i was with engaged to man for 3 years. during a time while we were together, he didnt have a job, no nice clothing, no car and certainly on money. we lived together and of course i paid all of the bills. i found out form his mom that he was getting calls at her house from another woman. when i confronted him he tried to commit suicide. i was the one who got him out of the the phychiatric hospital not even his family would come to visit. i helped him, loved him and made him feel strong, i moved to his town ans left me like a coward, i nedded to moved, needed money and i was going to have surgery. he left me with all of tohse problems. i made it without him. it was onlt a month ago. his granny bought a car and let him drive it and pay for it as if it was his and he went home to his mommy. he is near 40. just to ad no one respected him and he is a coward with a deformed body i overlooked his flaws . i want to get over this how do i do it when all i think about is how he betrayed me. help
2006-12-21 12:38:35 · 12 answers · asked by prettylass2007 2 in Politics & Government ➔ Law & Ethics
You are probably feeling gilty for helping this person. Stop blaming yourself. Its not your fault that he did what he did. Frankly you should be happy, because you did a very good deed from your heart. "Helping Him" Actually you didn't have to lift a finger to help this person, but you did. It won't be long now because God will bless you for the things that you've done to help this person. As it states in the Bible: Do unto others as you would have them to do upon you. When a person is down and out, they want help from a close person. Thats talking about you now! Your b/f at the time was down and out, he looked toward you for help. With your good heart, you helped him in any way that you could without a second thought. Thats why God will bless you. Yes he betrayed you. He got everything that he wanted and needed, thanks to you. The bright side of that is, God will bless you 10 fow of the things that you did for this person. Don't look down on yourself because you've done nothing wrong. Now it's time for you to take back your life and keep moving on. Thats one thing about living life, life is nothing but a learning process. We learn something every day. Even though at times we don't realize it but we do learn. Now stop looking down, because your not going down there, with a heart like yours, you are going up towards the heavens. Nevertheless keep your head up because you are a stronger person than that. You made a mistake, (the mistake for caring); name one person that didn't make a mistake. We as humans makes mistakes every day. Please don't look at the bad things that had just happened. Look at it like this, Thank Jesus for allowing this to happen before the relationship got any further. And if you still feel troubled, just ask Jesus what would he do? I hope this will help you overcome your feelings. Good luck! I wasn't trying to put you down in any way whatsoever. Just trying to help you open your eyes and your heart! You my friend, have a real, and beautiful heart! My gratatude to you please by all means keep up the good work! With a heart like yours, all things are possible!
2006-12-21 13:39:52 · answer #1 · answered by George 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
When you take on a "project" bf (one not able to hold up his half of life) then you actually betray yourself because
They are vampyres , their career is milking others . . .
If he did not have a job 30 DAYS after you stated dating and YOU kept on dating him , you betrayed yourself.
Now you are realizing the cost in $$ and time of a project bf and you are pisssed because your investment in the project did NOT work out . You invested in Florida swamp land . . . Promise yourself you will NEVER waste that time and $$ again (but OOOUCH , accept that $$ is down the toilet)
Time to take off the rose colored glasses and see the pig.
It has been you lying to you , for a long time because this pig was OUT of the closet if you paid all the bills for 3 years. You, get out of the denial closet !
Go to the head of the class & pick up your diploma in 'street knowledge' and NEVER dump more than 3 days into a pig again . They will never fly . . .
2006-12-21 12:51:14 · answer #2 · answered by kate 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Time will help you get over this but only you will prevent yourself from getting hurt like this again. As one who speaks from experience, people will let you do anything for them, well, if they have no character at all. One thing you can do is not ever offer to help anyone, let them ask for it. You can also realize that lots of men do this to women and they think nothing of leaving her holding the bag.
Maybe also from now on you pick wisely, a man with a car, a job, clothes, and his own place is usually a better choice than one with nothing. Also don't pick any man who carries all his possessions in garbage bags. They rarely change. It is better to be alone than stuck to one of these jerks.
2006-12-21 12:43:50 · answer #3 · answered by A B 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Just count your blessings that this man is out of your life. It will take time, but you'll get over it. Life is constant changes, go with the flow sister........
2006-12-21 12:42:28 · answer #4 · answered by docie555@yahoo.com 5 · 3⤊ 0⤋
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2016-11-28 03:02:13 · answer #5 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you need to keep in mind to love your self first than you can move on put your self first you can b nice but put your self first also go out and have a nice with some friends
2006-12-21 12:46:08 · answer #6 · answered by 4ever 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I don't think you are as mad at him as you are at yourself for being suckered. You need to look at yourself and find out what it is in your personality that made you feel you needed to support this man in order for you to feel good. You are the one you need to get over being mad at.
A wise man once told me. "Men are the way they are because women reward them for it" wiser words were never spoken.
2006-12-21 12:45:45 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Life has ups and downs.Ride this out and every new day should give you new hope.Don't dwell on the past...LEARN from it.God can help you too!
2006-12-21 12:47:02 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
find some one to help keep your mind off of him.
2006-12-21 12:44:53 · answer #9 · answered by sometimessusie 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Contact me!
2006-12-21 12:41:56 · answer #10 · answered by Mr. Right 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋