I thought my boyfriend went to visit his family (which he did for a day) and then he flew to las vegas for his friend's wedding. He lied to me all week and made me think he was still with his family until he finally admitted he lied and said his flight was cancelled because of the snow so he is driving back. Should I break up with him? We have been having issues anyway...
2006-12-21 15:51:53 · 21 answers · asked by Amber 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
I think that I would definitely take a "breather" from the relationship. If you were already having problems, then lying for a week doesn't help matters any. This was very disrespectful and you have to ask yourself, would he have told you the truth if his flight hadn't been canceled? I think that you should take some time for yourself to find out what is best for you. If you don't have trust, you don't have anything. Good Luck!
2006-12-21 15:59:14 · answer #1 · answered by Ginger P 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Here is where you stand legally: He has to give you 30 days, even if you're not on the lease. As long as you have at least ONE piece of mail that arrives at that address, you live there too and he has to give you 30 days to gather your belongings. If you arrive and the locks are changed, you can try to get the apartment manager/super to open it based on the fact you still live there. If they won't- call the police, and have them come and assess the situation. They might not be legally allowed to let you in asap, but it will be documented on the report at least and later if anything should happen to your belingings you will have grounds to sue him. If he puts your stuff on the street, do whatever you can to get it asap and then file charges. Also, You should report the abuse to the police. Also the landlord probably did not give him permission to change the locks, you should tell the landlord so they can make him change it back or fine him. All that aside- if it's past 30 days he doesn't have to keep your stuff, and it's really not his problem you don't have anywhere to put your stuff. If worse comes to worst then rent a uhaul and a storage facility until the 9th. If youre afraid he will hurt you if you go to fet your stuff, have a policeman meet you there on the grounds he has threatened to punch you in the face.
2016-05-23 12:04:40 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
aaah....if he told you he was going to Vegas for a friends wedding, you would've wanted to go with him. I mean, most wedding invites include the phrase And Guest.
and when I read this, the first thing I thought was....oh, he wanted to have Single guy fun.
He was being completely selfish.
If you decide to stay with him, don't be surprised if he pulls more stunts like that in the future. And, do you really want someone who is not trustworthy?
2006-12-21 16:02:29 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Once he lies and you let him get away with it then he will cotinue to do so. Don't get in the cycle of being w/someone that lies. There are better men out there that won't lie and would probably have taken you to Vegas to. If you have more than this issue then yes leave. It will only get worse. Merry Christmas!
2006-12-21 15:59:40 · answer #4 · answered by lynnie 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
First, this is strange that you could not go with him at the wedding. (were there really a wedding?) He might have not invited you because he feared that you would do something he wouldn't like. (refuse to go/complaining about anything/could not have fun at wedding??) If that is the case, I think you should have a serious talk, if not, just ask him why he lied to you BUT!!! if you want an honest answer, DON'T do it while you are mad, angry or if you just want to give hell to him. Sit in front of him, look at him and ask him... Then you will know what to do...
2006-12-21 15:58:39 · answer #5 · answered by wild4040 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
My boyfriend lies to me about the women he sees. He makes friends with women then does not awnser his phone (lies about that i busted him) and then tells me he will not talk to them anymore (lies about that busted him) and he says he will not tell me the truth about who he meets/sees as friends (all attractive women) and the only time I find out the truth is when I am suspcious and ask him about it and pry it out of him. Now he is a liar and there is no way for him to change becuse he doesnt see the problem. Your boyfriend didnt want you going to vegas with him and didnt want you to know he was there to ask questions..mabye he was screweing around. Either way he is a liar and unless you want to be stuck with someone who is going to break your heart over and over get out. Please get out. I have a baby with this boy, I thought it would change him, but he just lies and lies and actually only is honest about not telling the truth. You desreve better, and so do I.
2006-12-21 19:30:58 · answer #6 · answered by jennyve25 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i wouldn't go to that extreme so he went to a friends wedding unless he is just telling you that and went to Vegas for a girl but you have no way of knowing that so just talk to him and get him interested in you again but as for the lieing thing if he has to lie there is something wrong and you need to work it out or tell him whats up
2006-12-21 15:55:49 · answer #7 · answered by oopsman_09 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
He is only your boyfriend not your husband. Yes he lied to you and that is not good. But he did tell you the truth otherwise you would of never known. If you want to break up with him then do so.
2006-12-21 16:46:56 · answer #8 · answered by Mimi 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like the proverbial straw that breaks the camel's back. If you have other issues, this latest development is as good a reason to end it as any.
2006-12-21 16:26:52 · answer #9 · answered by SafetyDancer 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Get off line and get on the next flight
2006-12-21 15:57:31 · answer #10 · answered by Agree 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋