My friend is 14 years old, and she's a real player, she has sex ALL the time with diferent guys. Now she says she's better cuz she only has a LOT of sex ONLY with her boyfriend. They tape their nights in bed, and I haven't seen them, Thank God!. I think it's gross to have sex at our age, but she dosen't listen 2 me. Sometimes she worries she's pregnant cuz she forgets to put on birth control. But she hasn't.. yet. Her parents r NEVER at home so that's no solution. And she won't listen 2 school counselors either. I'm also worried that she might get a disease. What can I do to help her??.
2006-12-21 14:25:26 · 12 answers · asked by Golden 2 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Adolescent
first off, i want to say, i'm very glad you are taking concern for your friends well being! thats a true friend right there! i dont know if her parents know that she is this way, but since they are never home, my guess is that they do not know. if you cant get her to listen to you, i would talk to her parents, and let them know whats going on. explain to them, that you dont want to get her in trouble, but that you want to see her get some help. but i definatley think the situation needs to be addressed with the parents. if she finds out that you were the one that "told on her" just explain to her, that you didnt know what else to do, and that you dont want to see her end up pregnant,or with STD's. mabye, it would be easier for you and your friend to sit down and talk with the parents. that way, they will see that you are concerned, and that mabye they should be concerned too, instead of punishing her and grounding her right after you get off the phone talking to them. i once knew somebody, who did the same things your friend did. the parents didnt know about it for MONTHS untill my other friend spoke up and said something to her parents. they put a stop to it right away. but, you've done the right thing for being there for your friend, and dont give up on her. its a good thing she has a friend like you, and one day, she will thank you for being there for her. god blesses people like you. i think at planned parenthood, you have to be 16 to get birth control without a parents concent. its something she could check into. as far as the STD's, she pretty much needs to educate herself on the dangers of getting STD's. explain to her, that even though the guys she's with, might say they are clean, but the other people the guys have been with may not have been clean. remember, if you sleep with one person that has slept with three other people, you have actually slept with four people. so, definatley be there for her, and keep pounding it into her head, that one day she will pay for her actions if she dosent stop.
good luck! i wish you the best!
2006-12-21 19:47:04 · answer #1 · answered by superyduperymommy 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You sound like a good friend. When I was 11 I had a lot of friends and we started going to the mall to hang out. At 12 my good friend lets call her Dee met a guy and they had sex. She was the only one. I'll admit at 13 I was sexually active doing things I thought was safe then it lead to be getting raped by someone that Dee introduced me too so that's how I lost my virginity at 14. That caused me to "Sleep around" finally I learned to love myself. I started only having sex with my boyfriend at around 16 and ended up pregnant at 17 had my son at 18 now I'm 19. As for Dee she's been pregnant numerous times she's had abortions maybe 3 times and that's a lot. She is also 19 with 2 kids who are 9 months apart by the same father. I cried a lot when we were friends because I feared she's get a STD. We are no longer friends because she chose to disrespect me & my family. Anyways in this situation all you can do is pray that she comes to her senses before its too late. Don't try to force it because you might force your friendship apart and in the end you might loose her as a friend. Or you could gather some information for her about STDs and teen pregnancy. The numbers in teen pregnancy is high and I have a niece a year younger than your friend so I'm thinking about taking her to a clinic and having a doctor talk to her and the ups & downs of having sex this early. I hope that helps. Good luck love.
2006-12-22 03:34:57 · answer #2 · answered by Mz Bree 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There isn't much you can do. Actually, she seems like one of those people who could bring you down , because she is alot of work to be her friend. If she does have a kid, do you want to spend your time hanging with her and a kid at your age? It also sounds as though if she does have a kid, you are the nice friend she will ask to babysit, while she goes out and continues her lifestyle. Good luck and be careful.
2006-12-21 22:31:11 · answer #3 · answered by jeninsocal 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Send her to Planned Parenthood. She need some professional counseling in birth control and Sexually Transmitted Diseases....particularly HIV/AIDS...not to mention hordes of others....some of which may cause cancer!!! Explain to her when she sleeps with her boyfriend she is sleeping with every girl he has slept with, in terms of diseases. He may have picked up something from them and he is spreading it to any and every one he sleeps with. Lastly, ask her if she is ready to be a mother and take care of a child for the next 18 years of her life! Just because she hasn't become pregant yet is no guarantee she won't...all she has been so far is lucky in that respect!
2006-12-21 22:32:21 · answer #4 · answered by bflogal77 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
You need to tell your mother & let her tell your friends parents. If they do nothing there is not much you can do. Just remember not to share a razor makeup drinks food etc with her as there are some things that can be caught that way!
2006-12-21 22:33:22 · answer #5 · answered by notAminiVANmama 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I don't know if you can help her... she doesn't seem to want to listen to anybody. She may have some tough life lessons ahead of her.
I admire you for wanting to help your friend, but sometimes you have to just step back and let people make their own mistakes.
2006-12-21 22:34:04 · answer #6 · answered by not yet 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
hello, i'm 14 too. i know someone my age who got pregnant when she was 12(no joke). i think she had her baby aborted?!
anyway, if you told your friends about your concern and if she doesn't listen, then you have to let her parents know.
if you can't, i don't think that there's something you can do. sometimes, people have to learn it the hard way. and if she remains stubborn then i'm afraid that she has to learn it the hard way
2006-12-21 22:47:14 · answer #7 · answered by smashmouth 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Contact her parents. Tell them all about these thing going on with her. She'll hate for this, but its the right thing to do. Good Luck
2006-12-21 22:52:38 · answer #8 · answered by help! help! 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You sound like a caring friend, but sometimes you can't stop people from making bad decisions with their life.
2006-12-21 22:29:51 · answer #9 · answered by mykl 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I'm a little speechless. Ummmm...Don't have sex at age 14....
2006-12-21 23:26:01 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋