My best friend came to viist for th efirst time since we got married over a year ago. h ecame over from scotland, to North Carolina for a week. My wife (wh i have been involved with for around 5 years) has said she has had a crush on him, which is fine, he kinda looks like Ewan McGregor so i didnt mind a crush, He alwasy says he considered her a new great friend. Well the week he was here....They i found out would be up at the night talking etc while i was asleep and i found out 2-3 nights in after some drinks, thus i said ok just keep it to talking, Didnt want to come between friendships and be a a**. Then i found out later on as i felt more and more insulated that they had kissed and hugged alot. this cut me but i again said OK.He left and they she was calling him daily while i was asleep. and after arguments andquestions over time i have found out, they 'love each other' they want each other and not me and they had sex together which kills me, He is like a brother, I'm not perfct
2006-12-21 11:05:11 · 10 answers · asked by graphicalg 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
No one is perfect but no one deserves to be treated like you were treated. Your wife and "best friend" acted like a couple of adolescents. Maybe they have found "true love", maybe not. Either way, you need to consider whether you want to spend the rest of your life with a woman who will not only cheat on you but cheat on you with your best friend. I bet you could do better!
2006-12-21 11:10:06 · answer #1 · answered by katydid 7 · 3⤊ 0⤋
there is nothing more hurtful than to be betrayed by wife, but best friend at the same time. unfortunately there is not much to be done about it, but let it be, and accept it, hurtful as it is. she has done u a major injustice, and sometimes in life troubles come, it is more about how we handle it than what happened. just get out of it as dignified as u can, the hurt will take time to get past, just be good to yourself, and don't blame yourself over it. get some help through a trusted friend, or someone in the clergy. as it may be hard to get past this all by yourself. bad things do happen to good people, sometimes there is no closure, no reason for it. we do have to see it for what it is and accept it, and just let that person go, as painful as it is.
2006-12-21 11:16:16 · answer #2 · answered by jude 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I imagine that this must be a terrible thing for you. But, you will not find the proper answers here on the web. You are going to have to follow your own heart AND your instincts. Maybe talk to another trusted friend or maybe someone from your church for advice. Another thing, he is not like your brother because he wants your wife!
2006-12-21 11:26:07 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Boy, that hurts!!!!!!! Right now you could kick the guy out of your house,for sure, then see if you can get your marriage back together again. But it willlbe more than two years in counselling before you can repair betrayal, and that is if both of you wish to save it..... I'm sorry for you.... Been there, hon. Not pleasant. If you want some ideas, write.
2006-12-21 11:16:38 · answer #4 · answered by April 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You seem like anice guy. Let your wife go, divorce her, and forgive both your best friend and her, and wish them well. You have nothing to gain by throwing away a friendship.
In the long run they will both be grateful to you for your compassion adn understanding and, it will make a hell of a story for the grandkids, theirs and yours. Hopefully they will play with eachother and you will all be glad things worked out the way they did.
2006-12-21 11:24:22 · answer #5 · answered by Liligirl 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Divorce her! They have both betrayed you,
and if she dosen't want to stay with you, forget her.
No one is worth it. Your friend dosen't sound like much of
a friend. This may be extremely painful, but you'll be
better off without either of them. So pick your life up,
and move on to someone better. This might be a blessing
in disguise, and there could be someone out there waiting for
you. Good Luck.
2006-12-21 11:12:58 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
(((hugs))) This is the ultimate betrayal and it's selfish and self centered. I'm sooo sorry this happened to you. There is nothing you can do as sounds like they've decided so let them have each other and know that karma exists. You deserve better. Peace :-)
2006-12-21 13:56:40 · answer #7 · answered by me 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
With a wife and best friend like that who needs enemies.
2006-12-21 11:10:51 · answer #8 · answered by snack_daddy10 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Get a new wife and new best friend
2006-12-21 11:08:41 · answer #9 · answered by coons69 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Just about all you can do get a DIVORCE, that is just about all you can do, she wants him, so set her free, finds you someone else because she AIN"T coming back.
2006-12-21 11:11:10 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋