My fiance and I have been trying to have a baby for 4 years. My doc says there is no reason to worry because we both have children, so obviously we are both fertile. However, after 4 years of trying, I'm getting a little worried.
2006-12-21 15:42:54 · 6 answers · asked by Anonymous in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Trying to Conceive
Your doctor is absolutely wrong. Infertility is defined as the inability to conceive after a year of unprotected sex. This means you are suffering from infertility. Couples who do not have infertiltiy issues will conceive within a year if they are regulalry having unprotected sex.
There is a type of infertility known as secondary infertility. Many people who have no trouble conceiving some children, but at some point some sort of change occurs in the body and it is no longer able to conceive.
Here are some possibilities:
1) Your husband's sperm count or quality has changed since he fathered his children This could be due to many, many factors including health and lifetsyle. Even something as simple as buying a hot tub and using it frequently could have drastically reduced his sperm counts. The best way to rule out male infertility is a relatively simple and inexpensive test you can have done at your local hospital. It is call a sperm analysis, and it will let you know if the sperm may be the cause of your current infertility.
2) Your body might have changed. A woman's body is always changing. Issues like weight gain, smoking, weight loss, or stress may have caused your hormones to go out of whack. Also, as a woman ages, the quality of her eggs decrease. This makes getting pregnant harder and harder each year. Some women can have a dramatic change in egg quality in just one year! There are so many issues that can be related to the female part of reproduction that it would be impossible to list them all.
3) Have yo had children together? If not, there may be antibody issues. Some women have antibodies that react violently to their partner's sperm. Your immune system may not have had issue's with your past partner's sperm, but something in your current partner's sperm may trigger an attack on the cells.
Four years is a long time to try, and I'm sure it has been frustrating. It probably makes it worse when people tell you not to worry, like your doctor. You have given a very good chance to the old "relax and it will happen" technique. It is time to seek a new doctor, preferable a doctor who specializes in helping overcome infertility (a reproductive endocrinologist). Time is a very important factor when getting pregnant, so if you are serious, I would recommend you seek a professional's advice as soon as possible. Also, you may want to do a Yahoo search about secondary infertility to read the stories of other couples like you. It may give you some more ideas.
The good news is that if you do need medical help to get pregnant, I have noticed that women who have had babies in the past tend to have really high success rates with fertility treatments. Even if you are experincing some difficulty now, you know your eggs have the protein necessary to implant, so that is good news.
I hope you get your baby soon.
2006-12-21 18:07:36 · answer #1 · answered by MissM 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Maybe your just focusing in the object at hand too much. Try to relax, and have fun with sex. Don't just lay there thinkin hurry and get this over with, and give me my baby. Do it for what it is. (Believe you me I know how hard this can really be) Try to focus on another goal like weight loss, weight gain, or exercising more often. Something of that nature and when you aren't conjstantly thinking about it, it will happen. Try to ease your mind a bit. Good luck and best wishes!
2006-12-21 23:48:05 · answer #2 · answered by Me_Myself_&_I 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I know how you feel, i have a 9 year old . and for a long time i had been trying to get pregnant, with no success me and my new hubby have been together 3 years, for the first 2 years we tried and tried then we stopped trying and boom i was pregnant. all that trying is frustrating and upsetting, you cant enjoy making love and intimacy, that's whats missing so don't try instead try new kinky things too get you both in the mood and enjoy.
P.S ASK THE LORD FOR HIS BLESSING AND LEAVE IT IN HIS HANDS
2006-12-22 00:01:27 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
first thing you need to do is have him get his sperm count checked he may have had previous children but he could have a twisted spermordic cord you could have blocked tubed hormone imbalance. after 4 years it is time for some tests and to see a specialist.
2006-12-21 23:48:45 · answer #4 · answered by kissybertha 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Charts, temps, ect...... YUCK !!!! Never worked for me.... Let me tell ya.... I have a 13yr which took me 4 years to conceive with her...........5 years later I conceived my other (now 8) ..... I tried and tried ! NOTHING ! SO, I went to walmart and bought CB&Easy digital ovulation kit.......... 1 month later BOOM ! It detects your LH surge, which then gives you 24-36 hrs BEFORE ovulation happens........ Sperm lives 3-5 days inside you.......... I tried for 8 years and missed it EVERY month, BUT the ovulation kit tells you, and IT WORKS !!!!
2006-12-21 23:54:59 · answer #5 · answered by Missy 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
have you tried the calendar method? calculating your ovulation, taking prenatal vitamins, adjusting your life style to prepare your body for nesting a baby? Also, try to enjoy sex while you can.
2006-12-21 23:47:06 · answer #6 · answered by Laurellamags 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋