I am 24 and she is 21.
2006-12-21 11:22:05 · 41 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
This is something that needs to be done right away. The longer you wait and the closer the date gets, the harder it will be. You guys sound pretty young, so it doesn't seem that unusual to decide that you no longer want to get married. Just remember, no matter how gently you try to break the news, it's going to hurt. I also once broke off an engagement and at the time he thought it was the end of the world, but now a couple of years later he agrees that it wasn't right and it wouldn't have lasted and would have been much tougher to end the marriage then the engagement. It's a tough situation to be in, but you need to deal with it sooner than later.
2006-12-21 11:28:59 · answer #1 · answered by Angela B 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You say "Sweetie pumpkin, I don't think that we should get married."
And do it quickley- or 10 years and 5 kids later, you will be sitting at tables opposite each other and trying to explain everything to a judge.
Will you hurt her feelings? Yes
Will you break her heart? Yes
Will she eventually get over it and Move on? hopefully
Will you regret getting married when you knew it was wrong? YES
Do you want to screw up your future kids lives by divorcing their mother? probably not
Look I got married when I knew that it was the wrong thing to do. I was worried about hurting him by breaking the engagment, but I wish I had. I think it would have hurt him a lot less. At least I got lucky and did not screw up any kids in the proccess. But I should have done it before I got married and saved myself and my ex the misery.
You are a big man to say how you really feel. Engagement, are just the waiting period before marriage, if you see the light during the egagement, then so be it. Since you break it off, don't expect the ring back.
Sorry you have to do this, But if you are having serious doubts it is the right thing to do.
2006-12-21 11:43:47 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Age should not matter if that is why you don't want to marry her anymore. If you don't have any interest in her or you don't think things will work out then just tell her....NOT on the wedding day....but when you are alone just tell her. Give a good reason and then ask her if she minds not marrying....yes the answer will be 'I WANT TO MARRY' but if you ask then it shows that you sill care and that you don't want there to be a fight. Tell her that you want to talk about this WITHOUT shouting...if she starts to or you do then walk away and come back later. After you (and her) calm down.
2006-12-21 11:42:14 · answer #3 · answered by thatonegirl 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Rib the band aid off, just do it. The sooner the better. The longer you wait the harder it's going to be. Plus the longer you wait the more you are both at risk financially, she may buy a dress, and start having her bridesmaids buy dresses, etc. There is no need for any of that. Sit her down and explain to her how you feel, there is no easy way to do it, just be honest with her.
2006-12-21 11:39:32 · answer #4 · answered by fortillfriday 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I am curious. I notice that you said you "didn't want to get married anymore" but you didn't say whether or not you still wanted to be with her. If it's just that you are not willing to get married right now, be honest with her and let her know. You can then see how things go and if the time becomes right, you can move forward. If you don't want to be with her anymore, you owe it to her to let her know as soon as possible.
2006-12-21 11:47:56 · answer #5 · answered by jzmn2btrfly121 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just tell her you don't want to get married anymore. The best thing to do is to face it head on and get it over with. Yes, it will more than like be an ugly ordeal, but overall it's best that you go ahead and make your feelings known. It will only be worse the longer you allow it to go on.
2006-12-21 11:25:32 · answer #6 · answered by gabound75 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Honesty is the best policy. It sounds weird but it's true. It will save you both money and a lot of heartache in the long run if you do get married. She will be hurt but will heal over time. Just be honest but do it softly and be sensitive when telling her. Good Luck
2006-12-21 11:34:18 · answer #7 · answered by Andrea D. 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Wait until after christmas to tell her because this would be the worst time to end and engagement. But you have to end it. I would tell her you thought you were ready to get married but you are feeling very uneasy and wanting to wait. It really depends if you don't want to get married anymore, or you don't want to be with her anymore.
2006-12-21 12:08:06 · answer #8 · answered by Maizy * 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
how in the world woud you tell somebody you only know for six month to married you- guys what is wrong with you just tell her you haven't make your choice yet and you my be stil on the look out she will understand it i dated my girl frien for 5 years and when i married her the first thing i told her was baby i married you because you are the women i want after all other wemen that i have dated i have come to know that you are the one i want...
2006-12-21 11:47:26 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well that a mouthfull! If you are sure that this is what you want to do then try telling her very lightly. I can imagine that this will come as a really big shock! Take her out to dinner or some where where she won't make too much of a scene is all I can say. It's a given but be as nice as possible!
2006-12-21 11:27:53 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 2⤋