My sister is having her first pregnancy, and I don't know how to explain it to her! help?

Question

My sister is pregnant, and I have no clue how to explain it to her! She's really scared, and I have no clue how to comfrot her.. Damn, I feel like such a bad sibling!!
If I put into my own words, It'll just come out like a retarded explosion of senseless words! Help me, please?

My sister is only 23, but this is her first pregnancy. I just want to be able to explain to her what she wants to know.
(She doesn't feel comfortable talking to anyone outside the family).
And what she wants to know is, what to expect, will it hurt and stuff like that.
I can basically tell her that kind of stuff.
Like your breasts will probably be sore.
And that you may get morning sickness as you progress.
But I just don't know how to tell her this. Like, what should I start with? The first symptoms? I just don't know. I'm not the best person you go to when you want to talk to someone.

Answer 1

You are a great sister to try to find the answers for your sister and for trying to help her out and it's great that you are there for her. Tell her that it's normal to feel a little nervous with your first, second or even third pregnancy but tell her to relax. Having a baby is natural and part of life. Tell her that a new little life is forming inside of her and to take extra special care of herself. Everything she puts into her body the baby gets part of. Tell her not to take any medication without talking to her doctor but she definitely needs to get on prenatal vitamins, it's best to take them at night with a big glass of milk because sometimes they will make you a little nauseated but the baby really needs the folic acid and vitamins. She may have some morning sickness which doesn't necessarily always happen in the morning. She'll notice changes in her body, first symptoms are usally breast tenderness and the color around her niple may darken and morning sickness and eventually maybe have a few or a lot of stretch marks, and later on she'll start to feel the baby move inside her which is an awesome feeling. When the time comes to give birth, contractions are painful and giving birth is painful but they have meds to give you for that so that you don't feel as much as you would without them and once it's over and she's holding her baby in her arms she'll forget about the pain she just experienced and will be so over come with joy and love for her baby and it will have all been worth it. If it was so bad, women would not keep having babies. She definitely needs to make an appt. with an OB doctor as soon as possible and he or she will explain any questions she has but the worse thing to do is stress over it because that will put stress on the baby too. There are also many books that she could read on pregnancy that would probably help to calm her nerves and educate her on what to expect. www.webmd.com is also a great site loaded with info. Hope I helped some. Good luck. God bless and Merry Christmas!

Answer 2

What does she need to have explained to her - the fact that when one is pregnant we go through changes physically and emotionally and that we need to help one another out on those days that we are feeling down., but that once she is far into her pregnancy - she will feel the most beautiful, unexplainable emotion that a "mother" could ever feel, which is having her baby move inside of her - she feel a bound with this child that nobody can share or ever take away from her. That she needs to learn that this child will now depend on her, even when in her womb and that she needs now to start thinking about her baby first before herself. That even though at times it might be difficult and may even cause alot of stress that she needs to know that she has you, her family and friends to help her out when she needs it, and that all she needs to do is "talk and/or ask" and someone will always be there...

Answer 3

Pregnancy is the carrying of one or more embryos or fetuses by female mammals, including humans, inside their bodies. In a pregnancy, there can be multiple gestations (for example, in the case of twins, or triplets).

Human pregnancy lasts approximately 9 months between the time of the last menstrual cycle and childbirth (38 weeks from fertilisation). The first trimester period carries the highest risk of miscarriage (natural death of embryo or fetus). During the second trimester the development of the fetus can start to be monitored and diagnosed. The third trimester marks the beginning of viability, or the ability of the fetus to survive, with or without medical help, outside of the mother's womb.

Answer 4

omg, get her a book on what to expect when you're expecting. My sister read one with her second just because it had been sixteen years since her first pregnancy. She wanted to get the most out of her last pregnancy and enjoy it.

But I am sorry, I gotta ask......what kind of family do you come from where you girls were not educated on this before you had sex? Thank God my mother was open and talked about this stuff. I have made sure I educate my daughter so that she doesn't have to ask others. I was shocked when I was pregnant the first time and a friend asked if she could touch my belly because she had never touched one before. I was like sure, hun, go for it.........she looked, and she touched it....and she cried.

Answer 5

Tell your sister, your first pregnancy is the gift of life. Tell her right in the moment where the baby is about to come out she will expect joy and peace. Tell her, the first baby symbolizes one her reasons of life, tell her it helps build a better relationship with others. Tell her she should not be scared, and I suppose if she's religious tell her to pray.

Answer 6

your agreat sibling to even be this concerned for your sister! try about.com and type in pregnancy,its a great site and explains all u need to know about pregnancy! Your sister and her baby are very lucky to have someone as caring as you in theri lives-good luck and congrats to your growing family!!!!

Answer 7

well, hopefully she knows the medical things involved in it,,,,,,, other then that, just be there for her, you cant really explain it, other then the basics of what occurs in a medical sense,,, as each woman is different, and will experience it differently, some have morning sickness, some not,,, some go into actual labor pains, some dont, etc,,,,

Answer 8

I am a little confused by your question. Books help. Seeking input from other's who have experience help. Mostly, to comfort someone you don't have to offer explanations. Just being there is comfort.

Answer 9

Perhaps you can consider buy her a book on pregnancy. That should make things clearer and easier. Best wishes.

Answer 10

Retarded explosion of senseless words? Rather like this question? Huh. WTF mate. Really, how old is your sister? How old are you? If you're so afraid of messing it up then tell your parents about it (since I'm assuming you're younger from the way you write) or a friend of hers to explain it. Or buy her a book, there are hundreds of great books on pregnancy, assuming your sister can read….