The baby's father left me... but I'm with someone who wants to be with me and take care of the baby that's not even his. What should I do??
2006-12-21 15:47:55 · 22 answers · asked by babiskillz00 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
Let's see here:
You can go throw yourself at some sorry sack of sh*t who...after he'd knocked you up...took off and didn't give a rat's *ss about you or his own damn baby..
OR
You can be with someone who loves you SO MUCH that he wants to be with you and...not only take care of you, but also take care of and try to be a good father for your child...even though it's not physically his.
Hmmm....tough choice here.
The ONLY thing I have any doubt about is that...to me...the second guy deserves better than to have someone who'd even THINK of going back to that first SOB.
2006-12-21 15:55:24 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Exes are exes for a reason. Having a baby with a guy doesn't change that. A dad is more than just a sperm donor. Don't let a maybe mess with a sure thing. He had his chance to be with you. Now he needs to be there for his daughter. You have a child with him. So he should always be around. If the other relationship doesn't work out, he will still be there and just as into you if it's meant to be. Besides, lots of men want the women they left after she's moved on. Don't let him play you girl!
2006-12-21 23:58:12 · answer #2 · answered by Shon 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Oh my goodness...I just watched this SAME EXACT case on Divorce Court today! OK..well..first and most important question is...Do you love the guy; that takes care of you and your baby;but is not your baby's father? I believe; if you do; then you wouldn't have to ask this question; and it's not his fault that the twerp that got you knocked up is not mature enough to make up his mind; so I would suggest you set the good guy free so he can let someone that deserves his generosity and love; have it. NOW if im wrong and you do love this guy; then you should stay with him and tell your baby's father that he may still be your baby's father(id let him pay child support either way too). GOOD LUCK!
2006-12-22 00:31:41 · answer #3 · answered by shaylea29 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Stay put. You are alucky to have someone who loves you and your child. Seems like the baby's father was a selfish loser. He doesn't strike me a someone to keep around as a role model. You and your child deserve better treatment than what he has given you. There is nothing better than being loved for you - not having to impress or earn that persons love. Second time around I found myself with a very special man - he is now my best friend and believe it or not I love him MORE.
2006-12-21 23:56:10 · answer #4 · answered by Tequila 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Isn't the answer obvious to you? Stay with the decent guy who takes care of you and your daughter. Why would you go back to someone who left you???
2006-12-22 00:19:34 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
YOU NEED TO DO WHAT RIGHT FOR YOU AND YOUR CHILD
THAT THE FIRST THING, IF THIS MAN LEFT HIS CHILD HE
NOT A MAN, AND THE FACT THAT SOMEONE ELSE WANT
'TO TAKE CARE OF SOMEONE ESLE SITUATION IS A GOOD
MAN. BUT ONLY YOU KNOW YOUR HEART, BUT IF HE
LEFT ONCE WHY WHEN THING GET BAD WHE WONT
LEAVE AGAIN. THEN YOU WOULD HAVE GIVEN UP
SOMEONE GOOD. AS FOR THE CHILD, HE WILL BE A
FATHER TO THIS CHILD AND THE THAT WOULD BE
PROBEM DOWN THE ROAD WITH THIS IN AND OUT
TIME FOR YOU TO LET THE PAST BE JUST THAT, AND MOVE
FORWARD.
2006-12-21 23:57:30 · answer #6 · answered by luckystar 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why are you even asking this? The biological father deserted you. And this other one stepped up to the plate and sounds like he is wonderful. If the biological father disappeared once, he'll do it again. Stay with the one who is stable and knows what he wants.
2006-12-21 23:54:03 · answer #7 · answered by Kelly773 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
the bf is obviously a bigger man than the real father he left you and the child and the bf is there to pick up the pieces and wants to take care of you both thats the most important thing in dating when you have children if they are willing to be with you despite your child/children and does your child like him but yeah he wants to take care of your kid and hes not the biological father i want to shake that mans hand way to step up to the plate you are one of the few nice guys left
2006-12-21 23:53:16 · answer #8 · answered by oopsman_09 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
hun why ruin a wonderful thing? sure hes not the baby's bialogical father but he obviously loves you and the baby. don't leave him for a loser. if the real father doesnt care about you or that baby enough then why would you want him around you?
2006-12-21 23:53:28 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Fifteen is way too young to be raising a child, or messing around again. Get your priorities straight and finish high school, get a job, and get married when you are older, more mature, more responsible, and really in love.
2006-12-22 00:01:50 · answer #10 · answered by Mr. US of A, Baby! 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋