i believe it is the human virtue to forgive and understand that it is god's place to forgive and your place to acknowledge this. if you be atheist then exclude the part on god
the other day i was reported by two people i hadn't even offended for writing a criticism to another person that posted. then i withdrew my question because i was sorry and felt i had been rude. i made a new question apologizing for my comment if i offended anyone and those two individuals wrote to me...one said i was playing the role of martyr and wasnt really sorry
and the other said she was reporting me again for insult to injury!
is this right? shouldn't a person's apology be respected. it hurt me deeply because i dont even find it my place to forgive or punish and someone can accuse me of being insincere without even knowing me...i hadn't even used any vulgar language
if it isnt in human nature to forgive i am deeply aggrieved and this occurrence really shook me.
please reply seriously.
2006-12-21 11:12:02 · 10 answers · asked by Anonymous in Social Science ➔ Psychology
gandhi said the eye for an eye quote...i worship his philosophy
and i totally agree with saying a prayer for those who accuse you..maybe they were having a bad dayand you became the medium for them to vent out their negativity at the time
2006-12-21 11:27:12 · update #1
My Dear, Although God will be our final judge, it's still our place to be forgiving of others.
I am sorry that you feel so hurt, but we have to expect criticism when we are brave enough to post a question. I think you did the right thing, by withdrawing your question and trying to make it right. You know in your heart, that you did the right thing. I have seen a lot of question on here that were offensive, and never withdrawn or apologized for.
Just enjoy the overall benefits from Yahoo Answers. Remember, that we can't please everyone, in any situation.
Merry Christmas and Happy New Year.
2006-12-21 11:29:19 · answer #1 · answered by kayboff 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Calm down. It is okay. I feel that those two people are really immature. Please do not worry about that and just carry on with your life happily... do some meditation and deep breathing and when you exhale, just try to let go of the pain you are experiencing. I am sure you will be fine. The more you put your mind on that matter, the more aggitated and aggrieved you will feel.
My mother always says that just because a dog bites you, it does not make sense to bite it back. Think about it.
2006-12-21 12:10:55 · answer #2 · answered by SP 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Karma. You attract in life what you are. Homes, cars, people, circumstances, etc. In this case it was a person who came back at you with the same attitude you may have dished out. Now that you have apologized you have let it go. You have no control over the other person's Karma. You can however lift yourself to a higher level by understanding why they may have done it and the domino effect behaviors play in life.
2006-12-21 11:58:48 · answer #3 · answered by skycat 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I believe that everyone should get a second chance. If you apologized then it would be over and done with. If it happened again, then I might not be so kind as to except your apology.
But I do feel they were wrong, and not very mature that they could not take care of this by themselves, instead of reporting you. But there are all kinds of people in this world. As long as you know, that it was not done with malice, then don't let it get to you. Instead say a prayer for them.
2006-12-21 11:23:06 · answer #4 · answered by lennie 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I think people now are always looking to confront someone. I believe people are too sensitive now. What ever happend to dialogue? Constructive Criticism?
Not to mention, I have people complain that others say "I am sorry" TOO OFTEN....
I am one who believes I will wrong people in my life and there is nothing I can do about it. When I do, and I realize it, I say my peace and move on. If they want to dwell on it, that is their problem! We really are becoming a "Prozac Nation"
2006-12-21 11:36:12 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
my grandfather gave me this advice once, and I'd like to share it on to you. There are 3 parts in this world, my part, God's part and other peoples part. We are only responsible for our part, you have said you are sorry, you have fulfilled your "part". God is always faithful to do His part (thus if one has asked he/she is forgiven). The last part is the most frustrating because we cannot control it, other people's part... there is no rule stating anywhere that others have to accept our apology.. know that you have apologized and have done the right thing, its not your responsibility to how others respond to it. Chin up! :-)
2006-12-21 11:28:58 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I agree with u 100%...I read a quote somewhere that said "an eye for an eye would leave the whole world blind"...i dnt remember the source though, but isn't that so true?
2006-12-21 11:18:43 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
Sometimes people can be nasty regardless of apologizing. I think we have all been in that boat at one time or another. And as for offending people, it happens all too much. I think, we, as a civilized online culture, thrive on be offended.
2006-12-21 11:21:16 · answer #8 · answered by P W 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Forgiveness is something you do for your own benefit. Holding a grudge only hurts yourself, it does nothing to the people you are angry with. You forgive to set yourself free from the load of hatred you are under.
2006-12-21 13:15:55 · answer #9 · answered by irongrama 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well if you really tried to apologize and they give you grief then it's not your fault anymore. Their just plain stubborn. Stubborn people are annoying and immature. Selfish too I might add.
2006-12-21 12:25:47 · answer #10 · answered by sweet 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋