Is anyone else out there lonely, why? Should we be or is it our own fault?

Question

I have a theory that the psychiatric machine of propaganda wants us to be seperated because that is the only real way that they can keep us down and on their targets and goals. That the spying that we do on one another on a daily basis without even thinking about it anymore because we are taught it is good for us, and our country makes us all leery of one another and keeps us divided so we can't work together. So no one can change any thing and these days studies show that every American has less then two real friends that they can trust to do common things with and for them on a daily basis if they were having a crises and that is now normal. So if we can't trust and we are purposely divided wouldn't it only be natural for us to be lonely? Does that make sense and then instead of needing the ones that we should be trusting and needing then we need someone behind closed doors to talk to hence a psychiatrist or mental health worker. It feeds the system and keeps it going. ?????

Answer 1

it's modern society's fault. we are at the point where we don't know our own neighbors. we talk more often with people on line. no one hangs out on porches anymore, no one stops for a chat. everyone is lonely but no one wants to publicly admit it. if you were conversing in person would you ask this question? of course not. and the fact that we can't say what we really feel, this vast loneliness, and have to go around pretending we're fine, is what makes us even lonelier.

Answer 2

Humans are social animals and are "meant" to live in an extended family group or tribe. In modern society are economic system demands that people be mobile and constantly move from job to job "pursuing" a career. This prevents the formation of long term friendships and the development of a sense of community. I believe many marriages fail because people believe that just having an immediate family is enough and they end up feeling lonely even in a crowded house. They need a "network" of stable long term relationships that can be renewed on daily basis. NO! We should not feel lonely and it is only our fault because we don't demand that our society recognize the basic human need for multiple, stable, long term relationships. Oh and BTW yes I am lonely, my old dog died in July and I have been pretty much alone since then, how sad!

Answer 3

I used to be so lonely that I remember frantically phoning everyone I know - just trying to fill that 'lonely hole'.

I was agnostic. Then I joined a 12-step program and began to believe in a benevolent Higher Power. From that time to this I don't feel lonely anymore.

So I believe that what I had before was a spiritual loneliness which could only be filled by a spiritual presence.

Answer 4

Hi, let me state a fact of life to you. We come to this earth ALONE and we leave this earth ALONE. so, quit the fantasy of being amongst cheerleaders all the time. However, human is a social animal and it can't live in a solitary confinement, otherwise you wont' be living in a city. Just respect and help your neighbors, talk to them anything normal and always respect their beliefs without necessarily agreeing with them all. Just be democratic and diplomatic about your life and don't be sad being alone, because everyone else is alone in this world. Those who think they are not, are doing nothing except deceiving themselves as they will find it out in a later stage of their life.

Answer 5

I am alone, but not lonely. And yes, it is my fault. I do it on purpose.

I was in what I felt a good marriage for 12 years. One day, my husband came home and said he no longer wanted to be married to me (no explanation) and my world fell apart.

Now I choose to avoid all social contact (and only associate with those I have to: family, co-workers, etc.) because I refuse to be hurt that badly again.

Answer 6

Argh! It's killing me. If it weren't for my chihuahua and my eldest sister I'd have absolutely no one to talk to. I've even gotten to reading out loud just to hear myself talk. Loneliness is always our own faults. I'm of the opinion that all people are "stuck on themselves", not in that snooty, conceited way, but more like "this is what I'm into today" kind of way.
I don't understand why humans were created. It seems like we are social yet we are thoroughly stuck within our own heads/thoughts, our own tiny little worlds.

Answer 7

It's not yr fault or anyone else's but there are lotsa lonely folks even when surrounded by loving people.
Loneliness is a state of mind, a bittersweet feeling & it is in yr own mind.
Should we be lonely ? Not neccessarily. But it is OK to be at times.

Answer 8

funny thing is most of us profess to being lonely because we all pride ourselves on our individuality
and since we are alone in our minds we tend to feel lonely that's why when we meet some one its all about that CONNECTION which just often is a brief respite of our alone
some times you have to remember that there are more people that love you than you think including the ones your not talking to rite now as well as the ones you often take for granted?

Answer 9

I am lonely every day of my life. It sucks doesn't it? I guess when you start to think about yourself before others, the loneliness will end. if you can't do that, you know people will take advantage of you, and never give in return, they always say, "It is better to give than receive." You know who says this don't you, the people that receive in life. Because to give and never receive doesn't feel very good. I hope you find happiness and joy in your life, and when you find that, tell me how.

Answer 10

I luv tok questions. Its ur perception & your experiences. if you've grown up with many close friends & being surrounded by a group of people welcome to u, then u would likely b extroverted.However, if u r like me, and u were the class geek/sore thumb, then u r likely to be more introverted. I think that's how i can be cold to people i don't know, although i do have a few trustworthy friends