a baby. Alot of guys will feed that line to a girl thinking if they have a baby then no other man will want them. It is up to you so think long and hard about it.If you want to see if he is committed to you then ask him why not get ,married first then have a baby?
Go to http://www.justmommies.com for trying to conceive tips
2006-12-21 17:02:35 · answer #5 · answered by ஐ♥Julian'sMommy♥ஐ 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2016-10-15 10:19:41 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
i think if you really love him you should trust him and if you trust him just know that he will be there for you and the baby, but if there have been situations where he say he's going to do something and doesn't then maybe you should rethink the whole thing and don't have the baby
2006-12-21 19:31:07 · answer #7 · answered by need a man but confused 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If your boyfriend wants you to have his baby, tell him to put a ring on your finger first. That will tell you if he is serious or not.
2006-12-21 18:24:42 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
if you are sure you want to get pregnant, then take a good multivitamin, like a liquid or a capsule with Vitamin E and Folic Acid.
2006-12-21 17:29:42 · answer #9 · answered by Amy D 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If your that unsure.......NO WAY would I ! Its one thing to say, "I'll be there", and actually doing it..... I found WORDS ARE CHEAP ! Actions hunny !
2006-12-21 17:02:11 · answer #10 · answered by Missy 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋