that you guys made a mistake and that you want a separation?i just think we need some time apart because things are just NOT going well and ive tried EVERYTHING.we cant seem to come to a compromise when we talk it out,its miserable when we just dont talk at all.i just need some time to clear my head.how do i say all of this without him going off or me feeling bad and wimping out?
2006-12-21 16:55:20 · 17 answers · asked by mrs.dynomite 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Is a seperation the answer? I just don't believe that works. To me eventualy one or the other starts to see others and it get's worse. Why don't you let him read some of the answers to your question? Maby he'll see that everyone knows conversation rules the nation except for him.
2006-12-21 17:17:45 · answer #1 · answered by liberty girl 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If it's any help at all to you - you're not alone. I've been trying to figure out what to do about my own situation like that for the 7 years we've been married. Every time I even hint that this might not be a good situation for both of us, all heck breaks loose.
Good luck to you, hope you're stronger/braver than I am. It's not fun.
2006-12-22 01:04:14 · answer #2 · answered by Baby'sMom 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
have you tried a sincere letter from the heart,sometimes that is enough to open eyes,and in this letter you might suggest family or marriage counseling and let him know you want to work things out but you guys can't do it by your selves you need proffessional help. Good Luck and God Bless
2006-12-22 01:22:05 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Do you know of any other couples who have successful marriages? Maybe they have gone through your same situation. It's natural to get married and then feel like, "Omigosh...what did I do?!" or "This is some bull____!" lol It will pass.
What you do want to do is tell your husband how you've been feeling. Without using the "S" word. You don't want to sound like you're giving him an ultimatum (unless you really intend to act on it). If he felt that way about you, wouldn't you want to know?
Just my $.0000002 cents; Good luck!!!
2006-12-22 01:15:38 · answer #4 · answered by Prodigalchild 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Perhaps organise a holiday by yourself if you need thinking time. Or counselling if you want to resolve your issues. - Couples counselling and personal counselling for you to help make up your mind.
Good luck. No matter what it is not going to be easy. He is likely to struggle with a major change no matter what, especially if he is happier in the current relationship.
2006-12-22 01:01:27 · answer #5 · answered by Ms Piggy 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
sometimes you don't need to spell everything out...how about writing him a letter to explain what you want to do and why you are doing it. I find letters/emails effective as they filter out the tone of voice and we tend to get emotional or angry when discussing about such issues. I find that we are fixated in fixing things and but what we really need to do is to clear our head and that helps to put things into perspective at times. go ahead and time out...we need that once in a while. good luck!
2006-12-22 06:19:17 · answer #6 · answered by labrin 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
just say it ... straight... the more you delay... the harder it will be... the more it will hurt.... listen.. no need for a formal separation... just go on a holiday for some few weeks... and then come back.. i guess you both are not giving enough space to each other.... just try to give that.. you can do so without separation also....
2006-12-22 01:09:50 · answer #7 · answered by mitr_hamesha 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Tell him that you are un-happy with the way you guys are getting along. and that you need space to clear your head, if he doesnt wanna work thing's out.
Your only human, and you deserve the best.
So do it for You..dont do it for him.
2006-12-22 01:01:27 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
just be honest at the end of trhe day u have to live with ur descion. it also depends on what type of temper he has....
2006-12-22 01:01:12 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Write him a letter and tell him everything.
Dont wast time, do it urgently.
2006-12-22 02:02:10 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋