a tough decision ....and they WERE NOT IN YOUR SHOES...easy for them to say...SHOULD YOU TELL IT OR NOT? OUT OF FEAR OF judgment??? WHAT IS YOUR TAKE ON THAT???
2006-12-21 16:40:37 · 8 answers · asked by sweet 4 in Social Science ➔ Psychology
You know the old saying about opinions: "...everyone has one." People will think what they will; what's important is that you do what you believe is right.
2006-12-21 17:19:16 · answer #1 · answered by Néant Humain 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Worrying about the consequences of every decision, tough or not, suggests someone who is ultimately not comfortable with their own identity. To be criticized, even by people who mean well, is part of what makes humans social creatures.
A person who ignored any sort of criticism would essentially be a dictator, unresponsive to outsider input even when the criticism could be beneficial. Being criticised, and taking such advice in, is what allows us to better understand not only how we make decisions (did they see something I do that I don't) but how well our own internal processes are working (sometimes, the more people criticise you, the more it reveals about them rather than about the rationale behind your decisions.)
No matter whatever you do, someone will always think you did it the wrong way, or it could have been better, or you didn't do it the way they would have done it, etc., etc. etc... But your life is not their life. Trying to make your life, and decisions, fit other people's lives never works, because you will be unhappy denying yourself and they will be unhappy because, no matter how hard you try to be like them, ultimately you aren't.
If you cannot be yourself, how can you find out what it is only you can uniquely contribute to human existence?
2006-12-22 01:12:52 · answer #2 · answered by Khnopff71 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Never fear getting advice , advice is awesome, you can take it or leave it.
Ultimately it is your decision on any issue. I personally think that if you do ask for advice only ask if you are willing to at least listen. I always ask someone that is mature and wont either get mad, or laugh when you tell them something, and they usually are the ones to give the best advice on issues. But like I said it is YOU that has to live with whatever decision you make, wether it be tough or not. Good luck
2006-12-22 00:47:25 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
remeber that people will have an opinion of you either way. My motto however is "if you want to know anything about a person, look at his friends". Remember the compliments and forget the insults after all since when did we get anywhere productivly on anger?
2006-12-22 01:00:25 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Humility, for me. In psychoanalysis I make wild guesses and am not afraid to be wrong. You won't find out if you are wrong unless you put it out there. Join us who don't have to be right all the time. Be proud of your humility. It opens up the world of thinking for you. We are very special people.
The Gestalt Prayer:
I am not in this world to live up to your expectations.
You are not here to live up to mine.
If somehow we meet it can be beautiful.
If not it can't be helped.
2006-12-22 00:56:52 · answer #5 · answered by Russell W 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Learning how not to blab everything in your head is a valuable asset. Often it is best just to keep your mouth shut! If you don't talk about it you don't have to deal with their remarks. It's your life. Learn how to live it without having to consult someone else. Zip it!`````````````````~~~~~~~~
2006-12-22 00:46:50 · answer #6 · answered by ruthie 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
people will judge you whatever you do. you have to do what you feel is right and not worry what others think.
2006-12-22 00:42:32 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
people will always have some thing to say, just don't worry about it
2006-12-22 00:47:52 · answer #8 · answered by Love Exists? 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋