why do mariges constantly fall apart no matter how hard you try to keep it together?

Question

have you ever noticed that it's one partner giving more. I know that it's never 50 50 but some times it seems like one is always giving more then the other

Answer 1

ain't that the truth. Sometimes it takes a few tries to get it right, too.
In these times, however, there are so many exceptions and circumstances that it's often forseable that a marriage will desolve.
I'm heading down the aisle for a 5th time. Yes, 5th. And I'm almost 40. But it's the FIRST time that I'm marrying for love--I'm finally IN LOVE with the man I'm marrying.
This will be his second. He tried to keep his marriage together even after the wife had an affair, but SHE walked out.
I tried to keep my last one together but after watching him pass out in front of the tv after too many beers most nights, I finally said enough--and it still took me 3yrs to get myself together enough to walk out.

So many different reasons.

Answer 2

It is called choosing badly. A marriage is a partnership contract, as soon as one partner no longer wants to contribute and fullfill their contractual obligation it is pretty much over. Learn the art of negotiation, listening and compromise. If your partner isn't interested, learn from the experience and make a better choice next time.
Human relationships are hard work and there is never an assurance of success.

Answer 3

well it shouldn't be 50/50, it should be 100/100. A marriage can fail to work because one or both partners are not making sincere efforts in applying the principles of a healthy relationship, such as communicating each other's feelings, fulfilling each other's needs,nourishing each other's wants, supporting each other's goals and so forth.

Answer 4

The only 50/50 I know about in American marriages, is that 50% end in divorce, and the other 50% in death...

Other than that, you get out of it what you put into it. So I would recommend putting in 100%, no matter what the other party put into it.

Answer 5

The glue to keep a marriage together is communication. You must be able to talk to each other about all the issues that come up. You must talk about any disagreements right away before the feelings of hurt get too much to overcome.

Yes love is the important thing to draw you into a marriage, but communication is the thing that keeps it going.

Answer 6

Life I suppose, one decides they don't want to be in the relationship anymore and no matter what the other does it will make no difference. And yes its never equal 50/50.

Answer 7

It is usually one of the persons trying to keep it together more than the other. We don't care to sacrifice for each other so much without getting some thin in return. And we forget to let each other know how much we appreciate the little things they do for us on a daily basis.

Answer 8

in a marriage life a couple should always have a constant communication especially before they sleep, sharing the things happen to each of one that day. Rocking marriage started when one partner didn't want now to cooperate with you, started to ignore your existing and he is not happy to stay in your place.

Answer 9

Seems like that at times but its because you are focused on all the hard work you do. You must start see the positive in your mate. Women are always trying to hard to do everything anyway, we should stop that it gets you all fustrated with the men. Judge you and not him it will be alright God bless you

Answer 10

I thought it was common sense that it was never going to be 50-50...my wife is pregnant now...I certainly dont expect it to be 50-50 now...shes insane!!! lol if you truly love eachother you will make it through the ups and downs.