There's this certain girl that's fairly new to my school. Ever since she came, my good friends pretty much ditched me for her, especially my good guy friend. They've pretty much stopped talking to me altogether and just love this girl. I've stopped liking the people that ditched me, but i dont even know the girl that i almost hate. I feel like a bad person but then again i cant help not liking her. I want to vomit everytime i see them around her and i dont understand why she's so much better than me. I dont know how to handle the situation.
2006-12-21 14:34:01 · 10 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
Well first off you need to consider just how much of a good friend you claim these good friends really are ,,,, You can't really blame this new girl for your friends reactions to you ,,,,, I rather doubt that she came there specifically to disrupt your social life ,,,, Do what you feel best about you and your one time friends ,,,, There's nothing wrong with you so don't let how your so called friends act towards you be a Gage as to your self worth ,,, You might consider moving in different circles altogether if the situation has soured where you are at now ,,,, Remember a friend is a friend when they know all of your faults and still want to be your friend anyway ,,,, You have probably done allot of soul searching and self evaluation of yourself but I wouldn't go just too far in that direction either if I were you ,,,,, A person can't have too many friends and if these so called good friends chose to act that way towards you then it's time to move on and find new ones ,,,,, It's their loss not yours so let them chose what they do where you are concerned ,,,, Just because they prefer hanging with this girl doesn't make her any better or worse than you either ,,,,, It's just the way things are sometime is all ,,,, There's nothing you can do about it so just accept it and consider it a lesson learned for future reference and just move on but be a little more careful who you pick as friends from now on ,,,, As for how you feel about this girl ?,,,, Well ,,,, There again you need to do what feels right to you ,,,, You do have to admit that her presence hasn't had a very positive effect on your situation but it would be best maybe to treat her the way you'd like to be treated ,,,,, Don't give anyone a reason to dislike you because of what's happened since she's been around ,,,, Don't let anyone know how this has effected you either ,,,, It's no ones business and it wouldn't do any good if you said anyhing about it anyway ,,,,, These people have more or less shoved you off to the side so you might just consider doing the same where they are concerned because in this area it's a two way street so to speak,,,, You don't need this crap and you can do very nicely with out it ,,,, Look for greener pastures so to speak ,,,, Try to establish other friends else where but keep your guard up ,,,, good luck ,,,, Yoda told you this ,,,,
2006-12-21 16:18:06 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
opps... no one answered... but I did dream about it. It's jealousy and can cause terrible harm. So we need to evolve it into a more comfortable nest for you.
Here's the deal. Learn to be invisible while you learn about this girl. Do not say anything as you will regret it and these friends will know your need for control and attention. You may have a career in acting. This may be one of your performances. Actually, you sound like a very nice observant individual. Study her not as a preditor or stalker but as an actress would even the worse character. You may find that she is so similar to you that that is why your friends are drawn to her. New people are always more interesting than the known. I have a daughter that has to be the center of attention and praised for every act regardless. Now you would think that she would be an obnoxious person but she is not. Just wildly contagious and energetic. Sometimes too much so but she is adorable and 45. This is who she is. I see myself in her and I let her set the rythum and even named her mistress of time. she is never late (we don't accknowledge this) because I taught her how to stop time and gave her license of time. We are delighted and greet her everytime... anytime.. each time. ..with joy. We let her set her pattern and when it's off... oh well.. we simply wait till she catches the next song.
It's okay to want audiences but update and practice your perfomances proffessionally. Wow, just think how they will be pleased they know you. Entertaining or drama??? good luck.
2006-12-23 14:03:31 · answer #2 · answered by nanbeloved 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Get over yourself...she's new and they are welcoming the new person to the school. I highly doubt they have completely ditched you, you seem not to want anything to do with this new girl. to me it seems you have the problem not them. Why don't you try being her friend too, then you'll have your friends back and have gained a new friend.
2006-12-21 22:39:19 · answer #3 · answered by Kitikat 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
being jealous wont solve anything, but dont force urself either. give urself time, try to be convinced that some people have an attracting personality, but u have smthing else that that person doesnt. and thats why ur friends were ur friends, and they prolly are still ur friends, just theyre all excited about getting to know the new girl. u know, being new is like being mysterious and that gives her attention because people are curious about her.
act normal around ur friends, talk to them about her and ask them wt about the new girl, like wt kind of person she is.
maybe u can both be friends, who knows?
2006-12-21 22:41:03 · answer #4 · answered by Kelly S 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I'm sorry to hear that. Just ignore them, make better friends then them, you're better than that. If they ditched you, they weren't true friends in the first place, and if she made them ditch you, she won't be a true friend either.
Hope that helped!
Take care.
2006-12-21 22:37:14 · answer #5 · answered by turbosherp70 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
If I were you I would lay low and then talk to my friends and let em know how they were making me feel and then make sure to invite them to lunch or tons of places with me as much as I could. And then maybe try to befriend the new girl and see what's got my friends hooked.
2006-12-21 22:41:20 · answer #6 · answered by diadame_2 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I would confront the people who totally blew you off. That isn't right!!! Stand up for yourself or those people will think they can just run over you forever. If they were ever your true friends then they will be willing to talk about it. Sooner or later they will probably miss you anyway!
2006-12-21 22:39:04 · answer #7 · answered by M & C 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
You hate this girl because she stole your friends..not on purpose! Your friends decided to ditch you on their own!!! so, they were not true friends if they did this to you! I would start making new friends and keep yourself away from the new girl! You can't change her so you will have to make do!!!
2006-12-21 22:39:01 · answer #8 · answered by September Sweetie 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
become her friend too... you can never have to many friends.
2006-12-21 22:37:33 · answer #9 · answered by Autumns Destany 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
slap that B*I*T*C*H
2006-12-21 22:37:35 · answer #10 · answered by lisa_08 3 · 0⤊ 2⤋