How do you deal with being lonely?

Question

I don't deal with it very well. I spend too much time reading, watching tv, and talking on the phone instead of cooking good meals and cleaning. I love cooking and cleaning with someone else around but doing those things by myself makes me feel even lonelier. Therefore, I have a boring diet and my house is quite messy. Most people don't know how lonely I feel because I am fine when I am at work, with friends, or out and about. The lonliness at home is a problem because I am pretty depressed when I am at home alone. If I could get over it, I am sure I could be much more productive at home.

Answer 1

I think if you take the time to clean the house and make it part of your routine (do it before you read or watch tv or hop on the computer) you'll feel much better and you'll have your place so tidy it will only take a few minutes each day to keep it that way. You'll feel better when it is. And learn to appreciate yourself and treat yourself well by cooking things for you that you would love to be cooking for someone else. It sounds like you have activities you enjoy, so I think you just need to get used to enjoying your own company and not feeling guilty for not getting things done. I might suggest if it's possible to maybe get a pet. They have a way of filling your house up and taking you out of yourself and forcing you to get active. No matter what, learn to appreciate your "alone" time. It's precious!

Answer 2

Yes that is most of us unmarried people. Number one don't feel bad about the house being messy it is great messing up the house and not having to clean it. That will change if you get married. So enjoy it now before some one starts getting on your back about it. As for your diet when you have a family you will wish you could still eat California Kitchen pizza every night. So who cares. Go and get some awesome tea and coffee then you can at least not feel too guilty about what goes in your mouth. As for coping with the loneliness it's self that is much easier. You need a project to tweek on. When I say tweek I am not suggesting you go get high and work on something and ruin your life. I mean get a project that is easy and fun and can be done in a few hours no more. Like making a collage, decopaging or something that you think looks cool. Then you will feel good about how you spent your time and it will be fun. You don't need anyone else to do that and it is almost better with no one to bother you. Plus when you read it just intensifies the loneliness because of course no one in the book is lonely. But if you are going to read go out and get the true story Malika Oufkir called " stolen lives" or another book by some one else called " the weavers rug". You will definately not feel lonely when you read those.

Answer 3

I love my own company. I'm around people all flipping day. For me it's a real treat to be all by myself. However, that didn't answer your question. Maybe if you are aloud to have pets where you live that would help. I just love my big old stupid dog. I often think he suffers from loneliness because he follows me everywhere. Call FAMILY. Nothing could make you feel better than to chat with a family member. Enroll in a class of your interest and be with people that share your interest. You just need to be more creative. Reach for people or they will never find you. And be persistent. Continue trying until you are recognized.

Answer 4

Well, just know that you're not "alone" on the feeling of loneliness. Millions of people all over the world feel alone. Just try your best to stay connected to other people. You never know when you might meet your future husband or new best friend. Get connected to people at your work and try to get something set up to hang out with them or something. Connect with family if you have it. Try MySpace or some other networking site to get connected to other individuals in the same situation you are, because there are MANY. If all else fails, take comfort in your own self and being, and get something to take care of (whether it be a pet of some sort, or something).

Answer 5

I say that maybe you should consider getting a pet of some kind. It made me feel better. I got a cat, but you can get a dog or a parrot type bird. Something with personality. What's great about having a pet is the unconditional love you get. They don't talk back. They don't walk out on you. They don't cheat on you. And they are always happy to see you when you get home. I don't think my child acts as happy as my cat does. If all else fails then a night out on the town with the girls would be nice.

Answer 6

Being alone at home is a bonus for me. I cook for myself and keep my space quite tidy because I live here and there is no one in my life of greater importance than me. I love to cook and cooking for myself gives me a great opportunity to try new dishes without using friends as guinea pigs. Of course being alone can be depressing, if you let it. I have so many people to deal with at work that being alone at home is really wonderful. It is my me time and I love it. If you would like a time killer that is also productive, try writing short stories with your computer. I wrote several short stories and 4 of them are being expanded into novels, 2 of which are under consideration for publication by a major publishing house. NO, I never took a single writing class other than what I had to in college, I hated to write then, but love it now.

Answer 7

Who knew you could run into romance while taking care of errands? Be sure you don't get so caught up in the hustle and bustle that you miss the smile a cute stranger is sending your way. Stay alert as you take care of business , why don't you meet me on yahoo 360 and we can take our time to discuss this further and there's many more people there too! just click on my picture and then on the 360 button , and I may not be who you want to talk to but there many more you'll be able to find , anyways stop by and say hi and if you need help building just ask ...

Answer 8

So true. My husband works at night from 9pm until 5.30am, and I sit up all night until he gets home. My appetite seems to increase during that time.

As far as cooking...yea, when he's home I'll cook a seven-course meal. But when I'm by myself it's Stoffers and Marie Calenders.

Answer 9

After I learned to be my own best friend, the problem disappeared. That also makes you much more attractive to the kind of people you will enjoy being with, and vice versa.

And consider this- Which is worse for you- being alone, or being with somebody and wishing you were alone?

Answer 10

I tend to try new hobbies and do the things I love that don't require anyones company, or I travel and meet new people in different towns, states and countries.
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