What is too young?

Question

Okay, I'm seventeen years old, i've been in a relationship for a year. I want a baby so bad. That is so wrong, i know this , im not married and im seventeen. im awful arent i? Am i way too young?

Answer 1

Yes.

1. You are not married.
2. You haven't completed your education.
3. At 17, you don't have a job that can support you; much less you & a baby.
4. You have not experienced life yet. Go and have fun, try new things, meet new people, live YOUR life. You have plenty of time left to have a baby.
5. You are not emotionally ready for a baby. Babies are cute and cuddly, but they are also very demanding. And babies can't tell you what they want/need, and that can be very frustrating.

No matter how much you think you "love" your boyfriend, very few relationships that you have at 17 will last a lifetime. Grow up first, learn what love is, get married, and have tons of kids with the man of your dreams.

Answer 2

It's great you're in relationship, however a desire for having a baby is respectively your choice, but think of the consequences before you decide to. Is it fair for the baby? Will you use your time wisely? What if your boyfriend leaves you? I suppose you wait until marraige, because then you will have the most support for your baby. I think it doesn't matter how old you are, it matters if you want the baby and if you thought about the future of the baby.
In terms of generalizing, yes you are a bit young, seventeen years old... maybe wait a year, or even better wait until you are almost done with colledge. Then again, if you have a loving, supporting family and boyfriend you will turn out succesful. I hope this would highly help you.

Answer 3

It's called a teddy bear syndrome. Lots of young girls want babies so they have something to ove and someone who will love them back unconditionally. A year into your relationship you can't be sure if this guys is ready to be a dad or if he'll stick around when you are pregnant. If you have the option don't try to get pregnant you will be resented for trapping him. I say wait until at least you finish highschool and maybe even a year or two of college (more reasonably all of it) But at that point you'd be better capable of dealing with the demands of a child and providing for one in case you do end up alone and your parents don't have to help you raise your child. But trust me at 17 you are a lot better than some cases of pregnant teens. I know a 14 year old girl with a 3 year old child. Most of the time things like that are stupidity or mistakes. You sound smart enough to know how hard it would be to take care of another life when you are just learning how to take care of yourself. Please just stay smart, I'm 22 and pregnant and I'm worried as hell about being able to provide for my child and the father is in the picture still ( we dont plan on getting married).Don't feel like a bad person it's a normal feeling. Just look at every talk show host who has the wild teens come on and say they want to get pregnant. But be glad that you aren't in the situation of giving up your life to take care of a child. They are rewards but with every great thing in life comes a whole lot of responsibility and even more hard work ( babies are not easy at all, neither are the bills of having a child), and even though you may be mature at 17 how responsible can you really be.

Answer 4

It is not about the age - the questions that you need to ask yourself are: 1. Can I provide financially and emotionally all the things that this child requires without being a burden on "anyone", that is including your parents and/or his parents?
2. Will I be able to provide a home with a mother and father, or will my child be spending most of his/her time with a baby sitter as I have to work and finish my education? 3. Do you want to show your daughter that it is acceptable for her to conceive a child out of wedlock? 4. If you are good enough to be a man's "baby mother" - why are you not good enough for him to make you his wife? 5. Would you be a proud parent if your daughter came to you at the age of 17 saying the same as you and you knowing that she has not even completed her education? 6. Will the baby's father be moving you into a home or are you counting on staying with your parents or something in that area, because of that is to be the case, then you are being a burden on them? Think of all these things - You need to give yourself a little more "importance" as a woman, the same way that you would want your own daughter to give herself. I think once you realize that you should be given that importance from this man and that you should be given "your" place as a "wife" and have an education which you can proudly make your child proud of. Remember, having a child is not all about bringing a child, anyone can do that despite the age - what you need to know if you are ready enough to become a woman and a "mother" - a mother is more than just giving birth to a child - really consider your life and hope you do what is best for you and a child... =)

Answer 5

I kinda know how you feel. I'm a little bit older than you, but still probably too young and financially unstable to provide for a kid. What I've decided to do is wait until my boyfriend and I get married (we are in college), because if you really love each other, you will wind up together, and if you're ready for a baby now, you will be even more ready, in even more ways, once you're at least out of high school and you both have jobs that pay better than minimum wage.

Good luck to you!

Answer 6

If you're living in the room you grew up in, down the hall from the great people who've given their blood, sweat and tears to get you to this point in your life, then you are an ungrateful, immature, probably spoiled little chit.

However, if you are living on your own, and have an income and a way to care for the new little life you want to create, then just possibly it might be appropriate. IF you are mature, well adjusted, healthy in mind and body, and have a support system to help you.

So, which is it? Is this a normal part of early adulthood, or the gratification of a passing whimsy that's going to cause a world of hurt for some poor, innocent little kid being haphazardly raised by an impulsive flake? Only YOU know.

Answer 7

sorry to say but it is way too young. Is it because you want to settle with your man beacuse your afraid he'll leave? or is it because you just love babies? However so, having a baby at seventeen isn't a smart decision. Your boyfriend might leave you if you have a baby, your friend and family might not respect you and you might not be able to take care of it. I hope you'll take this advice into consideration. Im glad you know that wanting a baby at seventeen is wrong. Goodluck in whatever you do.

Answer 8

Seventeen IS way to young! I had my first just after my 18th B-Day, I love him to pieces but it's been really really hard. My friend had her first while I had my second (at 26 yrs) I was much more prepared for everything as far as the baby was concerned, but she was much better prepared than I was as far as LIFE was concerned.

When my son was about a year old I would look at my friends and hear about how they were out late last Saturday, came in at 4:00am and woke up at noon... (sigh) while I was still up at 4:00am changing diapers and still had to be up at 8:00am to feed the baby and take him to the sitters so I could go to work.

Having children can be the best thing in the world, but it's best to make sure you've had a chance to live your life before you have to put your life on hold for 15 - 20 years.

Play it safe, you've still got years ahead of you, your child will happen - it's up to you to make sure it happens at the RIGHT time of your life.

Good luck

Answer 9

It depends on a lot of things. I know 17 year olds that are more responsible than some 30 year olds. I think that you should get a good education and wait a few years though. Make sure that your relationship is going to last and that you have a way to take care of the baby.

Answer 10

at seventeen you are just seeing the world as a whole and looking at this the question maybe the anwser what is too young as i have work with young adults the line im going to tell you is wait and see the world and do thing you like to do then if the person is with you around 21,22 then seat down and talk too him and if you are ready have a baby boy or girl.