I hate being shy omg its sooooo annoying. In school i get high test grades but my average is low becuz i never raise my hand even when i know the answer. 20 girls ask me out but i dont reply becuz im too scared too, this way ill never get a girlfriend. Word Presentation in school scared the hell out of me i hate it so much! She said were having presentations next week and she has ruined my whole week and its killing me day by day inside i wanna throwup up or faint. When i come home everyday im so depressed because i know im going to have to present. And guess what i only have to read half a freakn page double space! My bro and sis was like LOL! In college you have to present every day! and the presentations are 1min there like 45mins. I DONT WANT TO GO TO COLLEGE ANY MORE =( why cant school just be learning and test and hw why this crap? Why oral speaking and all these stupid presentations.
When i go up im so nervous that i shake and beging to stutter and stutter more
2006-12-21 12:52:10 · 11 answers · asked by PeanutButternJelly 1 in Social Science ➔ Psychology
shyness is incredibly common. the first thing you should realize is that someone somewhere in the room is feeling the same feelings you are. oral skills are important because buddy, the world is about talking to people, you don't hand someone a term paper stating why they should take a chance with you or whatnot.
surely you have a group of friends that you feel more comfortable with? perhaps your family? even if you're not jumping up and down with them, self-assertiveness is the key to all anti-shy people. being around people that make you feel good always help with self-confidence. you have to give yourself an ego boost and stay positive about who you are. wear something that you like, pick a topic that you know best, pay yourself a compliment once in a while. i have the opposite problem, i can be very arrogant sometimes. when i have to give presentations i am nervous about, i just think to myself how strong of a person i am and how i can make people laugh, and that puts me at ease because i know that even if i muck it up, i'll forgive myself anyhow.
my guess is you've never stood up to a bully or staged a confrontation worth speaking of. from now on, when a girl asks you out and you would like to say yes, then do it! you may be modest and a little bit ennerved, but putting your mind to it is half the solution.
be proud of yourself, remain strong, and give yourself room to change. it'll happen, gradually but steadily if you set yourself to opening your mouth once in a while.
2006-12-21 13:09:25 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I was the same way in school. I dreaded being in front of a class, just like you. You feel that way because you have little or no self confidence. Confidence comes two ways. The first way is from parents that are unfailingly supportive and always encourage their children to take chances. Confidence is directly proportional to how parents have done with this. The other way to build confidence is through life's successes. The more things you do well and are recognized for the more confidence you will have. Unfortunately this can takes years and years. You can hurry the confidence building by actively finding and participating in activities such as clubs and committees. Be around people every chance you can. Start with relatives if this is difficult for you. The worst thing is to hide away in fear. Force yourself to do these things. It will get easier and easier and someday you will be so glad you did.
2006-12-21 21:16:05 · answer #2 · answered by Michael da Man 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There are clinics and doctors who deal with shyness, they call social anxiety now.
Many many entertainers say they are shy and that it is easier to have a conversation with 10,000 people than just one.
The more you talk to people , the less shy you will become. Many times shyness is a result of low self-esteem. You know the answers, so what will happen to you if you make a mistake, some jerky kids will laugh but hey there are some people who laugh at anyone and everyone. The world isn't going to swallow you up if you make a mistake.
Try reading your presentation into a tape recorder, so you can hear how you sound. Make sure you know your topic thoroughly. Don't think of your classmates as being hostile and not wanting to hear what you have to say , you can surprise them with what you know. Speak on something you are passionate about and practice , practice , practice.
You can do it !
2006-12-21 21:05:02 · answer #3 · answered by Lizzy-tish 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
The more you do it, the more it won't seem as bad. It scares me too sometimes, I had to read a report in school once, I didn't want to and when the time came (>_>) I magically wasn't there somehow. Try practicing on some people, I find that no matter who it is, if the crowds over five or ten, I get nervous. I've learned that when you're forced into it, you find it's not as bad, then you haev fun talking about something you love.
2006-12-21 20:58:08 · answer #4 · answered by David H 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Oh, wow...you have a really serious case. ...Yes, shyness can be fixed. Well, try going to camp, or other activities that help your social skills. I am an outgoing person, but I used to HATE giving presentations (I still do, he he he). I would mutter, blush, etc! Um...I went to debate class, where I met a lot of friends, so it was easier for me to do a presentation. Gradually, I became more accustomed to making a speech...basically, have a positive attitude about things. Shyness if usually the result of embarrassment in front of strangers (in my opinion), so if you learn how to make friends and gradually open yourself up, your shyness will disappear! ...By the way, it doesn't take forever to overcome shyness. I grew into making speeches in the maximum of 2 months. I know I could''ve done better! You can too!
2006-12-21 20:58:59 · answer #5 · answered by Dynamite 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Aye its all gravy, just calm down for one cause this is normal. I used to be the same way man. One thing that helped me was working for like say fast food cuz everyday u gotta talk to customers and pretty soon its just an everyday thing trust! Specially if u work in a bank or somethin but u just gotta bite the bullet and do it man. Know what im sayin. Sounds like the ladies love ya man, all u gotta do is say yes to a date and theyll do the talkin at first and then soon youll get comfortable around them and just let them know yer shy and theyll take it easy on ya. And college is not all about public speaking....thats one class thats like that its called "speech" nuff said bro
2006-12-21 20:57:23 · answer #6 · answered by Andrew B 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
A person's personality is formed within the first five years of life, so, things don't look easy, sense, your surely over five. But, I'm a firm believer in change and the power of self and behavior psychology. I think that you should start by doing things that aren't in your comfort zone and slowly work your way to more difficult situations. One day, you'll find that your less shy. You may always get butterflies, but that's a good thing.
2006-12-21 21:11:49 · answer #7 · answered by blackbug2004 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Because oral skills are neccessary in the world unless you want a lonely life with a career as a statistition or accountant.
2006-12-21 20:55:52 · answer #8 · answered by Mad n Bad 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Dude just relax people feel the same way about oral presentations they just don't show it you know what i'm sayin man just relax people won't judge you on your grades or oral confidence if they do maybe they are not your friends
2006-12-21 20:56:00 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just start by saying hi to people randomly. Some will respond some will not. SMILE
2006-12-21 20:54:28 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋