If your husband has a co-worker (female) that occasionally gives him "adult" movies and then gave him one with her as the star in one of these "adult" movies would you be offended? BTW, these are professional movies not home-made.
2006-12-21 11:16:34 · 43 answers · asked by Completly in love... 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
That is WRONG on sooooo many levels!! Yes, I would be offended. Not only would I be making it clear to my husband that he is being completely inappropriate; I would also be going to have a face-to-face conversation with this skanky ho! She needs to be told to show respect for others, and a little self-respect wouldn't hurt either!
2006-12-21 11:22:47 · answer #1 · answered by who-wants-to-know 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
It really depends on the relationship of the women and the wife's personal views.
If my husband came home with a movie that was a gift from a co-worker I didn't know, I'd have been angry in the first place, let alone that starred her. But if he's been accepting them all along and the wife's been ok with it, I'd assume she knows and approves of the co-worker.
If I were the husband, I would take it home with me, hand it over to the wife and say "she gave me this movie she was *in* this time and I'm not sure whether that crossed a line ... I haven't watched it, of course, I wanted to talk with you first."
Maybe she'll be interested in seeing it with him, maybe she'll just think that it has gone too far and ask him to stop accepting the films. Either way, I doubt any blame would fall on the husband if the wife hasn't said anything before now.
Personally, if it were a co-worker I knew and liked and she was the type of person I felt could hand my husband adult movies just for the joy of sharing good quality entertainment with me and my husband, I wouldn't care if she said "and here's one I did that I'm particularly proud of." But I can't think of a co-worker that I would ever enter into that sort of friendship with.
2006-12-21 11:25:22 · answer #2 · answered by pmosiejc 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Would I be offended ?! Hell yea!! This is so inappropriate on so many levels! If this sharing of adult material is going on at the office that is out of line. Does this woman also gift other co workers with these films? I bet not! I think your husband should be more respectful of his wife and not accept any more of this woman's gifts. What if the shoe were on the other foot? Could you accept adult themed gifts from a male co worker? Could you give a man the same sort of gift? Let him know you are not stupid. This kind of behavior frequently leads people down a path they would otherwise avoid!! Good Luck!!!
2006-12-21 11:35:15 · answer #3 · answered by margie c 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's hard not to be offended in that situation, no matter how understanding of a wife you are. I've given adult movies to male friends before (normally as a joke), but I've never given them to someone that was in a serious relationship with someone else. I think that it depends on the situation that the movie was given in and what your husband's opinion on the subject is. You would also have to take into account the relationship that your husband had with this woman prior to the "gifts". Was she a really good friend? Did the relationship start with strange gifts like this? All of these things need to be taken a look at in order for you to decide the appropriateness of these gifts. Good luck.
2006-12-21 11:23:08 · answer #4 · answered by Angela B 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I would get offended because he's my husband and why is some whore giving him adult movies and with her in it. Not only would I be offended but I would be PO too. Unless your ok with your husband getting these free movies then thats cool.
2006-12-21 11:21:57 · answer #5 · answered by RUBY 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I just recently got married and if my Husband ever accepted such a gift from another woman I'd be pissed!!!!! IN fact I'd be kicking him out of the bedroom for a couple of day's, at least he'd have his new movies to keep him company LOL
2006-12-21 11:33:26 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes, definantly. She's probably trying to make a move on him. Why does your husband accept them? I don't know much about this stuff, but if I was in your shoes violence would be my answer... but that's just me...
Tell the co-worker that you don't like her hitting on your husband!
--bowski--
2006-12-21 11:23:50 · answer #7 · answered by Bowski 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Of course I would. I would have been offended when he received any kind of porn tape from another woman. Sounds like she has a thing for your husband and I'd confront her before things go any further than just swapping movies.
2006-12-21 11:19:50 · answer #8 · answered by jenny 5 · 2⤊ 1⤋
I doubt she is hitting on your husband. For her the porn business is probably a job, one she is proud of, and has the potential to make her a lot of money. Unless he is trying to lead you into a 3some with her, it is no big deal. She is probably loaning the tape to everyone at work. But you do need to tell your husband how you feel and listen very closely to his answer.
2006-12-21 11:27:58 · answer #9 · answered by lollipop 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
That's a tough one. If you've been ok with these movies then you need to decide if you trust this women... your husband is never again going to be able to look at her in the same way again... he's going to be able to see himself with her alot eaiser. the fact that they are professional makes it alittle better but it's still questionable.
2006-12-21 11:20:34 · answer #10 · answered by nosredna3 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋