He only hangs out with girls, he has no guy friends, he spends 30 mins. in front of the mirror to do his hair, he sorta talks funny, and it's always really awkward when he's around us. We all think he's gay, but he would die if we approached him about it. He's a severely devout Catholic. Is he just "struggling?"
2006-12-21 16:24:20 · 25 answers · asked by tropical.dots 1 in Society & Culture ➔ Cultures & Groups ➔ Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual, and Transgender
I can't just ASK him. He would be deeply offended and would probably never talk to us again. =/ And he's a good friend, but lately, everything is just weird whenever he's around. And it's not about the sex, BTW. Gross.
2006-12-21 16:29:46 · update #1
If he is truly gay then be will not be offended for very long... He probably will be relieved that you all had the guts to ask him.
Be his friend and just ask, if I had been asked by the girls at my school (my friends) it would have made my life a little easier.
2006-12-21 16:36:25 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Stop it.
Why do you feel the need to label this poor guy?
Your instincts are very likely on target, but if he hasn't made moves to identify himself as gay then your shouldn't either.
Young gay men often live in fear that the jocks and other straight guys will catch on to their preference, and that he'll be the butt of all the homophobic jokes,derision and even physical abuse.
Give him the dignity to decide hs sexual preference for himself. When he feels safe, he may confide in a friend.
Conversely, he won't appreciate your personal questions and prodding him to "share" something he may not yet understand yet anyway.
You may "force" him into the open, lose his friendship, and cause him problems he's not ready to handle. Don't do it.
2006-12-21 16:37:53 · answer #2 · answered by chocolahoma 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What would you do if he is? Accept him as he is, but if he is confused then he should find a priest with faith and seek for help. Many people use the church as a refuge to hide who they really are and the truth is that we all can do the same thing. We can do good and we can all do bad. God can make a saint out of any sinner just bow your head in front of Him and accept His free love. There is nothing to be scandalize, but he is going to need a lot of prayer.
2006-12-21 16:43:43 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
First off, it's none of your business if he is or isn't. So, you simply can't be sure, nor should you try.
I don't mean to be rude, but you really should but out of his personal life especially at work. IF you as so as mention or hint that he may or may not be gay can be concidered as sexual harassment and YOU can be fired...not to mention that you may be putting his employment at risk as well if your state doesn't have GLBT employment protections.
So be kind and drop it. Leave him alone and don't bring it up again at work. It's inappropriate and jeopardizes both your jobs.
2006-12-21 16:38:43 · answer #4 · answered by DEATH 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Very recently I had a friend come out to me and you just described him perfectly. My theory at this point becomes....if you suspect it to be, it probably is...at least in the case of gay. Like you said, he just may be struggling. And, if he is and decides to "come out", I would think it's healthier to let him pick the moment when to disclose this information.
2006-12-21 16:29:17 · answer #5 · answered by psycheab 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There are guys that act feminine but all completely straight. Maybe he is one of the smart ones knowing when it comes to dating that location is everything. Don't be surprised if he makes a move on one you. It might be in a subtle and sly way but I wouldn't be surprised.
2006-12-21 16:29:10 · answer #6 · answered by Love of Truth 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The only way to do it is one of you or your friends have to fall on the knife. Pretend to come on to him. Now this only works if you are moderately to very attractive. If you're constantly being turned down by guys this test doesn't work. Go as far as even kissing him. If at this time he seems like he's completely out of place or you or your friends get to the kiss and it feels like making out with your brother, the liklihood is he is more prone to grease the flag pole if ya know what I mean.
2006-12-21 16:34:36 · answer #7 · answered by peardietz 3 · 0⤊ 2⤋
just chill with him one on one with out the other girl friends. an ask him an tell him what ever way he is you will be his friend no matter what an he can be open with you an let him answer an let it be after that if he doesn't feel right talking yet about it
2006-12-21 16:28:19 · answer #8 · answered by rodeogirl 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
He's probably gay, but I can understand why you can't ask him. Can you ask him if he's dating anyone, about his relationships? Maybe talk about other gay people in a positive light, so he can be sure you will be nonjudgmental if he confides in you?
Still, he may be in denial and not even willing to admit it to himself. Maybe what he needs is time.
2006-12-21 16:31:35 · answer #9 · answered by Becca 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
His sexual preference is none of your business! Hanging out with girls doesn't sound gay to me. If he hung out with guys only I might think he was gay.
2006-12-21 16:28:22 · answer #10 · answered by Mothman 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋