I work full time I am 6 months pregnent! I also have a 4 year old and 2 dogs I am haveing the hardest time tring to clean my house. It has gotten so bad that I cry when I come home from work! How do I find time to clean with all that I have to do! I work second shift and being 6 months pregnent dosent help I have no energy I am not a nasty person but I cant seem to keep my house clean! Please help with some tips to make it easer on me if I wasnt pregnent it wouldnt be so hard I would have more energy to do things! To top it off My husband will not do anything tell I start yelling at him to help!! WHAT DO I DO??????????
2006-12-21 11:07:48 · 14 answers · asked by alizaboo19 1 in Home & Garden ➔ Cleaning & Laundry
Tell your husband that since he cant help, then he can pay to have someone come in to do it for you. Tell him that I said that is inconsiderate of him. If hes like most men, if it was him in your shoes, he'd be whining and crying and in bed most of the day. lol I hope you find some help. I would help if you lived near me.!!
2006-12-21 11:18:00 · answer #1 · answered by pebbles 6 · 3⤊ 0⤋
I truly know how you feel. I am 5months pregnant with a 2 year old and a husband. I was having those issues about coming home and cooking. I had to put my foot down. I told my husband he has to help I can't do it alone we had a real serious talk and he agreed to help. So I try to clean the house really good on Saturday and then I have my husband organizes his things and pick up his mess. And I go from there, I try to leave as much as I can prepared for the next day. Like the food, lunches and clothes. The baby she just leaves her toys all over the place it is a matter of organizing her things and showing her to put things back at the end of day. With a kid you will never fully have a super clean house and especially if you have a lazy husband (like mine), so don't pull your hairs out. Relax and after the baby is born things will change. For energy take your vitamins and exercise. And theres food that can help boost energy. Good Luck. Hang in there, I am.
2006-12-21 11:24:44 · answer #2 · answered by Jes 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Your husband is very inconsiderate to say the least. In my house it was 50/50. You need to sit him down and let him know that you can't stand the dirt and he needs to help. If you cry, he must know how upsetting this is for you, this is so terrible to think about, I just could slap him.
I suggest you get most of your stuff that's on the counter in the kitchen behind the doors. Take a day after the holidays and sort out what you use all the time, the rest behind closed doors. I do one load of laundry a day, to me it's easier then doing 2 or 3 loads and you will have it put away in no time. Your husband can do the vacuum and you do the dusting. Take your 6 year old and ask him to help mommy, he can put his laundry and things away, just teach him, also teach him to make his bed, mine were doing them since they are 5 years old.And they had to clean the bathroom too, not the toilet but they had to hang the towels after their bath, put the toothpaste and brush away, I expected the counters to be clean. My philosophy is, if you're old enough to make yourself a sandwich etc, you're old enough to clean up afterwards. Tell your husband that he's old enough to help.
The main thing is get rid of the clutter, before you go to bed, gather the paper and put into recycle bin, your 6 year old needs to put all his toys away, better tell your husband to gather up his stuff and put into appropiate place, then the room will look right away cleaner, even if you haven't dusted.
I wish you good Luck and hope your husband wakes up.
2006-12-21 11:22:41 · answer #3 · answered by Mightymo 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
First, take a deep breath.... Now, the health of your unborn baby is WAY more important the state of your house. There will always be times when your house is messy and other times when it's not. Figure out what is bothering you the most about the state of your house (ie: dishes in the sink, laundry, clutter, etc.) Take one thing at a time. If your husband won't help then you need to stop doing his stuff. He can take care of his own laundry and his own cooking. Paper plates will help with dishes. With a 4yo and dogs, you can't expect the house to be neat, so just concentrate on the cleaning part. This is also a pretty hectic time of year and one with lots of extra clutter. There is also a great website that helps to give direction in this area: www.flylady.net
Take care of yourself and your baby!
2006-12-21 11:19:41 · answer #4 · answered by jmnrincks 2 · 3⤊ 0⤋
everyone goes thru that---you just have to figure out what needs cleaning the most--for me I picked the kitchen & bathroom as a must do every day or every other day. laundry fell behind but I made sure me & the kids had clean clothes everyday---hub had to wash his own--sometimes when the mountain of laundry got too big he would pitch in & do a few loads. you gotta accept that as a young family you really don't need a show home. It's not the end of the world if the jar of peanut butter finds a new home on the counter instead of the cupboard or if there's toast crumbs on the counter all day.
My boys are 18, 14 & 12--- I sometimes really hate my kitchen & living room cuz no-one picks up after themselves & we all use the kitchen table as a drops all. We recently got a puppy--this helped me actually---no-one leaves anything on the floor anymore cuz she will destroy it lol. cheer up, your not alone
2006-12-21 11:21:53 · answer #5 · answered by cheezy 6 · 3⤊ 0⤋
you have to do the same thing to your husband that you do to your kids. Praise them like crazy when they do something good and they will want to do more. Find one thing that he does- even if it is putting on his PJ's and praise him. Find another thing and praise him again. You will get him to move a whole lot more when he thinks he is your knight in shining armour. I know- I have tried this and it works. Nagging never helps. Going on strike does not work- I tried that too. Telling him how much you appreciate those big strong muscles that do the laundry really works. Telling him that you get turned on when he does the dishes helps- then carry thru and seduce him.
This is a WWDLS? What Would Dr Laura Say?She would say to read the proper care and feeding of husbands.
2006-12-21 11:58:21 · answer #6 · answered by northville 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to sit down calmly and have a serious conversation with your husband about his responsibilities. You do not need to be stressing out and doing heavy housework at six months pregnant. I suggest that you hire someone. You may have to scrimp on things, but you will be so much happier. If you have a mother or mother in law, I would ask for help from them if possible.
2006-12-21 11:19:54 · answer #7 · answered by cb 2 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Tell your husband that you're going to have to cut your hours or quit your job unless he starts helping with the household chores. Marriage is a partnership. If he expects you to work a full time job then he needs to be willing to help keep his own home clean.
2006-12-21 11:14:35 · answer #8 · answered by annie 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Tell your hubby that u gave your 2 week notice at work. Just tell him that you already have a job...taking care of a 4 yr. old and cleaning house. Just say....You don't mind do you? Let him think about THAT for awhile!!
2006-12-21 11:46:11 · answer #9 · answered by mare 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hubbie needs to grow up, Its his responsibility around the house also, Tell him to get off his *** and get to work, I have helped my wife for 40+ years and prod to do it.I worked sometimes 7 days a week up to 12 hours a day, so he don't have excuse but laziness
2006-12-21 13:23:36 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 0⤋