I got dumped, told to move out, then told to stay, and we would work on it, but you have to sleep on the couch...What does it even mean?
2006-12-21 15:00:10 · 24 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
sleeping on the couch is a punishment. but her letting you stay in the house means she doesnt want to lose you but something happened to hurt her or upset her. if you like or love her still, stay and sleep on the couch and work it out. if you dont then leave
2006-12-21 15:03:19 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Geeez! Well, if you were here I'd ask you what you had done to constitute getting dumped and kicked out! But, you're not so...I'll just have to wing it. If, to your knowledge, you have done nothing to deserve this kind of treatment, I would say that she has either found someone else, or for whatever reason, doesn't feel the same way about you as she once did. I'm given pause here, because like you, I'm a little baffled over the, "stay, sleep on the couch and we'll work on it", thing you know. But, I gotta tell ya, I think if it were me, if I had somewhere else to go, I WOULD! Then, if she really wants to work on it, you will know. Simply because she will have to contact you in order to work on it. If she is someone that really cares about you and your relationship, she WILL get in touch. After being away from you a few days she will be missing you. If she isn't the girl for you, then she will go on with her life. Believe me, if that's the case, better now, than later. Trust me, I know what I'm talking about.
Well, I hope I gave you some things to think about, and hope I've been able to help. Your friend on line, Terry
2006-12-22 02:13:52 · answer #2 · answered by Terry Ranaye 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Been there myself - I had a guy do me the same way....this behavior won't stop. It will "smooth over" and all will be fine for a while until she tells you to move out again over some minor incident - this will happen over and over again. She has a very controlling nature, and thinks she can "pull your strings" any way she wants. Take my advice and move out. Find someone that doesn't want to play emotional / head games with you.
2006-12-21 23:48:48 · answer #3 · answered by slick chik 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She wants control. Not necessarily in a creepy way, she is just protecting herself. You have to establish that you are not willing to go along with it. If you want to stay together with her you need to move out in order to work things out properly, you have your own place and are not on the couch. That way you spend quality time together talking and working on things then you have time apart to reflect on all the issues you have.
2006-12-21 23:09:49 · answer #4 · answered by BLANK 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Told? Relationship somewhat dysfunctional? Stand up for yourself you wimp. Means she is playing with you. She refuses to treat you as an equal but is prepared to keep you around as her pet, perhaps her meal ticket.
If you are a submissive you may enjoy it, if not, get out quick, before she breaks out the whips and collar.
2006-12-21 23:04:14 · answer #5 · answered by Dane 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The question is why did she want you to move out in the first place?
If you want the relationship to work out you are going to have to listen to her. At least she is willing to work on your and her problems... so really listen to her and try to do what she is asking and see what happens...
2006-12-21 23:07:35 · answer #6 · answered by Autumns Destany 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Huh? What are you still doing there? You were asked to leave - oblige and move on. If the dumper wants to work on it - they will get in touch with you.
2006-12-21 23:04:14 · answer #7 · answered by T 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like she wants to keep your around in case she can't find anyone else. You are the "back up" for when she can't get a date.
2006-12-21 23:05:38 · answer #8 · answered by physandchemteach 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
ha ha it means you are totally whipped!!!put youre foot down! "either im here in my bed or gone, if someone is sleeping on the couch its you!" there you go nowe run along and tell her/him that!
2006-12-21 23:05:37 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
It means get out while the getting is good.
2006-12-21 23:02:33 · answer #10 · answered by balderarrow 5 · 3⤊ 0⤋