I'm only 16, yet i can't help but think about Sex, i mean i think of different situations w/ different people and different positions and try to find out about it on tv and mags, etc. Sometimes, nasty things come up~that no offense but I'm not comfortable telling what they are. The thing is in real life, or outside my "thoughts" I would not ever do certain things that my thoughts go to which are seriously wrong. Is it something subconscience? (Most of the time in my "thoughts" the men take over while in real life I'm strong, independent, and know at most what is wrong and what is right. Please Help : /
2006-12-21 12:33:31 · 22 answers · asked by Charnelle 3 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Adolescent
Maybe you want a guy to take a little bit of control over you...It may sound crazy, but it is kinda hot when a guy takes over...but not too much. You have alot of fantasies. As do I. I dare not reveal them, though. Everyone wants to do the things that would be wrong...but then at the same time keep their dignity.
2006-12-21 12:38:04 · answer #1 · answered by piper_69_77 1 · 2⤊ 1⤋
All that is normal, but not necessarilly the best thing to be concentrating on. Dont let those thoughts dominate your life, in other words. Get out of the house and have some nice non-sex fun like shopping with your girlfriends. Talking about it with your friend who wouldnt tell is also helpful. Dont look at smut and dirty stuff. What you fill your mind with is important. Think on good things
2006-12-21 20:42:07 · answer #2 · answered by chattanoogamollyblue 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Nothing about your thoughts are harmful as long as you no right from wrong as you said you do, so don't worry about it and age has nothing to do with it you'll have thoughts about things like that all your life they'll just become more explicit. If it helps you any I have thoughts about how peoples funerals will be like what will people say, or how many people will be there it's weird to me, but I actually think your thoughts are just apart of you and if they're negative thoughts don't act on them!
2006-12-21 20:50:34 · answer #3 · answered by patricia j 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Try and control your curiosity or you may be sorry with something that you contract from someone else. There are alot of sexually transmitted dieseases being spread around out in the world and once you got alot of them- you'll never be able to get rid of them.
Hopefully you'll be able to find the right guy someday and together explore some of your fantasies and curiosities.
Theres nothing better than a mate who enjoys the versatility in this area...but my advice to you is wait for the right one.
Become friends before you be lovers...your better off !!
2006-12-21 20:47:30 · answer #4 · answered by Sailon 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
You are 16 and your body is (physically) ready to reproduce so therefore it is biologically logical that you would start thinking about sex. You are producing hormones that you have never had before.
Don't worry though, we all do it. I still do and I'm, 32. I remember when I was around you age and I couldn't look at anyone or a room full of people and not wonder, who did who and how....it's normal :-)
2006-12-21 20:46:56 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Several thoughts come to mind. First of all, how much television and movies do you watch? The media is saturated with sexual situations and images. Be careful what you feed your brain.
Second, has there ever been a situation where someone took advantage of you sexually? Were you molested as a child?
Some thoughts about sex are natural, but a preoccupation with them would suggest deeper problems.
I encourage you to speak with someone you trust concerning this issue.
2006-12-21 20:42:23 · answer #6 · answered by GrandmaamylovesJesus 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Its called fantasy. Everyone does it. Everyone does it differently. And yes teh being controlled is appitizeing for many differnt reasons. dont feel awkward or that it is "wrong". whatyou think aboutit your business and as long as you arent huting anyone without thier permission, its fine. i ahd the same kind of thoughtss when i was your age and i was convinced i was going to go to hell... but i discovered i wasnt. dont stress about it. everything will eventually fall in to place and youll find your spot in the sex life.
2006-12-22 17:12:45 · answer #7 · answered by psychoticangel_kitty 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's completely normal.
Until about two seconds ago in human history, 16 was the prime time to procreate. Your hormones are screaming, "MATE MATE MATE MATE MATE!"
It's really freaky and kinda sucks, but so does everything else about being a teenager. Enjoy the ride.
2006-12-21 21:21:10 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hormone attack! It's normal to experience those feelings, but try and act intelligently and make wise choices. Your thoughts may drive you to do crazy things that you'll regret later, so do the right thing.
2006-12-22 00:58:31 · answer #9 · answered by Rachel 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hmmm... Someone told me a lil while ago that having thoughts like that is a sign of being abused by men before (sexually and/or physically)... So if you've been in situations where a guy has controlled you like that its prolly normal, but you might wanna get counselling for it or something... I dont really know though... And if you havent been assulted by men I dont know if its normal or not...
2006-12-21 20:39:55 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 2⤋