2006-12-21 13:11:05 · 25 answers · asked by mom3 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
No, it is not. Children do not deserve to be hurt, (and they do know when grandparents are partial). Tell the grandparents if they can not treat them equally, don't treat them at all.
2006-12-21 13:13:32 · answer #1 · answered by NAN G 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Being a grandparent, this type of question can be very troubling. In a word, NO! I havee 4 children that I love dearly and they've blessed me with 12 grandchildren. Just like their parents, they do things that have made me angry and hav disappointed me, however, I still take the one of me and share it in 12 ways. Bottom line, they are each unique, just like their parents and just like their Granny. As a parent, don't allow a grandparent to show favoritism. Take care!
2006-12-21 21:15:22 · answer #2 · answered by Matured One 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
No it is definitely not ok.
I know where you are coming from on this. I have a son and two daughters and my mother in law totally favours my son.
She only had boys herself and once actually told me that she was glad that she didnt have any daughters! What was I supposed to say to that???
I am sorry this is happening for you and your kids.
Its hard.
For the first five or so years I would try to 'cover up' her favoritism. She would ignore my girls, buy my son extravagent presents and talk to him all the time. But now I have come to my senses and point it out to her.
Last time we were there she kissed everyone but my middle daughter goodbye. I pointed it out to her infront of everyone. Why should I cover up her poor behaviour?
And I have stopped trying to cover it up to my kids too. They are going to figure it out. Kids arent silly. It is sad that they will have to deal with this, but really it is her loss!
My own mother has 11 grandkids and makes a huge effort. Her motto is ; If I Cant Do It For All Of Them, Then I Wont Do It For Any Of Them.
I like that. Its fair.
The grandparents who favor are the ultimate losers in this. Try ( I KNOW how hard it is) not to let it bother you.
2006-12-21 21:25:08 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
personally, i dont think it is ever ok to show favoritism.
I come from a big family, and i have many cousins...but my grandma really likes my cousin Samuel. She always buys him stuff, and hems his jeans. And i dont think she has ever missed one of his sporting events in the last 10 years. And the worst part is...everybodycan see that she favors him!!!! its kinda sad.
so i do not think grandparents should do this...i kniw it makes the rest of my cousins feel bad. And arent grandparent supposed to be wise? Wise enough to love all equally!
2006-12-21 21:26:20 · answer #4 · answered by *BoNitA ChIcA* 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It is totally unacceptable. You don't want grandparents to scar your children with insecurity and rejection. If they can't treat all of the grandchildren the same, keep them away.
2006-12-21 21:23:16 · answer #5 · answered by Kim 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I've never really thought about this before now.
My maternal Grandmother had obvious favourites and being the not-so-favoured made me feel terrible when I was a small child.
My paternal Grandmother made us all feel as if we were the favourite. I never realised this til her funeral when my cousins and I got together and one jokingly said that they were the favourite. Nearly in unison the rest of us said, "NO! I was her favourite!"
What a great role model for when I become a grandmother.
2006-12-21 21:19:18 · answer #6 · answered by blue.green_eyes 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
As a grandfather at 45, I don't show any favoritism and I have 3 of them. It's wrong to show that it. It shouldn't be done
2006-12-21 21:16:27 · answer #7 · answered by superduperchef45 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I dont think so because then that grandparent will be paying more attention to that one grandchild and probably causing others to feel neglected.
2006-12-21 21:13:56 · answer #8 · answered by Juicy Couture 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It is human nature to show favoritism towards children,grandkids,pets etc.Just try not to make it too obvious.
2006-12-21 21:13:46 · answer #9 · answered by Mr Bellows 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Not really. My grandma likes my other cousin more then me and its so easy to tell . she never even got me a birthday gift yet she spent like 40 on the other ones. its gotten so bad where i dont even think they love me any more. :(
2006-12-21 21:32:52 · answer #10 · answered by Kayleen L 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋