Why do i act this way?

Question

I have always been a very competitive person. So why do I feel the need to compete with my boyfriend's ex? The other night, I asked him if he thought I was more intelligent than his ex. He gave me an honest answer. He said he thinks his ex is probably more intelligent. As much as I appreciate his honesty, it still hurts to know that he thinks I am dumber than a woman who signs up for every single "get rich quick scam" online, who quits her job that she makes $20 an hour at just cuz she didn't like it anymore, who puts him and herself thousands of dollars in debt because she wanted breast implants! Does this sound like an intelligent woman to you? I mean, I could probably handle his conclusion if he would give me some discernible proof that she has even a smidgen of brains in her freggin head! Granted, sometimes, I say stuff that only makes sense in my head...but thats only because I have a hard time verbalizing my thoughts. Anyways, what are your thoughts on this matter?????

Answer 1

The important question is probably not whether you are more intelligent than your boyfriend's ex. Probably more important is why did you ask the question in the first place? Apparently not to get the answer he gave you. It seems more like an appeal for reassurance. Why do you need to feel in competition with your boyfriends ex? Maybe you're not feeling secure in the relationship? I don't know. At least the fact that you're boyfriend gave a frank answer gives validity to anything nice he's said about you. But it seems unlikely that feeling like your in competition with his ex is going to lead anywhere good. Your with him now. Maybe just declare yourself the winner and move forward.

Answer 2

You SEEM articulate, your English is a lot better than I often see on Answers. AND it sounds like you are learning not to repeat past choices like the breast implants that you are now unhappy with the results of. That's my idea of intelligence.