how do i explain to my friends that i have 2 moms? (i was born artificially inseminated)?

Question

i dont want to make it confusing, & i dont want them to think im weird

Answer 1

Just be honest.... like everyone else said.
If they are really your friends, they will understand.... if they don't then they were never really your friends in the first place.

Sometimes life has a great way of testing who your real friends are.

I remember a girl in my school when I was 10 who had 2 dads... she told her friends and while some ditched her, the ones she had left just became even better friends to her.
It all just depends. If your friends askes you questions, don't take it wrong, they could be curious and trying to understand better which only works if they question.

Don't mention the "artificially inseminated" part unless they want to know how you were born. (Since you weren't adopted)

Chances are the real friends will think the whole thing is cool and just become a stronger/closer friend to you.

I hope this helps some :-) Take care!

Answer 2

I think what your trying to say is you were born as a result of artificial insemination . So your saying 1# you have a mother and father plus perhaps a surrogate mom carried you to term and gave birth to you . Or 2# your two moms are life partners I'll just say and one was artificially inseminated and you are the result . I think in answering your question that you should ask yourself the reason you would feel this should be explained to your friends . If you feel a need to explain there are a few ways of which you could do this depending on which of the above examples we are speaking of . If number one is correct and you have a mother, father & surrogate mother then little need to explain or mention . If number two is the correct circumstance of which you speak and you have two mothers which are life partners , you could just say that your father left after you were born and you have never met him which may be the case , if so you would be telling the truth . My advice is don't offer information that isn't asked of you as it would be a bit confusing to explain ( hoping I'm helping some ). Your not weird for being in your situation please don't feel that way about it . If you must tell of the situation just speak of them as life partners and take it from there , don't let any comments about it get to you . Be glad you have two people who love you . Many people don't I'm sure you know . Good luck to you ! Have a Merry Christmas :)

Answer 3

One point you have in your favor is that by being artificially inseminated you know for sure you were not an "oops", but you were definitely wanted. Point that out to someone who may think you're different or weird. There is nothing weird in being wanted as a child and therefore being loved.

You can also bring up the fact that in the wilderness, as is the case with some bird species, males are used used mainly to donate sperm or inseminate the egg, while a pair of females raises the young from birth.

Answer 4

Unfortunately it's not likely you'll get a very nice response unless you know your friends will not be judgmental.

I don't know your age, or how your friends are, so I don't really know how they'll react. If you're asking this question, I'm fairly certain you're unsure they'll react.

The best way I can see going about it is to probably just make it a casual thing. Don't sit them all down and go through a nervous explanation with them, because then if they don't like it, you'll be more susceptible to their harsh comments. Just make it into something you'd just regularly talk about.. Like: "My mom said this, and my other mom said.." or something like that.

You don't have anyone to please. They're supposed to be your friends and if they can't accept something about you, then they shouldn't be your friends. I think you should prepare yourself for the worst, in case some of them are really very against it (which is possible) and don't want to be your friend anymore.

Also, I would not include the specifics of it. Like the artificial insemination. The only way I'd include that is if they specifically asked about how you were born.

Answer 5

That's a hard one. They probably won't be confused by it. I could be wrong, as I haven't been a kid in awhile, but I think a lot of people are more aware of "alternative lifestyles" than they used to be. That of course doesn't mean they'll accept it or that they won't think you're "weird".

If you choose to tell all of your friends, the odds are, sadly, some will probably not accept it and even reject you for it. This is the type of situation where you find out who your real friends are. You may wish to only tell select friends at first. Perhaps those that you consider to be the most open minded, and most trustworthy (so you know they won't go blabbing it to everybody before you're ready for everyone to know).

You may want to kind of "test the waters" first, by bringing up the subject of same sex relationships, gay couples raising children, etc... and see how they react before you tell them.

If your 2 moms are still together, you will have to let some of your friends know eventually, or they will end up thinking you're "weird" anyway, like... when you never wanna invite them over.

And while it may seem to you right now that being thought of as "weird" is the worst thing in the world, as you grow older you will come to realize that there's really no such things as "weird", that we're all a little "weird", which makes being "weird" a whole hell of a lot less "weird" than you originally thought. You'll also realize that there's more important things to worry about than whether or not people think you're "weird"... like self-respect, living as you believe is right despite what some around you may think and feel about it, and like having integrity and showing respect for others. If you're lucky, some of your friends may already be mature enough to realize these things.

Answer 6

Tell them just what you wrote there! Tell them you were artificially insiminatod, like at a sperm bank. They probably have heard of it before,
And weird is very good by the way!
Even though that's not weird.
Good luck,

EDIT:
Just tell them you have two moms I mean. I don't think I was too clear, I don't think it should bother them if there your friends. And if it does, then they aren't too great a friends are they?

Answer 7

Keep things as simple as you want to. You will probably find your social life tougher if people know your mother is a lesbian and your dad is a robot. Why not tell them you only want one of them to be known as your mom (with regard to seeing your teachers and your friends). The other can be your aunt. Sisters sometimes live with each other. If people ever ask why they do, give an answer that everyone from tramp to President understands: to save money!

Answer 8

if they are truly your friend, then they will understand.
you could start out by saying something like " what do you think about artificial insemination?" and see what they say. but they really don't need to know unless you really think that you need to tell them. you have 2 moms so your special.
and don't listen to princess lisa, your not a freak. you are special

Answer 9

There is nothing at all confusing about what you just said, and your part in this situation doesn't make YOU weird. It might be better if you'd be more direct (honest?) about what you find problematic in this situation. It sounds like you're avoiding something really obvious because of your own feelings about it.

Answer 10

Ok, let's not make this complicated. The deep answers are great, but the straight answers are my preference. Personally I prefer some humor and non-verball communication. The conversation goes something like this. You tell them with a gesture.

You see you were concieved (double pump hip action) like this. I was concieved like (syringe finger action) like this. This places them off gaurd with your humor and goes over well if drinks are applied first. :-)