…why do they intentionally hurt their partner??…why do they betray their partner??..if they say that they love them!!!….....why they cause pain to their partner??........why they make their partner cry??..if they say that they care for them!!!.....why they force their partner to do things that htey themselves can never do??.....why they call their partner a traitor??..if they themselves betray them???.....why they think that it`s thier right to abuse their partner??..why don`t they care for their partner`s feelings and treat them as a trash??..if they know how hurtful it is if it happens to their own sisters .....why why..why..why??????????????????
2006-12-21 11:10:03 · 7 answers · asked by Neetz n 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
i`d appreciate wise and practical replies...thanks!
2006-12-21 11:29:35 · update #1
Not everyone takes marriage vows lightly. I agree, a lot of people plan more for their wedding than they plan for their marriage. Some people just don't care that they cause pain, betray, abuse and treat them as trash. If you're in a relationship like that realize that people like that generally don't change.
2006-12-21 11:13:36 · answer #1 · answered by katydid 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Because the person allows it to continue. They do not stand-up for themselves. It is also a possibility that this person was emotinally scarred when young by a parent or saw how the dad treated the mom and thought it was normal behavior. Alot of situations like this stem from a controlling person that has to have there way all the time. If they don't get there way they will hurt them physically and emotionally like cheating, they may even go as far as raping there partner to get what they desire. Mainly men of course when they are like this they only care about themselves they do not care about others they tend to be anti-social, and hurt everyone around them intentionally. These sorts of people get married because they figure they will have more control over the women/man if they cant just walk away. Forcing someone to do stuff they wont is just another form of them
controlling the other person. Remember this personality is usually deep in the person sub-concious to them they think they are doing nothing wrong. This behavior can also escalate to the
point of murder or serious abuse of spouse and even children if involved.
2006-12-21 19:20:02 · answer #2 · answered by Livinrawguy 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why do people marry people who betray them? Why do they choose to stay with someone who abuses them? Why do they not demand respect in the relationship? Why do they allow their partner to treat them as trash?
You see, these questions can be posed both ways. Answer them from your perspective, and you will have part of the answer. We choose our partners ourselves, no one forces us to do it. They make their choices, we make ours. The responsibility is on both partners 50/50 for things gone wrong. It is never just "their" fault, it is also our own. Wake up.
2006-12-21 19:19:45 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
you appear to have been taken for granted in your mariage. People often change their behaviour towards you and start treating you like a trash when they don`t love you...when they don`t want to be with you..As love never hurts and you appear to have been emotionally hurt to a large degree. There might have been a third person involved in your marriage and your partner seems to be taking advantage of your love. Trust me , no one deserves to be treated like that in any situation, for any reason and if this continues to happen, you should walk out.
2006-12-22 13:00:44 · answer #4 · answered by banty 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Dude someone must have hurt u bad! But people break their vows etc because in my opinion people are in love with the idea of being married instead of actually being in love with the person they married.
2006-12-21 19:19:55 · answer #5 · answered by naya w 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Aren't you just supposed to ask one question?
Anyway, that's just what some people are like. All anyone can do is work on themself, make themself a better person, and have the confidence to keep away from someone who is going to hurt them.
2006-12-21 19:17:22 · answer #6 · answered by helly 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
welll I have taken such vows without knowing what they meant... what can I say? We have illusions that we think to be real.
We dont see how many bad features we have and our partner has as well. When we find out it is too late.
2006-12-21 19:18:57 · answer #7 · answered by Graça 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋