My boyfriend and I have been together for more than 10 months.
We were friends for over a year before that.
He loved me that entire time too... but I didn't love him like that.
It took me a long time to realize I enjoyed the chase and his flirtations.
He woo-ed me like no other... wrote poems and other stuff.
He always told me I'm beautiful.
Now we've been together for a while and he doesn't do that kinda stuff anymore. He has had me for a while now, so maybe that's why he wasn't like who he used to be in the beginning.. I just miss that feeling of being chased and woo-ed, you know?
I know the excitement goes away. This is just the first time I've had a serious relationship.
I don't know what I'm looking for in posting this exactly. Maybe just to hear I'm not the only one... maybe just to vent... to hear other's situations...
2006-12-21 11:44:46 · 7 answers · asked by ( Kelly ) 7 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
Do something sweet together and the feelings might come back. I know what you mean and how you feel it really stinks I know. I felt the same way for so long. Guys think that sence they got what they wanted they should just chill out. I can't fully blame them. Maybe you should do something for him you know? (and don't listen to the people making fun of you they don't know anything.) =]
2006-12-21 11:48:16 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
You owe it to yourself AND to him to talk to him about how you're feeling. You don't say how old the two of you are but I'd guess young by the fact that it's your first serious relationship. If you think this relationship is meant to lead to marriage, start out on the right foot now by not keeping your needs, desires and feelings behind a locked door. Just MAYBE he's been feeling the same way...that you don't flirt with him like you used to, or that you don't dress special for him anymore, you quit wearing that perfume that drove him up a wall, stuff like that. Communication is the most important factor in making a relationship last. And don't pay any attention to those answerers that are calling you selfish or childish. Your situation is VERY common and is a major cause of splits that didn't have to happen.
2006-12-21 20:34:50 · answer #2 · answered by nana 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There are men who love like that. They love the hunt, the chase, but not having caught. They hunt you till they get you and then they leave to go chase what they do not already have.
When you were chased, it communicated to you in a language you could understand that you were special, valued, and desired. Not being chased doesnt make you unspecial, it just means you arent "hearing" it as loudly.
A great book for this is "His needs, her needs". It provides a relational forum to get that empty spot in your heart filled back up, and your boyfriends as well. Here is a link:
http://www.amazon.com/His-Needs-Her-Affair-Proof-Marriage/dp/0800717880
Consider checking it out from your local library and reading it.
2006-12-21 19:51:28 · answer #3 · answered by Curly 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I'm afraid the wooeing and chasing doesn't continue once the 'prey' has been snared.
Other, more important matters now come into play.
For example: marriage, children, buying a home together.
It's all part of growing up.
2006-12-21 20:06:10 · answer #4 · answered by Panama Jack 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Waaaaaaah! Maybe he's tired of the whining Don't be so shallow. "I want to be chased and wooed". Grow up already.
2006-12-21 19:49:28 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 2⤋
why dont u put some spice on ur relationship by doin the chasin ur self !!
it wont hurt u u no
2006-12-21 19:48:22 · answer #6 · answered by DB9 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
its all good hun ide wear thongs around him
trust me it will work
2006-12-21 19:49:24 · answer #7 · answered by rpoker 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋