i want to marry her but i want to have things in order first. she is so consumed with getting married it is messing up our relationship. at this point i think if i ask her to marry me she will be like damn what took so long. How can i make things better until i am able to get her a ring and ask her to marry me?
2006-12-21 16:26:55 · 15 answers · asked by Anthony C 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
Tell her that you are not getting married anytime soon.you have goals to reach and do want to be able to afford to get married. Tell her that her constant 24/7 on the subject is getting old, that you will ask her when you feel like your are ready in every way to get married, that is would be foolish to jump off into something without being totally sure that all is right. Tell her that she is smothering you with the 24/7 thing and if she wants to later get married , she needs to give you some space to take time to organize things in you own life to get married or you will get space away from her on a permanent basic. If she loves you, she will shut up and let you do it.
2006-12-21 16:39:27 · answer #1 · answered by m c 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First of all, i will say that, don't ask any woman to Marry you until YOU are ready and really ready. Every woman has her mind on marriage, i won't lie to you. Even the ones who say they don't, do it once in a while. She had been planing her wedding since she probably started playing with dolls. Sit her down and tell her that you consider her a very special and amazing person and you can picture your self having a future with her, but you want that future to be a good one, and you want to do it right and she needs to allow you to get it done on your own time, so you can actually have a great marriage, not one that end in divorce court six months later because one of you just can't stand the way the other person chews or something trivial like that.
Good luck!!
2006-12-22 00:49:26 · answer #2 · answered by Miss_P 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Come on lol ask her to marry u, after 2 years why not? surely u can get some kind of ring! until u can get a better one! stop putting it off life are to short! so u may never get it in order, make her happy and work on getting it in order together!!!!!!!!!!
2006-12-22 00:43:08 · answer #3 · answered by Kas-O 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I also wandering why most of the girls want to get marry ASAP.
and why men always want to keep their freedom as long as they can. Different point of view may be. Maybe She's just afraid that you only playing with her and not serious, best thing to do is explain to her nicely about the condition.
2006-12-22 00:34:42 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell her what you just said here. On the other hand, make sure within your own heart, that you are not just dragging things along because of fear or something. Make sure that in your heart of hearts, that you really want her and that you truly want to be married to her. Make sure that your reasons for holding off marriage are truly, exactly and only the reasons you have given here.
2006-12-22 01:38:13 · answer #5 · answered by Jonathan G 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Let me tell you a little story about a man named Jed, he was hooked up with a woman that all she thought of was to get bread.
He thought she loved him but what she wanted was to have someone take care of her.
She is in love with getting married, make sure she loves you first.
Take a break from her, and you will see that she will find someone else to marry her within the year. It is not you she wants it is something else.
2006-12-22 00:45:17 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Tell her you want to marry her one day, but you are not ready right now. Tell her that her pressuring you is damaging your relationship. Ask her to wait for you to be ready. That's all you can do.
Be prepared: My brother did this with his long-time girlfriend who was pressuring him for marriage, and she dumped him and is marrying someone else. If you really do want to marry her and you don't want to lose her, just marry her!
2006-12-22 00:30:45 · answer #7 · answered by No Shortage 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Explain that things have to be right for the both of you. That your dreams matter to you, too. And, your dreams include doing things in the proper manner...in the proper order.
If she is obsessed with it....beware. That should throw up a red flag that something isn't quite right, somehow.
According to the Bible....Love is patient, love is kind....love never fails.
btw......I had a very dear friend in high school named Anthony C.
Thanks for making me think of him. :)
2006-12-22 00:34:22 · answer #8 · answered by treefrog 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Explain to her that you want to wait for the right moment. And say if she keeps asking you, that she isn't letting the moment just happen, it won't be a suprise for her the way you want it to be. Tell her just to take time and it will happen when the time is right, be sweet and sincere, she will be able to see in your eyes. if she gets mad, let her, dont try to argue your point, stay calm and let her talk then, state your point again.
good luck
2006-12-22 00:33:21 · answer #9 · answered by sweet_g_grl 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What is it that needs to be in order? Or is just a stall tactic? I have to guess your reasons for waiting are not sound reason to her. If you don't want to lose her then at least set a date!
2006-12-22 00:30:25 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋