What are you doing about the prevention of child abuse? #1?

Question

I now have a loving relationship with my victims. Hurting me affects them. Few people care about my victims.
I have done some psychoanalysis and learned alot about my sickness.
I have discovered three types of offenders and offer an approach to each type. No where in the world can you find this information.
I have posted the basics of psychoanalysis at a site so that an offender might have an inkling of what is going on with him when he offended.
I have posted some approaches to therapy that aren't found anywhere.
I know that offenders have defenses and resistance to getting well.
I know that most offenders motive is unconscious.
I have not had any contact whatsoever with females under 18 for the past 15 years.
What I wanted from my victims is very complex and I would have to teach you some psychoanalytic tools to understand it.
I know that most offenses have little to do with the sex drive.

Answer 1

Although I can appreciate your efforts, very few people will even try to hear you when you come straight out and say you are a perp. Most of the time people don't even care to hear that you were once a victim yourself. There's better and more effective means than nullifying your voice from the start.

Your efforts and your honesty are admirable, none-the-less.

Answer 2

I agree that in most countries, indeed, there is no superman help for an abused child.
But, i believe that these help are getting better and more efficient.

Child abuse is Non-acceptable.

And , i sure can tell you this: that, an abuser doesn't gets saved and happier by abusing others in revenge.

I am saying: if you can, go and abuse that abuser whICH abused you in the 1st place, that is if you can.
If you cannot, just remember that you are NOW the person whom you may be abusing right now, you are the victim for as long as you are an abuse perpetrator.

Playing with these kind of psychoanalytical experiments will do you no good health ultimately.

C'mon, you are NOT the only survivor of abuse in the whole world okay.

What i will do and i want you to follow what i do is to: offer help whenever possible you can to people being abused.

But, go to a psychiatrist or psychologist first, okay?
=)

Answer 3

Writing a book about what it's like to be abused for a long time. I am seriously writing a book about this subject based on my own experiences. What you don't understand and most people don't understand (Why I'm writing a book) It doesn't matter what you as an abuser have done or will do to "Repent" The focus needs to be on the people that survived you and what they have to go through everyday. Just because you stopped does not mean that what you did stopped living in some ones memories, night mares and flash backs.

Answer 4

Yesterday, in the course of my work I met a young woman who was sexually abused as a child. She is heavily medicated and, despite years of therapy, has not been able to overcome the effects of 8 years of abuse. Her abuser got 7 years in jail. To make her feel better, we were imagining how he has been treated by fellow inmates in general population. We laughed, but it didn't stop her constant trembling.

I cannot imagine you having a loving relationship with your victims. You obviously cannot imagine the permanent injury you caused them

Answer 5

i dont abuse so i dont need to make any compensations .

but i did have contact with many females under 18 ,but that was 50 years ago

and i was 12 ,does that count

Answer 6

Not abusing anyone around me and making sure they get treated right. Also learning what the most subtle and unnoticable things are considered abuse.

Answer 7

i keep my them close and warn them of people like you.your unable to have a relationship with any vitem you ruined their life and your continuing to do so,repentance for hurting a child there is no forgiveness now maybe you will suffer as much as the children have

Answer 8

I dunno, maybe i have problems too. I have been known to address parents in public that i saw abusing their children in public, and letting them know what i think of their "good parenting". I AM ashamed though in retrospect, i mean - imagine those poor kids seeing a stranger whip the tar out of their parents outside in a parking lot...LOL!

Answer 9

Came near my kids I will cut it off. I don't care how long you been away

Answer 10

what about exactly 18....and you can get them to look young too....