I may not have explained the situation well enough the first time. He decided to go to work up there with 3 other guys as nurses. They all share an apartment and expenses. All are married. I said, he didn't want me to move to California which is not completely true. He doesn't want me here at home depressed and lonely, but my moving kinda makes the whole idea of getting paid more in california and me living in a lower cost of living state not worth the money. And, also housing in California is pricey. He is enrolled in school becomin an Rn. And, has said he needs my support at this time, yet all of my plans seem to be on hold. We had talked about starting a family before he hopped the plane to cali and decided to work there..now he says not until he finishes college which will be in 1 1/2 years. I will be 36 or 37 at that time...which is not an age I ever wanted to have my first child at. I feel like I need to move on.. HELP?
2006-12-21 16:34:41 · 5 answers · asked by Hear2Help 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
It sounds like he has moved on to another life. Don't waste your time. He should be sharing a room and expenses with you!
2006-12-21 16:54:03 · answer #1 · answered by holliemay 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
36-37 is not too old to have kids.
To wait for him to be done with school (1 1/2 yrs) is not very long for him to get an excellent job. There are job opportunities in every city.
You can get divorced & find another guy to start a family with. By that time, you could be 36-37 as well.
2006-12-21 16:52:01 · answer #2 · answered by Daiquiri Dream 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you married this man right? you either go to CA or you stay put. You made a commitment. Julia Roberts was on Oprah today, and she has 2 one year olds at 39.... there are going to be tough times in any marriage... If I were you, I would talk to him about moving to CA until i was blue in the face, but I would submit to his final descision, because he is the man. 1 1/2 years is not as long as it once was.
2006-12-21 17:00:32 · answer #3 · answered by angel777 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Why can't you do both?
There is more to it huh? Saying you feel like you need to move on-I can't help but sense the insecurity the whole situation is causing for you.
2006-12-21 17:02:32 · answer #4 · answered by Little Jeannie 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Seems like your marriage is over and he is telling you he does not want any children
2006-12-21 16:44:09 · answer #5 · answered by Mimi 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋