My husband left me when he got the girl he was cheating on me with pregnant. Now she has my husband, my house, even my pets, and a baby with him. I want to move on badly but it hurts that things seem so perfect for her now...Her myspace page ( Not in her name- it's "The ----- Family" page) is full of how great her first Thanksgiving was and how great their first Christmas is.. blah blah blah.. We used to be "The ----- Family"! I'm barely managing to smile. When will this get easier- it's been a year and a half...?
2006-12-21 12:37:11 · 24 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
What a jerk he was, and you will soon see, he will be doing the same thing to her shortly. Or she will be cheating on him. They may appear happy, and chances are she is doing all of this for your benefit. Keep in mind he was married and she slept with a married man. They deserve each other. In time the pain will slowly ease up, and stop looking at her my space page and torturing yourself. Don't keep up with them. That is the past, be grateful you did not have any children with him. What a looser he is and they are both going to get what is coming to them. God will send you a decent loving man, just be patient and work through this. Be the best you can be. Good luck and God bless****
2006-12-21 12:46:56 · answer #1 · answered by ? 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You sure have been through a lot of adversities, but it will honestly get better.
In the meantime, are you going through any kind of counseling?? After a year and a half, you should already be at least starting to heal, and moving on. Counseling is something that will help you work thru this and leave it in the past.
In the meantime, don't put yourself thru more agony by going to her myspace page etc. And in all honesty, If he was enough of an a**hole to cheat with her, what do you think are the odds he will cheat ON her too!? Besides, people can say anything they want to on-line, but it doesn't necessarily make it the truth, so maybe they are happy and maybe they aren't.
But either way, you need to move ahead with your life, find you a good man (A BETTER man) and have the family and life you want...
Best of Luck to you!!
2006-12-21 12:46:58 · answer #2 · answered by slpkwp 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It doesn't get easier-it just gets dealt with in a different way. It will always hurt to see the page and to know that she is living your life.
You will need to learn to put it behind you and move on. Remember: once a cheater-always a cheater. He will eventually do the same thing to her and she will feel the pain you feel now.
You need to focus on trying to make yourself into a better person. Take some classes, learn a hobby, join a community group, any thing that gets you out and involved with life.
If thoughts of them come into your head, force the thoughts out by distracting yourself with a book or activity. Don't allow them to run your life like that.
Take control of your emotions and DO NOT look at my space again. It will do you no good! Put them in the past and move on with your life.
2006-12-21 13:09:06 · answer #3 · answered by physandchemteach 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Honestly, you got the better end of the bargain because he's going to do the same thing to her. Once a man goes down that road, he just keeps on travelling it. I had an ex that I loved with everything I had in my heart at the time. He cheated on me. We're still friends because he's a nice guy, he just can't be faithful. He's married and I know he's cheated on his wife several times over the years. It doesn't feel like it now, but you will find someone who cherishes your uniqueness and your heart will be even fuller because you know the flip side of the coin.
2006-12-21 12:46:29 · answer #4 · answered by jzmn2btrfly121 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
You need to move on! Yes, it is a hurtful thing, but don't give them the satisfaction by you being upset or depressed..... He obviously wasn't the one for you because if he was, he would have loved you unconditionally... Right now go have some fun hang and go out with friends and family and do things that you like. When you least expect it, the right man will come into your life...
Good luck and God Bless!
2006-12-21 12:44:55 · answer #5 · answered by Torres 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If you would have known you husband was capable of such behavior would you have married him? I doubt it. Recognize that he's not the man you thought you married and when you're done grieving for him, look for an honest man.
Quit obsessing about his life with his new family. It will only hurt you. He's moved on and you deserve to find a partner that will make you happy. Good luck!
2006-12-21 12:46:40 · answer #6 · answered by katydid 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Guess you needed a better divorce attorney.
The fact that you are still checking out her myspace page is rather troubling. The only way to put this behind you and to move on is... to move on. It won't happen on its own. There is no magic amount of time that goes by before you stop feeling that knife stab you in the heart.
Find yourself a better person to obsess about.
2006-12-21 12:46:16 · answer #7 · answered by trixwagen 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Don't know if this will help but it IS true that she's living with a cheat. I don't call that a very good deal. If she has to tell the world how great her life is, she's probably trying to convince herself as much or more than the rest of the world. I'd encourage you to grieve your loss, feel the feelings which have to be very bad ones (been there, done that, got the tee shirt) and the pain will eventually ease up.
It takes as long as it takes.
2006-12-21 12:44:35 · answer #8 · answered by DelK 7 · 5⤊ 0⤋
Think of what she got...a horrible cheating man who made another woman pregnant while still married. What a deal! Just think of how she's going to feel after his eyes start to wander...and they will! Consider yourself lucky, wish them well, and find a man who will worship the ground you walk on...and would never dream of doing to you what your ex did. By the way, don't keep looking at the myspace page. It's bad Karma for you!
2006-12-21 12:45:50 · answer #9 · answered by Mrs. Strain 5 · 5⤊ 0⤋
Try moving to a new city. You'll be far away from him and you'd be amazed at how wonderful that is. Not to mention when you are totally on your own and you land on your feet just fine that really makes you feel good about yourself and the life you've built up as opposed to the life that you ended up with in your old city.
2006-12-21 13:23:12 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋