I am going through a divorce because my husband of 21 years left me for another woman. What should I expect from him when he finally see's me out with another man? Will it bother him? I hope so.
2006-12-21 12:43:29 · 13 answers · asked by lisalup 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
oh it will bother him alright!!!
Losing weight and making the best of yourself will also guarentee a reaction 2...lol
Hold onto the thought that it's his loss, go out enjoy yourself and be happy. i wish you all the luck and happiness in the world.
when this dolly bird mistress gets bored and moves on to the next sucker where will he be then? Crawling back with his tail between his legs! What will you be doing? Having the time of your life and hopefully will have the love of a few good men.
2006-12-21 19:11:41 · answer #1 · answered by madmoo0 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Who knows...sadly is some cases one spouse has already delt with the loss of the relationship. So while it may bother you to see him with another woman...it might not bother him to see you with another man.
Most divorced people (if the marriage ended before they hated each other) will tell you that they still 'love' thier ex-spouse they just are not 'in love' with them any more.
Good luck and enjoy going out on the town. Maybe going out of town will be a good way to start the new relationship.
2006-12-21 20:48:45 · answer #2 · answered by ~Just A Girl~ 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
don't focus on him, he didn't care enough about u not to cheat on u and destroy your marriage. didn't bother my ex even for a minute to hear i had a special friend, he never seemed to care and although it does hurt to think we aren't loved anymore, it is exactly that, he doesn't care. u have to quit expecting anything at all from this man, not an apology or anything. it may bother him later on but it may take years for him to mature and see the wrong he did. u should expect not a thing once your divorced, or even before the divorce, as i think we set ourselves up for things, and get hurt when things don't turn out as we thought they would. for him to be upset he would really have to care, now wouldn't he. and if he truly cared he would be the one stopping the divorce now, u need to just stop thinking about him anymore, he is no longer your concern, just thinking of him will keep u from moving on in life.
2006-12-22 10:31:23 · answer #3 · answered by jude 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why would you soon to be ex see you? A holiday family function?
Yes it may bother him or not. But does the new guy know he is being displayed as arm candy to irritate your ex?
And 'going through a divorce" sounds a little early to be dating, unless of course the real reason is solely to make you husband jealous, in which case I recommend you hire an escort instead. They're probably hunkier anyway.
2006-12-21 20:48:40 · answer #4 · answered by mscyngrim 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sorry Babe...I shouldn't think it would bother him at all, he left you afterall...sorry! Get yourself a Guy you like for him & not one to use in order to make your ex jealous/bothered. The best way to make someone bothered (if they care at all) is to just get on with your life & be truly happy....you want to make him bothered (if he would be) get to know his new partner, strike up a friendship with her & have lots of time chatting together....it'll bother him like nothing else.
To be honest though, I wouldn't be playing silly games with my ex- I was so pleased when he got himself a g/f. I moved on with my life years before. The g/f he's got now has a big problem with me, but his last g/f was lovely & we made friends very easily....still are friends. He was so bothered it was unbelievable & rather stupid really....I found it kinda pathetic
2006-12-21 21:16:47 · answer #5 · answered by Funky 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Grow up. He left you. You need to leave him too - his reaction to anything you do should be of no concern to you whatsoever (you can be sure if he's left you for another woman he won't be bothered about you)
2006-12-22 04:51:12 · answer #6 · answered by misbehave4me 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It sounds as if you should not be dating yet as I suspect you want to be seen out with someone else to get back at your ex. You will be redy to date when you genuinly are not bothered whether you are seen out or not because you will not even think about it.
2006-12-23 12:20:57 · answer #7 · answered by D B 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to move on and not worry about what he feels if he sees you with another man. It has nothing to do with him.
2006-12-22 18:20:33 · answer #8 · answered by chelsea19622000 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe, but I wouldn't worry or think about it. your focus should be soley on you and what makes you happy, not what makes him mad. He's a jackhole anyway for doing that to you, so don't waste any more of your life caring what he thinks.
2006-12-21 20:46:46 · answer #9 · answered by Kiss My Shaz 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you shouldn't want him to be bothered. He left you, this means he doesn't want you, pick yourself up and find happiness somewhere else. Be grateful he didn't leave you for a bloke.
2006-12-21 22:42:12 · answer #10 · answered by what? 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋