He gets mad when I get on AIM and put up an away message. He hates it, although he gets on sometimes too. Why does he act like that, and when he tells me to get off, I hate it! What should I do?
2006-12-21 14:26:14 · 32 answers · asked by nicnac28x 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
some guys are possessive, but not healthy for you to be in that kind of relationship. you need to break it off with him before he controls you completely.
2006-12-21 14:29:35 · answer #1 · answered by guawsgirl 2 · 3⤊ 0⤋
The only thing I can offer for advice regarding if it is normal or not is how does it feel? Personally for me, it doesn't feel to good. I was in a relationship like that once, not to long ago. He didn't like me talking to other guys, wearing certain clothes, etc etc.It turned out he was cheating on me the entire time. Each situation is different and not all men cheat. Perhaps he has control issues that can be discussed and worked through. You should talk it over with him. If your freedom is being compromised, get out! This is America and nothing is more precious than freedom. I speak from experience, of course.
2006-12-21 14:33:33 · answer #2 · answered by doesitmatter 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
FIRST, LET ME TELL U POSSESSIVENESS IS ALL ABOUT CONTROL, AND ONCE U GIVE THAT PERSON CONTROL EVEN IF IT IS ONCE, THEY FEEL U ARE THEIR PROPERTY. IF HE CARED ANYTHING ABOUT U, HE WOULDNT TRY TO CONTROL U, BUT ALLOW U TO BE WHO U ARE AND NOT TELL U THE WHO, WHAT AND WHENS IN YOUR LIFE. INSTEAD HE WOULD JOIN IN UR LIFE AND ACCEPTU FOR WHO U ARE, NOT WHAT HE WANTS U TO BE. I SAY- IF HE KEEPS THIS UP, LOOSE HIM, CUZ IT DOESNT GET ANY BETTER. WHAT HAPPENS WHEN U DONT DO WHAT HE WANTS? WILL HE BE CHILDISH AND NOT TALK TO U, MAKE U FEEL BADLY ABOUT URSELF, MAKE U FEEL LIKE U HAVE DONE SOMETHING WRONG WHEN U HAVENT. IF SO, THEN LOOSE HIM, THERE ARE WAY TOO MANY GUYS OUT THERE FOR U TO TAKE THAT FROM ANY ONE OF THEM...UR BETTER OFF ALONE, TELL HIM U HAVE 2 PARENTS ALREADY AND DONT NEED OR WANT ANOTHER, BUT IF HE WANTS TO BE A BOYFRIEND, THEN SHOW HE CARES BY ALLOWING U TO BE WHO U ARE AND NOT WHAT HE WANTS U TO B. I SAY AGAIN AND AGAIN, DUMP HIM, HE WILL BREAK UR HEART LATER ANYWAY, SO WHY WASTE THE TIME CARING ABOUT SOMEONE WHO OBVIOUSLY DOESNT REALLY CARE ABOUT UR FEELINGS, BUT HIS OWN....
2006-12-21 14:42:17 · answer #3 · answered by greneeyedl80 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Being possessive is nothing but insecurity. He is insecure in your relationship and his ability to hang on to you. Tell him that you are upset with his behavior and let him know that you are a person not an object. Ask him the real reason behind his mandates. You are not his to order about...a relationship is a partnership you go into as equals not a slave /master situation.
Good Luck!
2006-12-21 14:53:11 · answer #4 · answered by MARY L 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
normal? Maybe for him but I wouldn't stand for it. When I was young, I was bored and boring but that was because my folks were afraid that I would be known as a geek and an artist. ha. They attempted to keep books, dancing, shorts, all sorts of things from me.
I am an adult and I went to college, work on computors and paint and read. Just because a man and I live together does not mean he gets to parent me. We may negotiate but we are not married and my vows have no room for masters. I am my own adult.
2006-12-21 14:31:39 · answer #5 · answered by nanbeloved 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No NO No and no it is not normal. One more time IT IS NOT NORMAL. And it will only get worse. Next he'll be telling you what you can and can't wear, who you can't see or talk to. I've traveled this road before and I would hope that you have an alternative.
2006-12-21 14:33:24 · answer #6 · answered by Extra Blue Note 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
easily no longer well-known! I had a pal cope with an identical concern. you're starting to be a stalker on your palms in case you dont make this habit cease. A relationship is equipped on love and have confidence. without have confidence, there is no longer something. as long as you're doing this to purposely make him jealous, his habit is inaccurate.
2016-12-18 17:31:34 · answer #7 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
no its not normal,if he is acting like this over a site your visiting then get out while you can because it will only get worse,if he really loved you then he wouldnt act like that sit down and talk with him about it and see what he says then make your decision on what he tells you
2006-12-21 14:32:39 · answer #8 · answered by samm5683 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This is not normal and will continue to get worse! I would get away from him now!!! He is very insecure about himself and you can't control this!!! You need to move on to someone who is not like this...and, yes there are nice guys out there that will not treat you like this!!!
2006-12-21 14:30:34 · answer #9 · answered by September Sweetie 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You need to put your foot down before it's more than just AIM, and more than just "getting mad."
2006-12-21 14:30:15 · answer #10 · answered by ♥Rabeka♦ 2 · 3⤊ 0⤋